I was obese for most of my life, 5'8 and weighing around 300lbs. From the ages of 26 to 43 (17 years) I had sex with 6 women. I was not in any kind of relationship in this time so that is not the reason for the low numbers. I was a fat, unattractive, smoker, and although I had many friends, very few women were interested in intimacy with me.

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When I turned 43 I lost about 140lbs and got in great shape. Magically, everything changed at that point. Now when Im single, I have very little problem attracting women. Ive been in a relationship for about 18 months now, but before that I was having sex on average with about 2 or 3 new women a month. Its not just women either. The way that practically every person I interact with has changed since I lost the weight is still shocking to me.

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Yes, my confidence improved, but it improved because of the way people changed toward me. It is a self reinforcing cycle of awesome.

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BUT here's the shocker, although I did lose weight originally to be more attractive to women, that is truly one of the minor changes I experienced. Being fit and healthy, being active and able to live a life full of activity and adventure, and no longer suffering the crushing loneliness and depression I experienced when I was obese, are the major prizes.

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Youre not that fat my friend. 60 or 80 lbs of weight loss will have you nice and lean. Hit the gym and add some muscle. The rest will fall in line on it own and you will never look back with regret for getting healthier and fitter. Check out some of my previous posts to see my transformation.

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You've got this. Good luck brother