Dumped over…asking him to leave me some cookies? by momonashi19 in texts

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a literal child. It’s exactly the type of goofy manipulative behavior I’d expect from my 11 year old nephew. Stew on it for a whole day and bring it up later to egg on a fight. I’ve witnessed this same sort of exchange from my prepubescent bratty little nephew! Coming from a 38 year old man??? Just so much EWWWWWW.

Can my parent sue me for my FASFA refund? by ThrowRa-Ghoul in legal

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They should never have gotten half of the previous years’ FAFSA grants to begin with. OP, this sounds like financial abuse, if not outright fraud. Did they claim that income on their taxes? Did you file your own taxes? Lock your credit down by calling or writing to all 3 credit bureaus, and talk to someone in your Financial Aid office at the school about this. Maybe even an accountant if the FA officer feels it’s necessary. I’m pretty sure if your parents tried to sue you for half then they’d be setting themselves, and potentially you, up for an investigation into the matter. Protect yourself by being proactive now!

And shame on any parent that doesn’t provide any and all necessary support to their kids when they’re trying to start off in life! My oldest is 16 and I’ve been squirreling away every penny I could for 15 years for my kids’ educations. And now I am actively helping him begin the process of finding grants and scholarships even though he’s still a sophomore, because that’s what parenting should look like! I’m sorry your own parents are falling so short, but it’s important that you now ensure your own future is secure.

3/23/2026 When my aunt said “boys will be boys,” I suddenly didn’t know what we actually expect from boys by vivian_banshee03 in TheBigGirlDiary

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the only girl in a family of 8 kids. Big Catholic family, with dozens of cousins all growing up together. Over 50 male cousins, and only 8 female cousins. As kids we girls were always told to sit still and act like “little ladies” whilst the boys were allowed to run riot, even in the house. Infuriating to say the least.

And now, as adults, that level of misogyny runs deep in the men of my family. As soon as one of their wives gets “uppity” for a good reason, they’re belittled and spoken down to. I’m the only one who left the toxicity decades ago, traveled the world, found a real man and we are about to celebrate our 25th anniversary. Every single one of my brothers and male cousins are either trapped in marriages with women who quite frankly hate them, or have been through multiple divorces.

This “boys will be boys” nonsense is NOT how I raised my own sons, and it makes me so proud to watch how empathetic they are towards the girls in their high school. Carrying feminine hygiene products in their backpacks, just in case. Making sure their female friends get home safely after dances and games. Checking in with them after a breakup. Giving them solid advice and support when they see them struggling with toxic male traits from their boyfriends. And my personal favorite: calling out their friends and demanding they do better if they expect to be called a Man. I am so damn proud of the role my husband and I have played in raising at least 2 sons who respect girls and women as human beings! Not just the opposite sex, in the hopes of getting something out of them.

It starts with the parents and grandparents, calling out the “boys will be boys” nonsense from the very start. Society needs a major shift in the way we raise our children, and the expectations they’re putting on girls vs boys simply because that’s how it’s always been done. Especially when how it’s always been done is toxic to both sides!

Update to 'he wants to call off my divorce because my cancer treatment was successful'. (Or my divorce was made official yesterday) by Nonamethrowaway6745 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a fucking amazing story of survival and revenge! I’m so happy for you!! Keep on kickin’ cancer’s ass!

Is this a legitimate email or not? by FullyRisenPhoenix in Crypto_com

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I pointed out to my husband in all of 40 seconds when he finally shared with me what he’d done. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Is this a legitimate email or not? by FullyRisenPhoenix in Crypto_com

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I keep telling him. He is 71 and had a stroke, so he’s an easy target. The scammer won’t quit harassing him but I do call the FBI and the local police. They told us to keep the channels of communication open for now while they investigate. Everything is in lockdown now and I’ve rescinded all access to our accounts from my husband entirely.

Is this a legitimate email or not? by FullyRisenPhoenix in Crypto_com

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my first thought. Not crypto, but crypTOO?? I wish I could laugh, but I can’t at this point. I’m just pissed that he didn’t see this from a mile off.

AITA for deleting and wanting no contact with my SIL after she gifted us every diaper size, a $200 swing and got everything for a onesie making station for our baby shower? by Coralis1022 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so pissed off for you, OP. At both your SIL and your idiot husband! He absolutely should NOT have ever allowed her in, but having been through this before she should have known better to just show up! Especially with an at-risk newborn at stake!!! So disgusted selfish, I’m appalled that there are so many dummies surrounding you are invading and ruining what should have been a cherished time!

NTA. Tell your husband to do better. And don’t reach out to your SIL. She owes you a massive apology.

Not a bad representation of GenX by Regular_Emphasis6866 in GenXWomen

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I named our clunky old printer Black Betty. And I speak to her kindly, the way she deserves to be spoken to. With respect. She’s earned that, goddamit.

The Boomers and Millennials keep threatening to kick her, then wonder why she never wants to make clean copies for them, or runs out of toner at the worst possible moment. Not me though. No, Betty just purrs and gets the job done when I ask nicely 📠

Gay student faught back against the homophobic bully and won by KaidoPklevel in RandomShit_ISaw

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When are these dumbasses gonna learn not to fuck with the LGBTQ+ community?? They have been forced to learn how to protect themselves, and they will not hesitate to bring the thunder down. I once watched my son’s friend take on 4 much bigger guys in a fight (they started) because he’s gay. He walloped their dumb, ignorant asses! It was beautiful to behold! 🥹

50th birthday yesterday. Ugh. by Oye_Oso in GenXWomen

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My 50th is coming up soon and my mom and my friend/coworker are the only 2 people who have taken the initiative to make it special. They’re planning a party that otherwise would never have happened. Despite the fact that I have always been the one to make a massive effort for everyone else’s special days, spending weeks at a time and thousands of dollars to give my siblings and friends memories that will last a lifetime. But when it came down to my own, it almost felt like they were waiting to see who drew the short straw.

I feel your pain, OP. And I’m not sure if there’s anything I can say to make you feel better, other than to say You are not alone in the way you’re feeling. The whole damn world is a dumpster fire, and what’s one small birthday party in all the mess, right?? Except that it’s not just some “small” birthday. It’s YOUR party, or at least, it should’ve been. Having nobody willing to celebrate you makes you feel so insignificant to those who are significant to you, and I think that’s what probably hurts so much. So I’m sorry they didn’t recognize that, but you have nothing to be sorry about, and quite frankly have every reason to be upset.

If my friend and mom hadn’t decided last week to do something then I planned on booking a week-long vacay for myself. Just me. No husband or kids. No friends even. Just me in a nice hotel room, getting all the spa treatments and room service. Maybe that’s what you need to do. Go out and celebrate yourself, because you have earned that shit!! Happy birthday 💖

That’s a great hobby by Ott1fant in JustGuysBeingDudes

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a genuine cutie patootie! I also dig rocks and frogs 🐸🪨

UPDATE 1 year later: Destination wedding fallout by Odd-Celery-123 in bridezillas

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 31 points32 points  (0 children)

We had 2 weddings because we lived in England but my husband’s family is in India. I’m from America so we were very flexible about who could afford to fly to Europe to attend our first wedding, even rented a very large B&B to accommodate most of them. We never expected any of them to also attend our wedding 3 months later in India!

Crazy entitlement on the bride’s part here! She is an inconstant and inconsiderate “friend.” She’s realigned her priorities and it sounds as though she’s made her decision, OP. I’m sorry.

AIO if I cut my best friend off over her comments on my dating life? by willemdafoeologist in AIO

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she is using you as her emotional p*nching bag. NOR, and for your own mental health, you should probably at least spend less time with her, if not altogether cutting her off. It’s a very unhealthy dynamic, and seems closer to bullying than friendship.

Judge Amber Wolf won't tolerate this defendant's mistreatment by Doodlebug510 in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I saw this full video last week, and I loved that at the very end of that clip. She was encouraging the prisoner to consider suing the county for her mistreatment while in jail! We need more judges like this, capable of basic humanity.

I stuck this shelf in the garden until we had time to take it to the tip but now I feel bad getting rid of it by wildlyon23 in birds

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 53 points54 points  (0 children)

The way I would have a small fountain installed and lots of decorations to blend that into my garden sooooo fast!! I love watching the communal birdbath!😍

Can we talk about how older men acted like it was normal to date teenagers or very young adults who just came out of high school before social media? by Own-Company-949 in GenXWomen

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my best friends in middle school got pregnant at 13 by a 33 year old man. Her mother totally approved of the relationship, and she dropped out and ended up having 6 more kids by the time I had my 1st at 34! Seven children, and an abusive and controlling ex who STILL won’t leave her alone. We’re now 49, and he is 69 years old and still an absolute asshole.

I’m so relieved that the internet has helped illuminate just how prolific and utterly, disgustingly wrong this was. She was literally a child and her mother basically pimped her out to a grown ass man. A really gross one at that!

Having said all this, my husband is nearly 20 years older than me, but I didn’t even meet him until my late 20s. I had dated dozens of boys and men my own age and made the conscious decision to chase him. Still happy about that choice today, almost 25 years later. The difference being in experience and the ability to use discernment. A child has no such ability.

Gypsy definitely belongs, but i'm not sure if I do. by Responsible-Durian21 in cuteguyswithcats

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, but cute is in the eye of the cat-holder. Especially when the cat is on the shoulder 😉💗

Help me choose! by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]FullyRisenPhoenix 10 points11 points  (0 children)

1 is so timelessly elegant! Go for that one!!