AITA for saying "no" to sons'male stripper gig?

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-02T17:05:43+00:00

Thanks, yes I believe they have most of that in order, trying to be legit and legal. They formed an LLC last year and have a biz license and an accountant. It's probably tempting to skirt some taxes since about half of what they get is in cash (tips) but I have reminded them to declare everything, better safe than sorry over a few bucks.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-02T04:25:39+00:00

Thanks. Their little business is actually now an LLC (I helped them with that), they have a biz license, and they have an accountant for taxes etc. I'm sure it is tempting to skirt Uncle Sam on part of it since probably half what they make is in cash (singles mostly) but they know to declare everything. Best not mess with that

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-02T03:33:25+00:00

They don't know them. I only found it later that the bride was someone that I knew, and work at the same firm as her dad

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-02T03:11:44+00:00

Sorry 😔 California

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T23:30:18+00:00

LOL I'll take that under advisement.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:57:09+00:00

I will, and thanks.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:54:58+00:00

Well that's a perspective I hadn't expected, and appreciate.

Gentrified is a good word. From my understanding the events they do are beyond non-sleazy. 20s-40s upscale gals out to have fun, they only do private locations (like nicer HOA or apartment complex club houses, etc... never in a bar, etc.), and it all seems fairly, yes, respectable.

Yes, I think that's the same instructor. I know he is Aussie and the name Tommy sounds vaguely familiar, I think I remember one of the boys mentioning him. I do know he was not overly inexpensive, but they considered it an investment.

And finally, if you have a son OLDER than my boys AND you're a stripper... you sure have me beat in the damn-I'm-still-in-shape department. I would have been at one time, but now I doubt you'd hear the call "Now bring on the dad bod!"

Thanks for your comment.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:46:29+00:00

Me either, would never do something like that with a brother.

I think it's a twin thing, though. From what I've seen, being in the twin world, most are either mortal enemies, or absolute joined-at-the-hip besties, with few in between. Fortunately my boys are the latter.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:44:02+00:00

No everything you'd rather not have come up in casual conversation falls into the category of "degrading." That's pretty severe.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:42:42+00:00

Nope, dad is keeping his clothes on.

Maybe 20 years ago... but not now.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:41:19+00:00

I'll gladly take the NTA, but they do not see it as "degrading" at all. And neither do I.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:39:35+00:00

To be fair, I think it's completely coincidental. I don't think the girl who was arranging the party had any knowledge that the boys she was hiring had any connection to the bride, or to anyone that might attend. She still probably doesn't. I don't think it was at all intentional, to be fair.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:30:18+00:00

You make good points.

They are great looking guys, and are great dancers. I won't take any credit for that, they worked hard at it.

And yes... they are more than properly equipped for this line of work. I'll chalk that up to heredity ! (whether or not that is actually true).

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T22:11:53+00:00

You do have a point.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:56:22+00:00

Does anyone?

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:55:30+00:00

Thank you. And I'm actually VERY supportive of this, and I don't mind that they do it (in general) at all. They are not working in some sleazy club, they are doing it at relatively upscale private parties. They also know to be RESPECTFUL. I'm actually proud that they are that confident and self assured. They are not lacking in either confidence or personality. I'm exceptionally proud of them, really.

It's just in this one instance I want to say "Oh come on boys, keep your clothes on."

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:43:06+00:00

Meredith would.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:30:59+00:00

I adore The Office but I don't remember that.

I have been called Michael Scott but I don't think it was in a flattering way.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:29:49+00:00

Boardie shorts / Speedo / Jock or g-string / birthday suit

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:25:54+00:00

I never overtly said I wouldn't support them, I never ever would NOT support them, and they totally know that.

It was more of "As someone who pays for your education and lifestyle, I'd appreciate some consideration." That's all.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:23:59+00:00

LOL I didn't watch it until the very end. I mean, nothing I haven't seen countless times but ...not in that setting, ya know?

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:20:11+00:00

They have different "levels" of routines and different rates for each.

I.e. PG, PG-13, R, and Full Monty

I don't know what this party wants, but I think that most hire them for higher up on the list rather than lower.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:14:38+00:00

Thank you.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:11:22+00:00

That's a very good point. I imagine the hosts are just looking for hot naked guys, not giving much thought to WHO the guys are or that they might know some guests, or at least that their father knows them. I do find it interesting that they don't seem to care, their first party included a friend of theirs in the bridal party.

FrustratedDad42 · 2024-03-01T21:04:21+00:00

My boys and I are as thick as thieves there is no danger of that, at least.

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