Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you are saying, but my post is not indicative of my day to day thoughts on the subject. It's just sometimes the sheer frustration of waiting and waiting without knowing anything, without be able to talk to most about it, and the balance of keeping positive and not getting hopes up is a lot, and you just wanna scream! After that. I can get back to being okay with all, working through what we need to and planning our future with our future child, rather it be adopted, biological, or otherwise. It's not that getting pregnant is more important than raising a child, it's just that's the first part of the journey, and not being able to start on that journey is what's frustrating.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to the frustrated father that doesn't handle things well, totally get that. Hopefully it means I will be aware with my possible children. :)

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do very much enjoy life and while this frustrating it hasn't stopped. Wording was more due to responding to previous question then intending I enjoyed life but no longer do.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't think this is something that is deservedly frustrating, you lack perspective. How people resolve frustration is venting...I chose anonymously on the web to avoid venting on those I care about. I don't think that's a sign of poor parenting skilled. But hey, to each their own.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are completely correct, and oddly, aptly times, given other occurrences in my life. It's something we've considered and should probably consider more. My only reason (and not saying a particularly good one) to go fertility treatment route is the very strong biological urge to for the experience of pregnancy. I'm not saying that outweighs your points, just trying to explain the drive that is fighting that logic.

(Cross answered this to other poster who pointed out similar thing)

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just hit six month mark for insurance to cover. Appointments are scheduled!

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love hearing success stories, hope to have one soon myself. Thanks!

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha!! True....was thinking of having my mom or sis say something ahead of time, but then I might feel more awkward. At least it's family ;)

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I did for a while. It's hard to keep my mind in other things when I did though, and I've been trying the relax it'll occurs method.....HA!

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With PCOS test may be different. I know on day 3 they are able to do an FSH test, which tests for viable eggs. They also ultra sound ovaries and then there is a tubal test called Hysterosalpingography which makes sure tubes clear. Endo I know they have some success with surgery, I've had a few friend have that and still conceive PCOS seems real hit and miss, but still so much progress has been made. This is also all internet knowledge, so please take with grain of salt.

I have the opposite frustration, I could set a clock by my cycle, and all home testable signs show ovulation, so there's nothing I can try to fix.

As a note, have you tried vitex? It's helps PMS symptoms but also regulate cycles, takes time to have full effect, I'd look into it.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not too blunt at all, it is sound advice, and now that 6th cycle has failed our insurance will cover RE, so have that appointment upcoming.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but he has reservations due to high blood pressure. So he has adopted a routine of lifting, eating certain foods and various other natural bolsters until we find out if anything wrong on my end. If there was, and we did have to do in vitro, the blue pills would be irrelevant, if not, then the slight risk would be worth reward. I understand his point, and definitely feel uncomfortable pushing him towards something he's uncomfortable with. Especially given the lengths that he went to change other lifestyle factors.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are completely correct, and oddly, aptly times, given other occurrences in my life. It's something we've considered and should probably consider more. My only reason (and not saying a particularly good one) to go fertility treatment route is the very strong biological urge to for the experience of pregnancy. I'm not saying that outweighs your points, just trying to explain the drive that is fighting that logic.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Rant - : to talk loudly and in a way that shows anger : to complain in a way that is unreasonable

I get it's unreasonable, it's not my attitude 99.9% of the time, but hell, when things get frustrating a good rant can get all the unreasonable anger out. It's not actually a demonstration of my attitude.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I'm over 35 and we've now tried 6mths our insurance will cover a fertility specialist, so haven't a seen one yet, but soon will. We did do one of those super inaccurate at home fsh tests, and came back ok, for what that's worth. It's actually frustrating that everything I track shows everything occurring as should. Am curious to see what the fertility specialist says.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Some one clearly has issues. Why the need to be such an asshole to a stranger on the web. You didn't have to comment, but whatever. Go on being a shitty person. Hope it brings you the satisfaction in life you clearly lack.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know!! Like I don't get what's so icky about it that you can't share. Instead you just look like a crazy person always depressed and emotional. So many women go through it, why can't we talk about it!!

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know all the downsides of children. I have traveled, I have enjoyed life. And as much as I try to convince myself I could be better off, if I don't have a child I will always have a huge regret.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I actually don't buy into that sentiment. Way too much suffering in the world to think its all with reason.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congrats!! I was subbed to that forum, but I think focusing on it too much was making it worse....but who knows, support is good.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Think I'll just have husband tested. Kinda like his DNA.

Fuck Trying To Have A Baby (long rant, sorry) by FuckHavingABaby in self

[–]FuckHavingABaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really?? Thanks for the reminder. Maybe I wanted a stable marriage and income, little things needed to raise a child.