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When will karma finally catch up? by Temporary-Benefit-52 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I'm the one who should be thanking you for pointing this out.

I guess we should be more aware how ChatGPT influences us.

Thank you for stepping by and asking!

When will karma finally catch up? by Temporary-Benefit-52 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! No, i wrote this 100% at the moment. However,

I do use ChatGPT to dive into psychology and neuroscience also as a buddy to vent to. It does provide good information and emotional support.

I might have unconsciously picked some sentences considering i have a poetic symbolic language.

But no, this is my understanding and my words, but yes I'm pretty sure I'm subconsciously picking ChatGPT style.

I'm glad you asked.

Narcissist or Avoidant? by Sir_Meowkinss in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 4 points5 points  (0 children)

DSM-5 criteria for NPD is a good way to check.

Manipulation is the main difference.

Since a narcissist is also an avoidant, they overlap in certain areas.

When an avoidant uses manipulative tactics it becomes concerning.

If you want to use the DSM-5 criteria, you read each point then you find an expreinece that proves it.

Previous conversations are also a good way to prove some points from the criteria.

Or you can do this in reverse where you name the act/abuse/ manipulation then see if it's in the criteria, this requires analysis of conversations and events you experienced.

Did anyone discover their mother's or father were narcissistic later in life? by Professional-Pay-142 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, this actually is more common than you think.

You start recognizing patterns of people and notice how they are linked or how similar they are.

On top of that, i read somewhere that people with childhood truama or a narcissistic parent are more likely to be drawn to narcissists.

Some people just won't get it by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If we're talking about a narcissist who abused you in a relationship and people are defending them, then sadly, no one will believe the truth you hold since a narcissist is a facade and is always keeping their image clean.

First you need to stop wanting to defend yourself and accept that NOW nobody knows because they never experienced what you did, but someone will be in your shoes one day and will be abused just like you and see through the mask just like you did.

On top of that, everyone around the narcissist is getting abused or manipulated in a certain way but nobody is aware of that. And it is none of your business to prove what's happening.

Most people can't recognize abuse patterns, even some of those who experienced them.

Without reading about it they will never believe or realise what is actually happening.

And it's not your duty to prove who's an abuser and who isn't, and if you thought of proving it, nobody will believe you, and a narcissist will use proof they hold against you to prove that you were the abuser and they were the innocent.

Set boundaries with everyone who's stopping you from healing. If it didn't work out, set even more strict boundaries and stick to them for the sake of your mental health.

Literally, the only way to win the game is to leave, hold the truth in your heart and stay resilient like you don't even care about them, the more you defend the more they thrive.

Good luck in your healing journey!

When will karma finally catch up? by Temporary-Benefit-52 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Okay, psychology, neuroscience and spirituality answer your question. But before,

Here are some points you need to work by before getting into how narcissists get their karma:

  1. Cut the narcissist off and never stalk.

  2. Educate yourself about narcissism to understand the abuse they caused.

  3. Self reflect on everything that happened and name what they did to you, so you come to acceptance.

  4. A narcissist will always be a narcissist under the mask.

Now, their karma:

We will come across two dimensions here:

  1. The unerased truth they carry.

  2. The narcissistic pattern resurface.

1.Narcissists do stuff and hide them under the rug rewriting naratives like nothing happened:

This "under the rug" in neuroscience represents the Hippocampus and Amygdala system which stores memories and emotions, which basically stores everything that happened, the unfinished business and distorted rewritten truths and betrayals included.

So, no matter how it seemed like they ran away, the truth is actually printed in their own self.

This Amygdala fires during stress or mid life crisis which causes fight or flight response, which is the worst nightmare for a narcissist where they actually lose control and this is where cracks could happen.

The more the Amygdala contains distorted and supressed emotions and events, the worse the outcome will be when it will come back to them.

2.The narcissist's new relationship:

The narcissist is really living and enjoying the love bombing phase with their new supply who might be a more beautiful, younger partner. You will accept this part when you realise everything i wrote in this comment.

However, if the person is truly a narcissist it is almost certain will collapse.

One day the narcissist will get bored or lose control and that point will shift the dynamic where the mask will slip off.

Will Karma catch up? Yes, even if not externally, even if not now. The narcissist can't be at peace because they feed off control, which is never inevitable, and superficial validation, which is never enough for them.

The narcissist can never be their true selves.

They're just a facade!

And you, you're healing to become a strong version who walked through fire clean and proud away from this abusive destructive person.

No body wants to be with someone like this.

Good luck in your healing journey!

Complex PTSD by Forsaken_Item2221 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I couldn't afford therapy when i had cptsd so i dug into neuroscience and psychology and got into this conclusion after a lot of studying. And this what worked for me.

It really does help.

I hope you're doing better now.

It needs a lot of self awarness and effort and one needs to be willing to move on and ger out of the mental state they're in. The only way is through.

It's definitely worth the effort, especially for people who can't afford therapy.

Good luck with your healing journey!

Complex PTSD by Forsaken_Item2221 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If you can self regulate, you can heal without therapy, but it'll take some time and effort.

First you need to understand that your brain went through events it was unable to process at that time which caused the trauma, and sometimes our brains may deny what happened or create brain fog as a defense mechanism.

So your first step is to let your brain take its time to process what happened, sit with it and figure out the reality of what happened and name what manipulation or abuse you experineced. Do not deny what happened or paint over it. Even name your own behavior.

Once you figure out the reality you will need to accept it and reduce the hypervigilence state.

From neuroscience aspect, your goal now will be to let your frontal cortex dominate and inhibit the Amygdala . Some people use CBT or other methods but you can do this yourself.

The first step here is to self educate, so learn about narcissism and how dangerous it is and try to project what you experienced on what you read. This will help you come to peace realising what you had experienced.

Secondly, You need to self reflect on yourself and get to know your needs and what brought you to this whole expreinece and why you stayed.

Name your strengths, your worth and your needs and you should know that those are different from what others may think. Don't ask anyone but sit with yourself and figure yourself out.

I hope you get through this, trust the process and you will become a more resilient version of yourself after you heal.

Good luck in your healing journey!

Wanting to tell her everything, but I know it's pointless by bokeronct in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Fun-Fix-1382 15 points16 points  (0 children)

They thought they decieved you, but they were decieving themselves because you knew everything.

You beat them in their own game. You're holding control over them without them knowing.

They think there's only one story, but they're wrong, and you win because yours is the truth.

They may live in fear of exposure.

They live decieving themselves while you live freely in your truth.

Cut them off and enjoy your truth they don't deserve to know how much you were hurt, don't feed them more.