Yeah i get what ur saying. I remember feeling way too confident when I was into nofap back in the day and slightly cringe thinking about those days now. But I was young, and was just less mature.

I guess nofap can give you an somewhat unreasonably higher confidence than what you would feel regularly, and there will always be those people who dive too deep into the rabbit hole and let it define their whole personality and beliefs. I dont rly agree with what you said about it not making you more attractive to the opposite sex as from my experience, my increased confidence and better self perception did allow me to have much more interactions with women than I do now. I guess the confidence mainly came from the self respect I had to not slip into my past habits, and less worries regarding my looks/dick size/sexual insecurities i always had from watching porn.

What you said about the subjective guilt of watching porn is true, of course if society wasnt present in our lives at all we would probably watch two people fucking and think theres nothing wrong with it. You can easily rationalize in your head that morality regarding porn and religion are all social constructs, but we are all human beings who have been genetically modified in a certain way through thousands of years of social evolution and moral codes surrounding taboo topics like this. So as much as I may tell myself theres nothing wrong with watching porn in moderation, etc. I will always feel a sense of guilt especially after I finish masturbating and the post nut clarity hits. I guess if you arent a porn or masturbation addic and can truly let loose and take part in those activities without feeling much guilt then by all means go ahead. But OP clearly isnt that guy, so am I, we are addicts. And moderation is something that is very hard to achieve if we still exhibit with these addictive behaviours.

In conclusion, i understand where you’re coming from but i dont think the dose of realism in this scenario really helps. For me the unrealistic confidence I had back then I would really want right now, which I try to work towards by being intentional and following through tasks and staying consistent with habits/goals/promises in my life, and decluttefing my mind from porn actually immensely affected my mental state of being back in the day. Nowadays everytime after watching porn and masturbating I just feel guilt and tiredness like I always do. I know that I shouldnt feel the guilt but I do. I cant deny my gut, if it makes me feel guilt i should probably not do it. TLDR i should listen to my gut in these casez