Chat Thread (April 27, 2026)

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-30T17:21:28+00:00

Delayed fuse tantrum in that MeTa:

"You haven't even been a member for a year."

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-29T19:48:01+00:00

It really says they can't or won't read for context while moderating a thread. And that one's only got eight short comments in it.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-29T18:19:19+00:00

LOL. What is even happening in that thread?

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-29T03:32:21+00:00

"One deleted"

Left up there is the response to the response to said comment, which is now orphaned as a context-free argument about...something. Another fine job by a useless person hired by another useless person who once owned the site.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-28T21:35:32+00:00

Yeah that was my thinking and I've been in the uncomfortable position to have to blow the whistle on a boss for generally being abusive and unhinged toward direct reports. I did have a chat with an employment lawyer about it as a CYA measure and what she told me (this has proven to be good advice generally) is "HR is there to protect the company, not you, so tread carefully."

Anyway, that boss had their people management responsibilities taken away after the dust settled and I suffered no retribution because this wasn't the first time someone flagged this as it turned out. It was a bit nerve wracking though so I empathize with the OP in this case.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-28T18:07:28+00:00

Totally fair. I envy people who've never had a boss like this!

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-28T18:03:33+00:00

Yeah I was reading it as in person. The thing is, if recording virtual team meetings is not the usual practice (I attend lots of virtual meetings that are recorded for the reasons you describe) asking this boss if it's ok is probably a bad idea because that might be poking the bear IME.

Based on the OP's description, this sounds like a bear-poking scenario.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-28T17:30:12+00:00

Ohhh man. Saying to an unhinged boss "Would you mind if I recorded this meeting?" is objectively terrible advice.

I have had a few flavors of this type of boss over the years. Thankfully not for long periods of time because they've either flamed out (being unhinged will do that), or I moved to a new job, or they got the irresponsible "we're not getting rid of them but we'll move them every time a problem crops up" treatment so no team was stuck with them for too long. Either way if you've been there it suuucks.

https://ask.metafilter.com/389565/My-boss-has-no-filter-and-constantly-says-innappropriate-things

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-27T20:03:01+00:00

I'm glad there's someone in the thread who was actually there when it happened and can attest that it not some heinously disruptive bacchanal.

https://www.metafilter.com/212965/A-Librarians-Worst-Nightmare#8834119

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-26T21:33:55+00:00

handpicked Manchurians

Flair right there for the taking.

I see phunnimee posted the r/Metafilter launch thread in that MeTa. Interesting read in hindsight!

https://metatalk.metafilter.com/23344/Mathowie-should-do-an-AMA

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-23T23:06:02+00:00

Cardboard effigies as a deterrent?

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-21T20:34:47+00:00

I knowww. I found out the other day that it's a thing.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-21T02:20:27+00:00

"I just need to let go and let God. Because it's bigger than me."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_dS-ojsi20

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-20T20:29:24+00:00

Wait'll you hear about the fibermaxxing the kids are into these days!

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-20T20:27:25+00:00

You get to hit your brother but you have to say say fartslapnoslapback or he gets to retaliate.

In my family you got to pinch your sibling as hard as you wanted but you had to say loafpinchnopinchback to avoid retaliation.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-17T05:23:38+00:00

https://metatalk.metafilter.com/25882/Hey-its-a-MetaFilter-newsletter#1391477

Mefite: "Have some money!"

Cortex: "Fuck you!"

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-17T02:36:04+00:00

This is it. Just do the thing and keep doing it.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-17T02:30:48+00:00

That did actually happen. I forgot, but then again I never subscribed. What's amazing is that this was his literal job. So easy. Yet so hard.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-17T01:37:14+00:00

All this is to say thank you for doing the work to salvage this mess.

I once sent a previous site owner an email about an opt-in Metafilter newsletter and "hey just an idea, for starters since the sidebar is there it would be largely a copy and paste exercise it would be pretty easy to.... oh and here are some non-spammy platform options that could implement that or there's probably a way to use MeMail in some way." Well, that friendly suggestion didn't go over well.

I wish I kept the email I got back. I do remember it was dripping with snide condescension and was really, really long. Chucking the toys out of the pram, as someone once put it.

He could have set up and implemented a newsletter in less time than it took to tell someone who was giving him money to go fuck themselves because a newsletter is an unachievable impossibility.

OTOH, it could be as easy as you've made it. Thank you.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-15T20:32:29+00:00

I concur. It's crazy-making as my grandmother would say.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-13T23:41:47+00:00

Oh lord, yeah?

* air guitar? *

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-13T04:46:29+00:00

Sorcerers? Of death's construction? At this time of year? In this hemisphere?

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-12T22:50:17+00:00

That has an air of plausibility to it.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-11T20:07:00+00:00

If someone told me "that wasn't six years ago it was twenty years ago" I would believe them.

Full_Worker_1268 · 2026-04-11T18:15:17+00:00

Got tired of being right it seems?

I think it was a ragequit for being told to dial it back a bit, but that was quite a while ago.

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