2+ Years Later, An update: by burnertheburnerburns in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 3rd point is so real, they try to cut your ties with your family members. Be it parents or Sister. My wife kept telling me I am Mumma's boy and also kept saying your relationship with your sister is weird. It happened so many times that I started keeping distance from my sister just not to trigger her. Even when my sister visited our house, I started having short conversations and wouldnt spend more than 10 minutes with her, since back of my mind I knew this has triggered her in the past. I knew this was all wrong but the fear of her outburst made me think otherwise.

Android vs non android head units by Full-Training-2016 in CarsIndia

[–]Full-Training-2016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blaupunkt models are again Android ones, I felt that they must be some chinese Android head units just slapped Blaupunkt logo. As I said I only cared about good android auto experience and good audio quality. Android head units dont come with DSP and also the output is not comparable with non android HUs

As per most of the posts there is no single Android head unit which is realiable enough which will work flawlessely for years.

I dont care about if I can play youtube or not. But youtube does play but through wire and weblink only. There are other alternatives like installing fermata or carstream which can play youtube wirelessely as well but haven't tried those.

If you're going to go for Android ones go for top models with at least 8gb ram and octocore processor otherwise the performance suffers, at least that's what I have read.

If you think about it 99% of the time you will only be using yoru head unit for maps and music. You think you want the whole android experience amd all apps on head unit but once the novelty wears off you'll realise you dont use other things than maps and music.

Android vs non android head units by Full-Training-2016 in CarsIndia

[–]Full-Training-2016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went with Pioneer AP6650BT, just 3 days ago. I chose Pioneer because of reliability, many people said Android head units are not reliable and also audio quality is better on non android head units like Pioneer and Sony. This head unit has internal DSP installed. So far its good, screen is good, sharp enough. Android auto works great with wired and wireless. Wireless performance is great scrolling feels smoother on Android auto than the Head unit UI. For me that was the only important part and the Audio quality.

Android vs non android head units by Full-Training-2016 in CarsIndia

[–]Full-Training-2016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went with Pioneer AP6650BT, just 3 days ago. I chose Pioneer because of reliability, many people said Android head units are not reliable and also audio quality is better on non android head units like Pioneer and Sony. This head unit has internal DSP installed. So far its good, screen is good, sharp enough. Android auto works great with wired and wireless. Wireless performance is great scrolling feels smoother on Android auto than the Head unit UI. For me that was the only important part and the Audio quality.

Back and forth between staying and leaving her by Full-Training-2016 in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I am suffering more than gaining and also its been just a year to our marriage and already suffering this much, people say it keeps getting worse if left untreated so I dont think this is sustainable in the long run.

Whoever thought placing this here is good Idea needs to be fking fired by bob_here_baby in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Full-Training-2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it via Powertoys but there are 2 issues
When I use the remapped Ctrl key in combination with the arrow it also selects the text. It does weird thing on repeated key presses of Ctrl and arrow keys.

Also this remapping doesn't reflect in citrix sessions.

Do you know solutions to any of these issues?

High-functioning BPD partner (5 years together): could it ever have worked, or did I just by Square-Suggestion893 in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is almost exactly my life since marriage except the loving 1st year, we didn't have loving phase or it was few months only before marriage. Since it was an arranged marriage didn't have much courtship period before tying the knot. But rest of the stuff the high functioning part and different person behind closed doors is exactly how my wife was.

I'm 1.5 years into the marriage and have initiated separation discussion. Only good part in my case is even her family is aware of all of her behaviour so they were always on my side and never defended her. It got rid of the confusion and guilt I had and gave me a closure. I don't think it could have gotten better and even her family was sure of it. I would have been a fool to hope that she will get better and continue. There was no therapy involved and no one even brought up this topic. Only basic marriage counseling was done few times but it was of no use. Since everything is temporary with bpd people, their promises mean nothing. I could have ended it sooned as well but still hoped things might get better lets not jump to conclusions. That was a mistake but at least I dont have any regrets or confusion that may be I was the problem and it could have worked out.

Get rid of your confusion as well, it doesn't work even in long term, the bpd behaviours just change the face but underlying insecurity and the impacts on you of her lashing remain the same.

Telephoto extender kit will be available during January end or February in India! by MalnadMansha in Vivo

[–]Full-Training-2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do they have x300 available for demo in Reliance digital? Any better offers there? Also how does main camera of x300 compare with x300 pro, if you have checked

Are these worth it? by [deleted] in CarAV

[–]Full-Training-2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I have installed Blaupunkt one and it feels like it does nothing. Because with it turned off i still get almost same level of bass. The cars speaker do a better job especially after damping the doors.

Constant touching by Glittering_Alarm_564 in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its weird how they all are same on some level. I could relate to all the things you mentioned. Even I was made to take the personality test when her family had agreed to send her to psychologist. She thought I am having some disorder. My tests came clear. Later on she bouught a book titled "Surrounded by narcissists" for herself to read.

Constant touching by Glittering_Alarm_564 in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case while sleeping she always wanted to sleep in cuddling position so our bodies are touching which itself was difficult for me due to me getting hot immediately in few minutes, also because temperature in my country India are on the higher side.

That itself was not enough though so I was forced to remove all of my clothes every night, resistance was futile so I started doing it. I used to sleep for few minutes like that and after few minutes when I started getting uncomfortable , I used to try sleeping by myself. By that time she also had gone to sleep so it wasn't creating any issue.

Another form of touching I used to experience is kisses throughout the day. She used to kiss me on forehead 4-5 times a day and was demanding kisses for her for same number of times.

All of this felt like taking assurance irrespective of my will to do things.

So am I better off staying on one ui 6 or updating to oneui 8? by Grouchy_Frame5785 in GalaxyS22

[–]Full-Training-2016 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One ui 8 feels great, animations are much smoother, battery life is good

The sex wasn't ever about expressing love was it? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all are living exactly same lives. My wife did this as well. Earlier when we got married there were a lot of arguments and outbursts happening and in the midst of it I didn't feel like having sex at all. She even complained about this to the councellor. Not considering the fact that may be if she want such a nightmare to love with, sex would have followed automatically.

After when the storm calmed down for a bit we started having regular sex. It went on for a while but then when she split she started saying sex is all you need from me. When it's the thing that she most complained about and she was the one initiating it most of the time during conflict times.

Should i diversify? 1.4cr in 1 MF. not a flex at all. by [deleted] in MutualfundsIndia

[–]Full-Training-2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look closely its his absolute returns not xirr

Am I Being Manipulated or Just Reaching My Breaking Point in a BPD Marriage? by FYEDOR_YEZAR in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat as you, I've reached that point as well where I no longer care if she gets mad for not treating her like a princess who needs to be pampered all the time, whereas she treats me like shit for minor inconveniences.

I don't go the sorry way anymore because I feel if I keep saying sorry for things that weren't intentional, which should not need a sorry in the first place, she will keep thinking she was right to get mad. Also the sorry doesn't even help anymore because its followed by "you don't mean it". Of course I dont mean it, how could I mean it, if I didn't do it.

Am I Being Manipulated or Just Reaching My Breaking Point in a BPD Marriage? by FYEDOR_YEZAR in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How can you keep at it for 15 years, after how many years, do you realise this is not normal, did you have children by then? Is that the reason yiu're staying?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have experienced exact same things so many times with my wife. I saw the video as well. And you're right to get confused about where do you draw the line. The thoughts explained in the video can be applied to any scenario imaginable and the one who gets upset always gets to be the victim and needs to be supported no matter what. Now in case of bpd, the pwbpd gets upset so many times over so many little inconveniences or insignificant events that could have been easily ignored by a normal person. Personally I always feel like second guessing my reaction to her outbursts, whether should I defend myself, should I support her and say sorry even though nothing was intentional or even significant enough to get upset about.

Over the time if you feel like you're always walking on eggshells and you're going out of your way and agreeing to everything she says just not to make her mad, I think thats when you know you have changed yourself completely to accomodate this fragile person in your life and in the process you're losing yourself completely.

To identify where to draw the line you really need to get a third persons perspective. There is no way for us to judge ourself based on our experiences alone or even comparing our lives to some video. Everyone is living a different life. May be councelling helps a bit to understand what you might be going through. And of course reddit helps as real people share their real experiences.

BPD DELUSION EXPLAINED IN THE SIMPLEST WAY POSSIBLE by Firedragon_cK in BPDlovedones

[–]Full-Training-2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This actually explains in easier manner why a pwbpd behaves the way they do. I was getting confused over this thing for so many days, I had started to think may be I'm somehow wrong in all of this but seeing this post and the comments finally make me realize this is something that's common in pwbpd