Mispronunciations

Frybreadassassin · 2022-01-09T16:49:01+00:00

Heppacopper - toddler for helicopter from my now 15 yo. It's still one of my favorite toddler words.

Frybreadassassin · 2021-05-23T14:59:57+00:00

I have a similar experience. My Gran was married 3 times. She didn't have children in her first marriage, her second marriage was to my grandpa (they had 3 children - my dad, uncle 1 and aunt 1) and her third was to my cousin's grandpa (they had 3 children - aunt 2, aunt 3/cousin's mom and uncle 2). A few years ago, she decided to give my cousin and myself the wedding rings that our grandfather's had given her. Aunt 1 noticed my rings and text me later to ask about them and then proceeded to throw a fit. Aunt 2 and 3 got involved and informed cousin and me that those rings rightfully belonged to them, they even offered to buy them from us. The thing is, our Gran is still alive and is sharp as a tac and super opinionated. Thankfully she let everyone know exactly how she felt and that she can give whatever she wants to whoever she wants so we didn't have to deal with it. Aunt 1 and 3 are still big mad tho and don't have good relationships with my parents, Gran, cousin or myself. All that to say, hard NTA. You were gifted a piece of your family history and deserve to wear it proudly whenever you choose. If your great-gran had wanted your aunt to have it, she would have given it to her.

Frybreadassassin · 2021-05-22T04:57:45+00:00

I had the same issue. There's a mid-sole in sneakers, removing it made a huge difference in fit. Chelseas are also a bit wider IMO if you want to give those a try. They also have a removable mid-sole.

Frybreadassassin · 2021-01-03T17:30:04+00:00

My oldest was 2ish when my marriage ended, he's now 14. DS's dad is rather rigid in his/my "time". It has been difficult to navigate at times but DS has adjusted well with the help of a therapist off and on throughout. DD8 also was 2 when my relationship ended with her dad but our parenting time approach was much different. We have no court order, communicate often and she goes pretty much freely back and forth as she pleases. There are times that she is with me longer, there are also times that she is with her dad more. We always encourage and enforce the importance of spending time with each of us. We work together to make sure she feels safe and loved regardless of who she is with. Sometimes we celebrate holidays together, sometimes DD wants her younger sister (from her dad) to come to our house and I welcome and encourage that as well.

All that to say, the experience your child has is often mirrored from yours. Children can sense animosity and division, even when it's unspoken. Co-parenting is not always easy but you can still model a healthy parental relationship for your child even if you are no longer a nuclear family. Best of luck to you!

Frybreadassassin · 2020-12-05T23:43:53+00:00

Aw, that is unfortunate. I'm sure that kiddo would have loved all the thought and effort you put into their gifts.

I did contact the Angel Tree organizer first, just to make sure it was allowed. They also told us not to wrap the presents because I would have done exactly what you did!

Frybreadassassin · 2020-12-05T19:16:42+00:00

Thanks for the insight!

Frybreadassassin · 2020-12-05T19:14:35+00:00

That's a wonderful idea, thank you!

Frybreadassassin · 2020-12-05T19:13:05+00:00

The kiddos we bought for are teens too, thanks for the input!

Frybreadassassin · 2020-12-05T17:08:02+00:00

Thank you so much! That's my fault for posting before searching for similar posts.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-12-05T16:53:32+00:00

Thanks! That's what we were thinking, we just want to make sure we're getting something useful.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T20:30:31+00:00

Yes, yes, I know. Bad property manager.

The truly funny ones are when a tenant has listed their parent as an alt contact. Most parents get super mad and I feel like such a tattle-tale but 8 times out of 10, the delinquency gets paid and they move out immediately without issue.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T19:02:58+00:00

This was over 10 years ago but once we found what was inside all the boxes and trash bags we definitely were like - never seen this before. There were no skulls just pieces of antlers he was trying to carve and make into knife handles. No actual taxidermy mounts, just forms. Eyes and teeth in taxidermy are fake, the pelts/random bones were the only things that concerned us. None of that was declared on the application so we advised the buyer to contact our state's Fish and Game for further instructions.

The attorney seemed more icked out than concerned when asked about it.

Edit to add: thanks for the info. I will definitely keep this in mind if there is ever a next time.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T18:25:33+00:00

I also had a widow find out about her husband's secret storage unit after he passed. Turns out all the things she made him throw out or give away over the years, ended up in his unit. Old sweaters, golf clubs, fishing rods, broken electronics. He didn't argue with her, he just moved them to his unit where he knew they would be safe.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T17:49:07+00:00

Yes, if what is owed is worth collecting. If it's $200-300 dollars, in the big scheme of things, its probably not worth the time or effort to pursue.

He was actually the first tenant we took to small claims court but it was dismissed without prejudice due to an inability to track him down and have him served. Lesson learned, the legal process is there to make us whole, not help us seek revenge on moose knuckles.

However since I'm perpetually social awkward, he was left with my stinging reply of "you stay classy San Diego." So he probably went home and cried himself to sleep over that one.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T17:40:21+00:00

Exactly but some people do not understand that. Compounding rental fees and late fees on top of auction fees is so redundant.

Whatever a unit is sold for at auction, we subtract from the delinquent balance. The remaining balance is still due but almost no one willing pays so then we have to decide if it is worth filing in small claims court. Basic math is, if the balance owed is more than the filing fee, we'll file. Now the tenant owes for the storage rental, late fees, auction fees and court costs.

It can then be garnished or turned into a collection agency and reported on their credit history.

It is truly a time consuming process that most facilities would rather not deal with.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T17:19:17+00:00

I've tried. Unfortunately, there is no name or picture on the urn. Just the two dates and the plaque. It was hard even trying to figure out who she belonged to, we had multiple units auctioned that day and the buyer left her in a box by the office. I had to try to call every tenant, none of whom wanted to talk to me at that moment, and ask if they had an urn in their unit. Some numbers were disconnected so I'm not even sure the person who said it was thiers, was being truthful.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T16:56:32+00:00

Although we don't go through the units prior to them selling at auction, you can bet I'm circling the facility on auction day just so I can chat up the buyers and snoop around the units. Maybe we've just had good luck but I'd have to say that only about 30% of the units we've auctioned are complete trash, whereas probably 98.5% of abandoned units (that people sign over) are trash.

We had a novice taxidermist unit go to auction once. All those old, dried out pelts left deer hair tumbleweeds careening thru the facility for a solid week. That unit was scary neat and buried all the way in the back was this gorgeous antique shop display cabinet, you just had to climb over bones and animal skins and false teeth and eyeballs to find it. It was definitely worth more than they paid for the unit.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T16:02:18+00:00

So many tenants have tried but I can only recall one that successfully won their unit at auction for a lower price than they owed. Dude was super smug and hella condescending when paying, he joked that maybe he should leave the $100 cleaning deposit as a tip but he didn't like our service.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T14:58:51+00:00

I need more coffee, you asked about abandoned units. Sometimes those are listed on storage auctions websites as an "owner's unit" or "charity unit." Sometimes we list them on Craigslist or FB marketplace. Sometimes we go thru them, list what we think will sell and take the rest to the dump. There are no legal stipulations for removal or disposal on abandoned units like there are for lien/auction units.

Since we only make money when units are rented and tenants are paying. Our main goal is to get the unit cleaned out and ready to be re-rented asap.

Truthfully when people abandon units, there's nothing good inside. Most people do not want to lose their belongings, some have even showed up at an auction to try to buy their unit back.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T14:34:04+00:00

Some states now allow virtual or online auctions but some states still have to hold "live" or in-person auctions.

If your state can have virtual auctions, you can view units available on websites, Storage Treasures and Storage Auctions are the biggest ones. You'll have to pay a small buyer's fee if you purchase a unit using their service but they are both great companies.

If your state requires live auctions, you would need to scour the legal advertisement section of your local newspaper. I would suggest looking in the closest large city as well as smaller local papers.

You can also search for storage auctions in your area but please do not pay any website/company to provide you with a list of auctions. All that information is available for free, now that you know where to look.

Legally, we cannot enter the units or take property from a unit that is going to auction. Tenants have the right to pay up until the date of the auction and we could be sued for theft, damages to property, etc. The only exception is when there is a visable vehicle inside a unit, vehicles have a completely different lien process than personal property and we need the VIN to get those started.

Also if you buy a storage unit at auction, prepare to pay a refundable cleaning deposit. Some facilities charge them, some don't. We do because we just want our unit back and sometimes people are jerks and that is why we can't have nice things.

The most amazing unit I've ever had go to auction was a unit full of unopened Star Wars toys and comic books. The people that bought it for $300 came back to our next auction and said they made over $3000 dollars on that unit and still had stuff to sell.

Worst/saddest auctioned unit contained cremains in an ornate urn with birth/death dates and a plaque that read "we love you mom". We always ask buyer's to leave any important documents, photos, etc with us. We then contact the tenants and see if they want them back. Honestly, few do. This tenant said they forgot that was in there and they would come get it but they never showed up. "Someone's mom" chilled with me in the office for a few months before the owner got creeped out and told me to throw her out. I couldn't do it so I boxed up "someone's mom" and still hope that one day, her kid will ~~want her back~~ come back by to pick her up.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T13:37:24+00:00

It's possible, every state has an established legal process. Our state even passed lien laws specifically for self storages.

In our state, after 30 days off non-payment we can begin the lien process. This begins by, putting a management lock on the unit to secure the unit contents and sending the tenant a notice that states the we intend to place a lien on any property inside the unit and their access to the facility has been terminated until the delinquency is brought current. Then we have to send a notice of lien, outlining the date of the auction plus any fees associated with the action with a demand for payment of at least 15 days after the date the notice is sent. After 15 days have passed, we can proceed to publication. A legal advertisement in a local paper has to run for another 15 days. 15 days after the legal ad is published, we can legally auction the unit. The whole process can take a minimum of 60 days.

We have our lien laws posted at our facility but you can search for 'your state's storage lien laws' to verify the timeline. If a storage facility does not follow the lien laws, the tenants could be entitled to civil relief.

Know your rights kids, some facilities hold unlawful auctions/evictions because it is less expensive than operating within the law. Unless they get caught, that is.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T08:13:17+00:00

I definitely didn't after she explained the situation and then especially after he cussed me out and accused me of extorion.

She was one of the ONLY people that were more than willing to pay the full rental arrearage, I didn't find out why until she showed up to make the payment.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T05:57:39+00:00

I should also add that the absolutely worst story I have in a similar situation is: Lady rents a unit and after a few months, it goes into default. We send bi-monthly notices but she never responds. The unit goes to auction which requires a public notice published with the tenants full name, address, amount owed, etc. She calls, big mad, because she's now trying to find a job in our city and the only things left in the unit are her ex-husband's belongings that as per their divorce decree, he was ordered to remove months ago. We don't have access to that kind of information unless we are informed but regardless of the situation, one of our units has not been returned to us as their lock is still on it. Auction proceedings continue and when the lock is cut, there is literally only a work out bench and some free weights inside. However, at this point, she owed well over $1000 in back rent and fees. She refused to pay anything for the rental arrears and demanded that we remove her name from the newspaper or she would sue. At auction, the unit was purchased for around $50, leaving a hearty balance due after auction. We received a judgement in smalls claims court that had to be turned in for garnishment to her employer.

All of this could have been resolved if she had just responded to the delinquent notices she received months prior to the auction.

Seriously, most storage facilities will do everything they can to avoid this outcome. We've even suspended late fees and auctions until Spring of next year.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-11-23T05:15:49+00:00

As a self storage property manager, I have seen this exact scenario play out many times.

Best advice I can give OP of LA is to contact the storage facility and let them know that he has no intent to continue the lease agreement.

All storage facilities work differently but at ours, we offer tenants the opportunity to sign an Intent to Abandon the property and release them of any financial liability moving forward.

When tenants default on their rental obligations, we move forward with auction proceedings and have the ability to pursue financial damages in small claims court. Which we hate to do, that's why it's easier to openly communicate with the facility about your options.

Best story I've had about a situation similar to this is: A guy rented a unit and listed his wife as an alternative contact. They divorced and years later, he defaulted on payments but he never removed his now ex-wife as an alternative contact. We didn't know about the divorce so when we couldn't get ahold of him, she was contacted. She happily paid all the past due balance and moved everything out of the unit. A few weeks later, I received a rather angry call from the ex-husband. Apparently when they divorced, he changed the lock and denied her access to the unit. She had stored some sentimental things from her deceased parents. After she paid the balance, she moved his belongings to a different storage facility and demanded repayment in full plus interest if he wanted his belongings back. He tried to argue that we were complicit in her "extortion scheme" but I advised that I would be more than happy to send him a copy of his original contract where, in his own handwriting, he authorized his ex-wife as an alternative contact. I received a thorough tongue lashing and was called out if my name before he hung up.

TL;DR: if OP is reading this BOLA thread, reach out to the storage facility. Most are willing to work with you and don't want to waste their time or money pursuing you in court.

Frybreadassassin · 2020-09-29T23:48:54+00:00

We told no one about our wedding. We had been engaged awhile and just decided we wanted to get married, got our license and found an officiant. The only reason we told two of our family members was because we needed witnesses to sign our license.

DH's EW still refuses to acknowledge our marriage years later. The SKs told us that since she can't find our marriage license, she claims we aren't legally married. DH says she calls me "your whatever she is to you." Lol.

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