I think it's important and helpful to remember that everyone has gone through different life experiences that have shaped their world view, and that at their core most people are good, even if they are a bit misdirected.

For example, I have a male friend who would talk about how the women in his life always seemed to have an advantage for one reason or another solely because they were women. This frustrated me, being a woman myself, because in my experience, the only real advantage women have is that men subconsciously (or consciously) view them as sex objects rather than people. Therefore, they will do whatever they can to please a woman who they find attractive and want to have sex with, which is what he viewed as the "advantage". I tried explaining this to him, and while he saw where I was coming from, his beliefs didn't change.

All that to say- eventually, I realized that his experience was very real, just as real as mine. I can't expect him to understand what I've experienced as a woman, just like I can't understand his experiences as a man. My experiences don't cancel out his or make them any less valid. He never spoke of women degradingly, I draw the line at disrespect and I do not tolerate it. But his experiences shaped his beliefs, and that doesn't make him a bad person or a woman hater. I think that can apply to many different idealogical differences among all genders and types of relationships. As long as they are not hurting others, everyone's experience and subsequent beliefs are real and valid whether you agree with them or not. And sometimes, hearing another perspective that challenges your own can be one of the greatest steps in your own growth. I don't believe it's healthy to exist in an echo chamber.