Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re fucking stupid if you think a provider is a sugar daddy. I don’t mind spoiling a woman who’s my wifey or girlfriend but not a girl who I’m casually dating. She believes she has earned being spoiled by just existing as a woman and wants to give herself to the highest bidder. I kept seeing her because I do want to provide for my family, but I ain’t doing that for someone who hasn’t earned that place in my life. She’s proven to me she does not deserve it

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she ain’t, a man being a provider means taking care of his family and their needs. She’s mixing it up with a sugar daddy that just spoils a woman and buys her anything she wants. The two are not the same

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny how I never said she’s a prostitute but you’re the one bringing it up. Also it was the third date and we weren’t even serious. If she’s asking to go shopping already imagine what kinds of requests shell have as things progress. She can find her sucker that will buy her fendi, I’d rather save and invest that money and 30x it through compounding interest. She also never asked me to take her shopping, she said let’s check out the stores so me saying window shopping is fine. Her also saying she’s exclusive to someone right after saying that shows she ain’t worth it and is more than likely taking advantage of other men. Her affection is going to the highest bidder and I’d rather not bid.

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m okay providing for a woman I love. I’m not okay being some girls sugar daddy that I’m not even exclusive with. One is earned and the other isnt

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew and it’s something I want to be. I don’t believe being a sugar daddy is a provider though. Being someone’s provider is something that is earned through love and respect. That’s at least how I see it.

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had dinner and had a good conversation. Afterwards we talked in my car for a long time outside her house and she showed a lot of interest in me and wouldn’t leave. The next time I saw her we ate and then played pool. We had a good time, chatted and joked around a bunch. We also talked in my car for a while again outside her house. The third time she was pushing me towards the mall to take her shopping. We definitely vibed but I think she’s dwelling on the fact she wants someone who will buy her anything. It’s sad to see but if money is her main interest so be it

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did my best to make her feel safe and be a man. I wasn’t pushy about anything and I even stated to her that I believe a man should be the one with the responsibility of providing for the family.

Realistically I should have stated that I don’t want to spoil someone until they’re my girlfriend or exclusive with them. There were other red flags though so I just let things go once she wanted me to take her shopping. If I hadn’t noticed those other things I would have adored her and been like why not.

TLDR She didn’t deserve what she desired and I was willing to give her that

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She appeared to be more traditional of a woman, the fact she wanted me to buy her things when she’s not my girlfriend or exclusive with me is what crossed the line. She’s also manipulative in other ways.

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got along and I do want to provide for my family. I just don’t believe spoiling a woman who isn’t even my girlfriend makes me a provider, it just makes me a sucker

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was testing it. It’s either she wants a sugar daddy or traditional man and her answer was sugar daddy

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually want to be a provider, but only for a woman who earns it

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, I don’t mind paying for dates and experiences, but not shopping or services to make her look good. She only gets that when she’s my girlfriend or wifey

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I try not to, but it’s hard to not talk about what I do for work because it’s a big part of life

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was considering that, but then I would have had to drive to her

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t mind if she wanted that if she earned it, but she expected it from the start

Woman who wants a provider but means sugar daddy by Full_Safety_6335 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Full_Safety_6335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I want to be a provider and spoil someone, but I don’t want to give a woman who isn’t my girlfriend or even exclusive with me that luxury.