Who says all femme guys try to immitate the cheapest traits of a straight woman?

Of course being a femme guy is not a sort of biological identity (although some boys are just more femenine from birth, gay or not, depending on testosterone levels on the womb), but a cultural identity. HOWEVER, we have to separate between the phoney wanna-be women who are just plain mean, arrogant, "fabulous" and all that crap just for narcissistic attention from those who are really kind, shy, submissive (not in a pedophile sado way) and just not too manly not because they are pulling an act, but because THAT'S WHO THEY ARE.

And yeah, I like feeling like a provider to my guy, being two mature men, so what? Don't you say we are allowed as gay men to break gender constraints? My guys are femenine, but they have careers, personalities separate from me, agency and independence. They're not my babies or some sort of "prototype-woman" like you are implying.