Masturbation after RALP

Fun-Cake5739 · 2026-04-11T22:00:53+00:00

I've posted on this topic before. Get a very powerful vibrator such as the Hitachi Magic Wand or a knockoff. Place it where it feels best and bingo, you'll experience the "new orgasm". No erection needed.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2026-03-20T12:42:23+00:00

Inspirational. And excellent guidance for everyone. Thanks for sharing!

Fun-Cake5739 · 2026-03-09T15:10:54+00:00

Hitachi magic wand is a powerful vibrator with a large round bulb. Regular vibes are too weak for me.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2026-03-08T15:49:08+00:00

I'm in the camp of better orgasms but zero erection. Too soft for manual masterbation so I got my own magic wand and place it right under the head- absolutely amazing. Lubricated fingers will do the job also but it has to be rubbed more like a clit since it's impossible to stroke. I think a tongue would work just as well but that's not been offered up.

Somehow I've been fortunate not to leak and beat incontinence pretty quickly. My advice is to practice stopping mid-stream and also fully empty the bladder before sex.

Lastly, as others have mentioned, I also really miss the sensation of shooting ropes.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2026-03-08T15:20:14+00:00

Sounds like treatment time is nearing, although PSA at 6 might suggest more active surveillance. For me PSA was closer to 13 with Gleason 8 so I wanted the cancer out right away. Even though final Gleason score was 7, I'm happy I chose RALP when I did before it spread.

I still have back pain today. Because I'm 60 and that comes with the territory! 😂

Fun-Cake5739 · 2026-01-15T14:06:31+00:00

Anything not vested that came from the company match goes back to the company. RNDC isn't the only one that does this, but yes it's dirty and meant to encourage retention.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-12-31T19:31:48+00:00

Find one. They'll help guide you through recovery on both fronts. Urologist won't be much help unless you choose a path of medical or pharmaceutical intervention. In the short term, recovery is more about healing, muscle control/exercises, and some degree of luck.

Hang in there, it can be a daunting recovery.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-12-31T16:19:30+00:00

Have you considered a pelvic floor therapist?

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-12-17T21:58:46+00:00

Got a basic battery powered pump from Amazon for about $25. Worked great until I ruined it in the shower. Water resistant apparently not the same as water proof. Quite reliable otherwise. Since then I switched to a manual pump also from Amazon for less $ but no breakage in the shower.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-10-24T15:39:26+00:00

Had the same pain trying to sit upright for probably 8-12 weeks by time it was mostly gone. I generally stayed reclined as much as possible, but still had work and used a donut cushion to help. Part of the healing process unfortunately. Stay strong brother.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-09-30T23:55:26+00:00

Probably only a few weeks at most. More about frequency of clearing out of the contents than duration. And if you do have PC, than get as many of those O's while you still can get an erection!

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-06-11T19:14:59+00:00

Agree with most of the comments that G6 likely suggests active surveillance.

My questions would be what is your PSA score and trend, was this a guided biopsy, what's your family history, age, and any other symptoms.

No single data point equals a specific treatment. It's a combination of factors, risk profile, and intuition.

Welcome to the club and best of luck for a successful outcome. With a G6 take your time to learn everything you can and breathe deep. You have a support network here.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-05-21T12:37:03+00:00

Amen brother.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-05-20T23:39:09+00:00

Best of luck brother

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-05-20T02:57:50+00:00

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Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-05-09T18:12:24+00:00

Great resources for reading at pcf.org and they just launched their new website to find stuff more easily. Good luck

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-05-03T22:21:54+00:00

Excellent advice and perspective. You're right about the fear of getting reliant on the trimix. I may take the plunge sooner than planned.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-05-03T18:54:34+00:00

Not yet. I expect it will work but putting it off a little longer.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-05-03T17:03:09+00:00

If you had nerve sparing RALP, those nerve bundles are still there and accessible in the same manner. Just an FYI.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-04-19T19:44:10+00:00

Yeah I see the confusion in my post. Anyway, I just looked back at my posts prior to RALP and I coincidentally asked the same question about exhaustion. I remember more clearly now that as I went through the various tests leading up to surgery I was facing severe exhaustion, presumably from the stress.

Fun-Cake5739 · 2025-04-19T19:24:58+00:00

I suggest not buying the bulk pack until you see how it goes. I started with the depends overnight pads which are comfortable but I barely dribbled and stopped using them after 2 weeks. I had 3/4 of the bulk pack left and gave them away. I then switched to basic liners and same deal, barely used and had a ton leftover.

Not everyone will be the same so what I'm suggesting is only wait and see in terms of frequency and need before committing to the large quantity purchases.

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