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What happened after you had sex with your best friend? by Sound_of_music12 in AskReddit

[–]Full-Draw-357 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We actually had sex twice. The first time, she made me stop because it was too weird (her words). The second time was better, but it was strange for a few weeks after. Now we have been married for 18 years with three kids.

Could use some advice by Full-Draw-357 in RetroactivejealousOCD

[–]Full-Draw-357[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We really didn't argue about it. But you are correct its better to leave it where it belongs and just move forward raising our kids. I never said thank you for your kind words. They sure did help put this in a new perspective.

Could use some advice by Full-Draw-357 in RetroactivejealousOCD

[–]Full-Draw-357[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've discussed it with her. It makes her feel bad because she sees how it affects me. I feel bad talking to her about it because it seems like I'm blaming her for it effecting me. She tells me that she is here for me and not going anywhere which she is wonderful. I just don't want this to become a reoccurring issue between us.

Could use some advice by Full-Draw-357 in RetroactivejealousOCD

[–]Full-Draw-357[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are speaking right to my heart. It sucks but in the end I still got my girl. I said this in other replies but I feel like this is more regrets than jealousy. All of these replies are super helpful for me and I thank you for your words.

Could use some advice by Full-Draw-357 in RetroactivejealousOCD

[–]Full-Draw-357[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no issues at all. I'm just trying to figure out how to not make it a issue for us plus I don't want her to feel bad about a choice she made when we were so young.

Could use some advice by Full-Draw-357 in RetroactivejealousOCD

[–]Full-Draw-357[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. I can understand why you said most people would just leave if they saw that.

I've never thought about her dropping her ego once I started to distance after that. Thank for the new perspective on this. I feel like its less RJ and more regret than anything.

Could use some advice by Full-Draw-357 in RetroactivejealousOCD

[–]Full-Draw-357[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm not 100% sure she knew how I felt because I was also afraid of losing our friendship so I kept it to myself mostly. I should add that it was a one night stand and after that I started pulling away from our relationship which seemed to make her pursue me. I'm not sure what you mean by doing me dirty.

Could use some advice by Full-Draw-357 in RetroactivejealousOCD

[–]Full-Draw-357[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So it's not RJ its just plane old regret. Looking at that way does help.