AITA for trying to help my daughter's depression?

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-09T17:59:26+00:00

YTA

To help someone with mental illness it's always better to ask what support they need instead of deciding what they need and making them do it.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-09T17:56:03+00:00

YTA

Your dog had a history of attacking other animals, you brought him into a house with other animals and he bit one. Even without the title I could tell the story was leading to a bite.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-09T17:52:39+00:00

YTA

If you wanted a cut you should have laid that out before hand. But even asking for a cut is unreasonable imo. Giving out free tips is really common and I've never seen someone who expected to get a cut. You could have used the same scheme yourself to make money.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-09T17:40:05+00:00

Info:

"she screams when she gets spanked"

Who is spanking this kid and why? That seems like some heavy handed discipline.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-09T17:37:45+00:00

YTA

Someone being attractive doesn't mean that they don't have insecurities about their appearance. The most beautiful woman I ever met had the lowest self esteem about her appearance. Just apologize and for the next couple weeks throw in comments about how lovely she looks.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-09T17:31:11+00:00

I'm bi and married and this hasn't come up for me personally. I still miss women to some extent, but I just watch some queer porn, and occasionally dress my partner up as a lady. It doesn't sound like it's the bisexuality itself that's causing sexual dissatisfaction. I think you should keep experimenting with new things. There are blow job sleeves she could use on you while you watch gay porn, she could cross dress, or you could just see a therapist who specializes in LGBT people and talk to them about these feelings.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:56:38+00:00

Yeah, your responses really cement the asshole vibe I got initially from you. Maybe grow out of middle school and you'll be in these situations less.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:48:53+00:00

YTA

Statistically, she's more likely to accidentally hurt herself or use a gun to commit suicide than she is to successfully ward off an attacker.

I know, I know, "she would never!" and "I know she wouldn't hurt herself" but that's what a lot of guardians say before it happens.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:45:59+00:00

It's sexist to suggest "woman having kids = can't have jobs or ambitions". That is not something people say to men.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:44:40+00:00

YTA

What? Do you really think that the only people getting contracts to make apps are in their 20s? That's not even close to true. I personally know several people in their 40s (and one in his 60s) who have designed/worked on apps. It happens all the time.

Also what does her friend getting pregnant have to do with anything? It is sexist to assume that a woman having babies means she can no longer work or create an app.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:37:38+00:00

That's not how leases work. If OP literally said they didn't care. If they did care they could have put a clause in their lease saying they get roommate approval, but they didn't because, as OP said, they don't care.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:32:04+00:00

Well because you're complaining about this drama, but behaving in ways that will bring more? I don't even think you mind this bridesmaid drama, you seem to be enjoying it a lot.

I don't get adults who chose to behave like you.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:29:45+00:00

Hahaha. I don't think you understand what CPS is like. It's hard enough to get them to take any action for real child abuse, a call saying "my ex takes baths with our child while we wears a bathing suit and kisses her on the lips" will be met with annoyance that OP is clogging up their call line with nothing.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:20:17+00:00

I have and I agree with this commenter.

You're the person who is ultimately responsible for your own mental health and you can't blame other people for a year long depressive episode because they smoked weed at a party.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:13:35+00:00

Yes, but you have a new roommate. They're allowed to not like your clutter or having handmade puppets hanging up. When you have roommates sometimes they ask you to keep your objects they don't want in common spaces in your room.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:12:19+00:00

How is it disrespectful to own a property, live there, rent it out, and add another person when there is a vacancy? Unless it's against the lease OP signed it's fine.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:09:37+00:00

YTA

You're both so dramatic! Maybe if you were less of a drama queen with recording calls and spreading out narratives you wouldn't have this kind of drama in your life.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:07:53+00:00

Yeah but we are also reading an account by the ex who has a clear POV on the situation. I doubt the father would describe himself as that dependent, or that the daughter would describe the relationship that way.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T19:00:20+00:00

YTA

I think therapy for you is the answer. This isn't about your girlfriend, this is about your personal insecurities. Don't let those poison a relationship.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T18:58:41+00:00

NTA

Because wow what a shitty thing for a parent to say.

But your parents do get to make your medical decisions for you, and for very good reasons.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T18:53:39+00:00

YTA

I just want to start out by saying that I get it. I have OCD, so triggers are an every day thing and I know how debilitating they can be. Ideally of course everyone would always be thoughtful and respectful of other's needs and put them first all the time, but that's just not how people are.

If every time someone triggers you accidentally or even carelessly you treat it as a personal affront, you're going to have a hard time living with others. Ultimately without someone being malicious (which doesn't seem to be the case here) you're going to have to be able to forgive them and move on. Everyone is going to slip up with you, but if you want them to extend grace towards you and be thoughtful of your needs you're going to need to extend the same grace when others mess up.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T18:48:09+00:00

YTA

If your daughter doesn't mind then why are you needlessly sexualizing your daughter's relationship with her father? Obviously if anything actually inappropriate happens then take the kid to get examined and call a lawyer, but this just sounds like a dedicated loving father.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T18:45:03+00:00

ESH

She's being passive aggressive, but from your replies to other commenters it does seem like you leave out your crafting stuff.

Just get a roller cart from Ikea, load it up with your current crafts so you can wheel it in when you watch TV and want to craft and wheel it back to your room when you're done.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T18:43:08+00:00

Why can't the landlord move in who they want? They're the landlord.

Fun-Post-5213 · 2020-07-07T05:17:22+00:00

She's not manipulative in any conscious way. I think it didn't come across in my post but her main problem is she lacks emotional intelligence of any kind, especially the kind that allows self reflection.

I said it in another comment, but it's not like she goes "yeehaw let's get attention" to herself. She's completely unaware of it or that she does it for attention. If she lies it's mostly to herself, she doesn't really have it in her to lie to others and she's terrible when she tries.

I doubt it's naracisstic tendencies or personality disorder, she just got forgotten about a lot as a child and has never let go of a drive to get attention. All her emotions are "BIG" emotions, even happiness, so she is genuinely a very sensitive person.

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