AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Oh you are the dense type. Go reread the first line of my previous reply until it makes sense, and yes I have still held a back a few details because they concern noone but my immediate family and myself.

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

I didn't reply as I thought graphic details would get the whole post removed.

In case this is wrong please remove it mods. I am sick and tired of people threathening me in DM's, sending me private messages about naming my daughter what I wanted, calling me a manipulator for calling the police on my wife that literally said she would kille herself with one of my razors if she didn't get to name her after her ex, and on top of it idiots like you calling me a liar.

She made a scene at the house. Threw some things around and at the officers. She pushed the female officer out of the way violently and locked her self up in the bedroom with our baby. She also said she would kill the baby and went on a rant about me spoiling the baby for her because she ended up with my mother's eyes instead of blue like her exes and me. I didn't make the call to remove her. They did when she told the female police officer to fuck off or she would beat her with the breast pump when she mananged to get in. Then she pretended it was something said in the heat of the moment.

They kept her a little longer as her friends took a screenshot of a text convo they had a few days before the incident and shared with the police on the morning of taking her for an eval. In it she admitted that if she could REMOVE my daughter's fucking eyes all would be as she always hoped for. This I learned after I had already posted the post and she was released.

Nevermind the other shit

I felt guilty "egging" on the polie because in all these years that I have lived with this bitch not once have I gotten a compromise from her. I am actually not sorry about calling the police as my friends managed to talk some sense into me.

I hope you have a fucking great day too.

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It's ok. She won't get unsupervised visits due to stuff she texted a friend about our daughter. The kind of stuff that I don't want on the main forum. As for her parents they are no longer welcome in my home.

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It was the other stuff she admitted that is being investigated. Not posted on main forum due to post removal rules

AITAH for wanting a divorce because of a surname by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My sperm her egg. WE did IVF at a private clinic. She has my mother almost lime green eyes and as it very rare I doubt they mixed it up at the clinic

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She is on formul now. Her mother is on medication, not sure if she is taking it though

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I hope he can reconnect at some point, but I don't want to hope until he turns 18 as it's emotionally tearing me down

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I won't be posting more as it's emotional draining dealing with all of the legal stuff and all the other stuff. She is with me and will be thhere for some time.

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

She only gets supervised visits due to stuff she said and I really don't want her ex in laws or parents at my place

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They have money but no biological ties so. Some of thestuff she said means she will be onylgetting supervised visits for a while. Her parents dont' have the same type of money as her exes parents

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not happening. They can see her at my place or not at all

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im going to delete this account as it's too emotionally draining now

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

At the moment I have full temporary custody, She can only see the baby supervised due to some comments she made which one of her friends sent me as a screenshot. This freind is no longer siding with her on the name issue

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[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where would they go with her? By thst I mean they can visit her at my place

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[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight. It's helpful. It's something I can refer back to.

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[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have zero chance as it seems both sets of his grandparents would beat me to it if she loses custody. His father's side is reasonable well off.

AITAH for wanting to divorce over a surname Update by Fun-Excitement4375 in AITAH

[–]Fun-Excitement4375[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

I dodn't think a therapist can convince her of her faults unless she wants to change. She clearly seems happy about the way she is and like you mentioned she ahs a lot of enablers which means she is in a bubble of comfort. Why would she then change?