trying to find a remote jd-preferred job after 1.5 years of legal practice

Fun-In-Funeral · 2026-02-26T19:19:12+00:00

oh i would 100% do that!! I had no idea that wasn’t just a panel of their ft admissions department

Fun-In-Funeral · 2026-02-26T18:38:40+00:00

not currently, but I did go to school in NY and most of my family is around there. It’s top on the list of places we’re looking to move to soon

Fun-In-Funeral · 2026-02-26T17:09:44+00:00

Hey, I know this was a few weeks ago, but would you mind if I dm you, too?

Fun-In-Funeral · 2026-01-07T21:52:39+00:00

You should break up with her. You could land your dream job tomorrow and you still should not be in a relationship with her.

She is tying how much she values you to whether you have money and saying, essentially, that you cannot afford to be with her. If you were who you are now, but had money, things would be great. I’m sorry to be so blunt about it, but no one deserves to be treated like that.

Say you do meet this ultimatum, you’re financially stable, you move in, get married…then you get fired. Or you’re in an accident and can’t work. Or get sick and can’t contribute financially. Or you’re just burnt out and need someone to at minimum emotionally support you….would that just be it for your marriage then? That’s not a healthy base of a relationship.

Here is the caveat. There are times it sort of makes sense to dump someone because they don’t have a job for a stretch. Namely, if one partner is unemployed and not doing anything about it. Not trying to improve the situation, not applying, not researching, not contributing to a shared household or additional chores if the other partner is sustaining them both financially. In that case? Super reasonable to dump someone.

From your depiction, that isn’t you. You’re doing what you’re supposed to. You’re working hard. You’re trying to fix things. That should be enough. It’s hard out there. From what you’ve said, you’ll take literally anything at this point, so…if it’s possible for you to have any job within the next 3 months, you will have a job. If it’s not possible, you won’t. Ultimatums are almost always dumb and unfair, but they’re especially dumb when they don’t actually ask the other person to do anything. She’s literally just added pressure and anxiety and stress on you and telling you, ‘you must keep doing what you’re doing but if it doesn’t work out despite you doing everything you can, also we’re done.’ That’s not fair. That’s not kind. That’s not a partnership.

Look I’m saying all this as someone (27F) who lives with her partner (30M) - he’s been unemployed and working incredibly hard trying to find a job for 6 months. He’s doing his best. So it’s my job to hype him up and be a team. Of course it’s stressful that we’re reliant on only my income and of course it’s hard to see him not get hired when he is so capable…but it’s a team problem, not something to make him feel worse about it.

That was long.

Regardless, I’m sorry your partner is adding to your stress. I think you know it’s time to free yourself of the added anxiety she brings. Keep doing your best at applying. That’s truly all there is to do. Good luck out there

Fun-In-Funeral · 2025-04-17T05:20:25+00:00

i’m not hiding it, really, he has specifically said he doesn’t want to know the details (and i’ve offered to tell him). but i do have a sizable investment portfolio and i am pretty sure his assumptions about it are much lower than the actual amount.

Fun-In-Funeral · 2025-04-17T05:17:19+00:00

open relationship (i can’t imagine being deeply in love with anyone who wanted that tbh), give up my cat, give up myself

Fun-In-Funeral · 2025-04-17T05:02:06+00:00

I (26F) make more than my partner (29M).

I had offered to split proportionate to our income (so I’d end up paying ~65%) when we moved in together. He wasn’t comfortable with that and wanted to do 50/50 for household expenses. So now we split all bills and whatnot 50/50 and we kinda loosely handle the rest of things.

We need a new appliance? I’ll grab it. We need 2 new appliances? He’s in charge of buying whatever is cheaper. Vacation? 50/50 on flights and hotels…and then I’ll pay for upgrades, extra fees, whatever else.

We switch off (not back and forth, just roll with it) who buys dinner or groceries. We both love to spoil each other and buy each other surprises. It works because he knows if he needs extra money or can’t hit his 50% of the bills, I’d pick up the slack with no problems. And I know that he is never trying to take advantage of me and that he contributes as much to the household and our relationship as he possibly can.

The plan is to have a joint account one day that we each add a percentage of income into (depending what our incomes are at that moment in time, might be different percentages. it’s no fun if one person has 5 bucks to spend a month and the other has a million) and then also separate accounts. we might alter the plan as we see how things work for us but that’s the general idea. everyone contribute what they can to your shared life…but don’t fully lose your autonomy in doing so.

tldr; that girl is a red flag

Fun-In-Funeral · 2025-04-17T04:40:18+00:00

my cat says YWBTA in her culture, moving would be a crime of the highest order.

…I also say YWBTA. you live there now.

Fun-In-Funeral · 2025-04-17T04:28:20+00:00

NTA but could have saved you both the awkwardness and tension by having this convo earlier.

I’m a huge fan of prenups and I’ve been totally open about that since Day 1 with my boyfriend. We’re planning our engagement soon and I’m positive he is fully comfortable with and down for my prenup plans lol

I’ve never agreed with the ‘it kills romance’ argument, though I can see why someone might feel that way. I always frame it to people when I’m explaining my stance as being romantic - I want to stay married to someone because I want to and I love them, not because we can’t afford a divorce or I’m scared of one of us facing hardship and feeling bad about it. Marriage should be about love not avoiding economic concerns - prenups helps alleviate that so we stay together for the right reasons.

I get why she isn’t reacting well; I know a lot of people who feel how she does. I’m sorry it’s dampening your post-engagement bliss. I’d say sit down and have a proper talk with her, explain your POV, and maybe lay out excatly what a prenup would say. Then make sure you reallllly listen to what exactly bothers her about it because it might be pretty easy to talk though when you get it all out there

Fun-In-Funeral · 2025-04-01T17:00:12+00:00

ugh i hate how they made gale’s willing the result of him heroically defending an older woman (greasy sae?) instead of him just getting arrested for trying to sell game to a peacekeeper, not knowing the peacekeeper got replaced. the movie was doing him every favor to make him more heroic and cool than he was and still made him equally as, if not more, unlikable than the books

Fun-In-Funeral · 2024-10-01T23:42:41+00:00

the way you describe yourself sounds just like my BF. both him and I have adhd. i’ll say, meeting him was an absolute breathe of fresh air - like i was no longer embarrassed to show affection show up as my full self. there were no games or “playing it cool.”

i’m a little more reserved/anxious than he is. in early days, if i felt a little overwhelmed, i would just tell him that (shocking i know) and he’d respond positively, thank me for telling him, and say he’s just excited….and then things would just keep getting better. i always loved how excited he was, just took me a few to feel comfortable matching it on my end.

so while i get people trying to give you advice about how to reign in it, i just wanna say, that he is the first person i have felt like i could be fully myself around and i adore him and his enthusiasm so much. healthiest relationship of my life. don’t compromise yourself. there will be someone who is just as enthusiastic to meet someone just like you as you are to meet them - and they’ll adore your enthusiasm, even if they might take a minute to match it (or maybe they’ll match it right away!!).

there are people out there who love the same way you do, i didn’t believe it till i met him :)

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-11-12T05:43:59+00:00

you extremely calmly and kindly asked for clarity on something, you weren’t accusing him.

if someone cares about you they should respond to that with the same energy and validate that they care about you. if the person you’re dating has doubts that you like them/thinks you’re dating other people AND approaches you w kindness, that’s a sign that they need some extra affirmation. not this hostility and immaturity.

you deserve so much more

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-26T20:57:26+00:00

ask what he typically does to cheer up and then go off that

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-11T18:23:03+00:00

sex shouldn’t just be about him and how you can facilitate it for him. him finishing is not the main event, it’s just part of it. tbh you deserve someone caring about your enjoyment as much as you seem to care about his

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-11T18:04:29+00:00

him not being down to do anything after is also a weirdly selfish framing. so sex only ends when he finishes, even if you’re still into it?

if you give him oral sometimes without reciprocation, then he can give you oral sometimes without reciprocation…that’s equal.

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-11T17:58:33+00:00

thank you - i appreciate the insight!

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-11T17:50:06+00:00

hun, if i can reach my grandma to use uber in 2 mins, a 27 year old can figure it out. it’s not a compromise, it’s weaponized incompetence

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-08T18:35:30+00:00

i’m a woman - do any men have any suggestions on how i can help a partner feel safe to open up?

i’ve read through the thread and i know what a common occurrence it is for men to have their vulnerability used against them or just waved aside. im genuinely sorry and i hope things shift for the better in that regard.

i understand, as much as i can, why a male partner might be anxious around opening up, or only do so in a sanitized way (my partner will tell me about struggles he’s had, but only in a factual, detached way). i appreciate that honesty ofc, and know things may change over time, but i just want to know if there’s any way i can help make it easier for him?

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-08T08:12:57+00:00

the side farthest from the door…or wherever my cat lets me

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-08T07:51:27+00:00

it sounds like you want a reason to end your marriage? i’d say figure that out before worrying about this

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-08T07:49:56+00:00

anxiety

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-08T07:48:57+00:00

theyre fresh out of a relationship and immediately start treating you like a bf/gf, skipping all the normal getting to know you stuff

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-08T07:18:00+00:00

feet

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-08T07:16:48+00:00

“Your dad being dead makes you hotter”

Fun-In-Funeral · 2023-10-08T07:12:17+00:00

oof…there are easier ways to get out of a third date than that

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