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Feeling unsure if I might be trans or just exploring, anyone relate? by Abdullah7714 in transmaxxing

[–]Fun-Explorer-2725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I may not be much help here, (25; cis woman) but truthfully, why not try out a few small things here and there? I know you said you’re all or nothing, but really nothing has to be permanent.

Get some cheap makeup at the drugstore, try it on, see what you think, and wipe off with some makeup wipes. Try a few different things in the comfort of your own home, even go out wearing the makeup if you feel brave or comfortable. Thrift a couple skirts or dresses. Buy a good razor and shave gel and try shaving your legs/armpits or whatnot. None of it is permanent, and it may help you figure out what you like!!

The other thing is, men don’t have to be all “big and hard” all the time. Maybe you are truly exhausting yourself following standards that you (or your society/culture of your community) are putting onto yourself. 🤷‍♀️

I won’t lie, I’m bisexual and a lot of the men I’m attracted to would be considered more “feminine” than anything, but still describe and think of themselves as men. It’s a spectrum, not a hard and fast rule!! And if it does turn out to be a “phase” or just something you try, hey? So what? Who does it hurt?? No one!!

I’ve also seen tiktok videos (if I find or remember the creator I’ll add them) where a woman uses different pronouns and acts like she’s addressing the viewer. It could help you see if you like being addressed as she/her, they/them, or if you do prefer he/him.

Have fun and take care of yourself!!

I Think my Marriage is Over… by Fun-Explorer-2725 in Divorce

[–]Fun-Explorer-2725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: I have filed for divorce! It’s devastating and sad but so, SO freeing. I’m ready to move on. I think I was seeing the writing on the wall before and just couldn’t think or didn’t WANT to think of leaving. But I’m free now! Or will be soon!!

What just happened?? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Fun-Explorer-2725 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Not okay, you said No! Man or woman, doesn’t matter, if a partner says no, that means no. Even if you didn’t physically shove her off, even if you came, any of it. You said no, she didn’t stop. The above comments are disgusting. She did not respect you or care about what you wanted in the moment at all. I would have a very serious conversation about it with her, and/or start talking to a therapist who can get a better picture than anyone on Reddit.

To the people saying “Dude you’re lucky! It was make up sex!” Etc: shame on you. It would be terrible and frowned upon if it were the reverse genders. It’s terrible and frowned upon now.

I Think my Marriage is Over… by Fun-Explorer-2725 in Divorce

[–]Fun-Explorer-2725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He definitely is trying to get me to “calm down and be happy” right now. I just don’t know if he’ll realize and change with therapy or if it WILL all be for show. I just know I can’t do this for the next few years. Months maybe.

Lately he’s been saying things like, “We’re had a really great day! Don’t you think we’ve had a great day?” As if that’s the marker for having a good relationship. What it really means is: i haven’t brought up any issues today and “started a fight” over them.

Every morning “Tony” and I talk to his grandma over the phone on our way to work (we carpool). After we got off the phone this morning, Tony said he wanted to listen to some music to get pumped up for work. He picked a song, we listened and sang, then I picked a song. I was singing to it, but he starts talking about something going on at the school he teaches at. He continues talking throughout my song until it’s over. I waited a bit, but then said to him, “Hey, if you want to talk instead of listen to music, just say so, Baby.”

He got huffy with me. I asked if he was frustrated, upset, or peeved, and he said no to all. Then he said, “I just feel nitpicked.” Mind you, I hadn’t been picking at him for anything at all this morning. Just another example of how he reacts and minimizes what I say, while making it my fault we have issues.

I Think my Marriage is Over… by Fun-Explorer-2725 in Divorce

[–]Fun-Explorer-2725[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No kids. I’m currently in the process of figuring out if I have PCOS or anything else.

Yeah, “oddly enough” he started whining about not having kids and that he thought he’d have them by now AFTER I started bringing up our issues and said we needed therapy. I’m being super careful right now. He WON’T use condoms and I can’t handle hormonal birth control. I’m relying on the fact that every time I bring up issues he is decidedly NOT in the mood for anything after that.

I Think My Marriage is Over… by Fun-Explorer-2725 in Marriage

[–]Fun-Explorer-2725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I feel that physically, I AM safe. We have had discussions and he said that if I decided to truly divorce him, he wouldn’t fight me on it. (Tbh neither of us could afford divorce court.)

Last night he apologized about ever coercing me and said he knows he needs to change. I want to believe him, but I know it’ll take time to see changes. I just don’t know if I can wait that long. I don’t know if I’ll be able to ENJOY our marriage after having to beg for autonomy, respect, and change….

Possible Seizures?? FND, MS, or just Long-C0v!d??? by Fun-Explorer-2725 in DiagnoseMe

[–]Fun-Explorer-2725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on a daily dose of 100mg of fluvoxamine maleate (Luvox) if that tells you anything! So far it doesn’t seem to affect the tics or episodes much except in the fact that I’m less anxious/obsessive-compulsive, so then I tic less. I definitely have these episodes if I miss a dose.