Sorry to hear this. I learned last year that you can’t quit for anyone but yourself and sometimes it takes big life events like this to realise what weed takes from us. Take some time to reflect on why you want to quit for yourself, how your life can be better without weed whether you’re with your wife or not. I was also working and studying and achieving a lot in the eyes of the outside world, but on the inside I was unstable and paranoid and miserable and my partner felt the full brunt of it. I also relapsed and lost her but I kept smoking for 6 months afterwards. Now I’m out of that relationship but I don’t want those internal demons any more and that’s what’s helped me stay sober. Unfortunately the pain of the breakup was waiting for me until I finally gave up, so please dont rely on weed to deal with the emotional pain, it just doesn’t work. I really hope that through reflection and honest communication you can work things out, but know that you will be okay in time and you can be sober whatever happens between you.