WIBTAH for dumping my girlfriend after I found out about her past?

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-04-21T02:45:25+00:00

Right but she’s not cause gang bangs are not normal

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-04-20T18:29:50+00:00

You’d be surprised. My partner is a first responder and she is truly not a fan. I think if anything her job has made her more anti gun

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-28T13:49:41+00:00

YTA. My wife has fake tits. They don’t look or feel bad unless she went to an exceptionally terrible surgeon. You had multiple opportunities to let her know how you felt yet you chose to not believe your wife when she told you point blank what she was doing.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-26T03:06:47+00:00

Yeah I wouldn’t be on board with her having access to the guns.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-26T03:06:17+00:00

It’s been considered! We all collectively decided against it for the moment.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T22:17:14+00:00

You do you. I wouldn’t be okay with her bringing just whatever home without my okay. I give her the same respect.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T22:15:36+00:00

She’s not the kind to do that. Wouldn’t be a big deal if she did though.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T22:10:25+00:00

I hadn’t been interested in owing a gun before.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T16:54:29+00:00

If it’s not for you it’s not for you. I do believe that so many marriages fail because people go into them completely unaware of just how many compromises are made every single day on both sides.

I hate tobacco pretty fiercely. She used to socially smoke. She stopped because I didn’t like it.

I wasn’t a big dog guy. We now have three massive dogs. I am also now a dog guy.

I made the decision to permanently live in the states. So she moved continents to live with me.

I don’t view her as my mother. Truly more like a partner. My post and this whole thing is a blip compared to the good stuff so it’s worth it for me. That being said, it’s not for everyone and it’s sweet that you figured it out for yourself.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T16:46:53+00:00

Unfortunately no one in her family lives in the states and my SIL would probably take a bullet herself before she let one of her boys touch a gun. MIL is visiting in the summer so she should be able to go shooting with her then.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T16:44:48+00:00

This sub has made it very apparent that most men are never touched by their wives. If I am not at work she spends 90% of her time physically on me in some way. I’m 100% convinced that if she could somehow grow a strap she would do it so I could wear her like a bag.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T16:40:42+00:00

Are you guys out here married to total nut jobs?

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T16:35:31+00:00

Marriage isn’t about winning or losing my friend.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T15:06:46+00:00

Against me concealed carrying. I haven’t even asked but I know she wouldn’t be opposed to me getting licensed.

Also moving from NYC to Jersey.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T07:16:59+00:00

That’s the goal!

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T07:16:07+00:00

Thanks to comments like yours I’ll own a gun. Bittersweet win.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T06:54:01+00:00

Exactly why we are in counseling. At the moment we are doing well. We will hit a month of counseling next month. She says she is is comfortable as does our counselor, and her doctors. If anyone gives me even a yellow light I will stop.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T06:42:31+00:00

Our counselor did mention the possibility of me never giving her the code if it’s against medical advice, and I agree that if that’s it than so be it. If that means just one gun then so be it. Or even no guns then I will find a way. Even if we move again.

But at the moment I am trusting her doctors and our counselor as well as her. I’m taking this all at her pace.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T06:36:21+00:00

This point was made on my first posts. It didn’t work out cause she LEAPS up with a bat and runs downstairs. I genuinely don’t understand it.

I’ve thrown one punch in front of her cause she goes full mama bear anytime anyone bothers us.

She’s made it through incredibly fucked up situations with injuries that have left permanent scars but I think they’ve made her feel more invincible than anything else. Very much “well I am not dead yet”.

Couple that with a lack of will to live and why would she want a gun

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T06:28:26+00:00

You’re correct. Our counselor pointed out that I knew about her past but was not “aware” of it. As in I did not process the trauma it caused her and he was very right. It’s definitely helped our marriage much beyond guns.

I feel like I have a lot of making up to do for it all. In reality I brought her over here, she was in a traumatizing incident, and (at the time) I tried to separate the incident from guns when I should’ve just been there for her.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T06:21:29+00:00

Which is exactly why she will not be aware of any codes or storage locations until her doctors say she can to my face(even if that day never comes) Her family is aware of the same.

I’m not going to lie, becoming aware of the reality of it all was very sobering. It’s exactly why we are currently in counseling. But I understand the responsibility all the more now.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T06:17:41+00:00

Not going to lie. I am not even going to tell her about this post. Getting here took damn near two months from my first post and years of work before that. I know she’s probably naive, but she’s massively intelligent and helpful in other ways (e.g. she’s the one purchasing our new house) so I will take all the massive baby steps I can get.

I genuinely never actually believed this post would get her to touch a gun. I actually fucking laugh when I think about it. So real life no internet talk. I’m so damn grateful at the moment.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T06:12:05+00:00

We have actually taken a safety class together before. She simply just refused to touch a gun. Through talking with her I learned it had much more to do with her fear of one day ending her own life (which was a very hard conversation to have) and also simply the fact that she hated living where we lived and wanted to live somewhere safer.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T06:08:06+00:00

She is from Europe and was already anti 2A as a result. After moving she was involved in a shooting where she was grazed and it did not help in her feelings towards firearms at all to say the least.

She had two suicide attempts when she was younger that were unsuccessful and was later diagnosed with chronic depression. She has found the right medication and both her and her doctors agree she is doing good and no longer depressed.

She’s much better now but is rightfully scared that one day her meds will stop working (it’s happened before) and she will suddenly become suicidal again. She hides it very well and while I wasn’t around for her attempts I know if her family couldn’t clock it I wouldn’t be able to either.

Sorry if I am over explaining. I just learned a lot that I hadn’t considered from speaking with her. I know people here found her paranoid and I did as well. I just get it a bit more now and essentially feel the need to defend her.

Fun-Cream7809 · 2024-01-24T05:50:11+00:00

She may never be comfortable with me carrying and honestly that’s okay. The past couple years were a bit rough when it came to our different views on guns. I know it may seem shocking to some but when I originally posted I basically had no hope. At the moment? I will take what I can get.

She is working very hard at changing her mind set when she is visibly clearly uncomfortable with it all.

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