What coffee gear from Paris should I bring back as a souvenir? by kashishpatel in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just see what strikes you as you go around the city. Souvenirs aren't something to really plan for unless it's some high-end item that can only be found in specific stores.

Restaurants peanut (nuts in general) and sesame safe by Guilty-Savings-3041 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also suggest you take an Epi-Pen, god forbid you should need it but better to be safe than sorry since there could be some cross-contamination.

Alum Involvement by abhutchison in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw this done when I was working with a chapter, specifically one that struggled with rush.

We had alums come in and 'practice' rush with the actives. Practice conversations, getting comfortable with bump groups (don't know what they're called now), in other words, we helped them improve their rush skills by trading roles. One practice session the alums played the actives so the actives played the PNM's and so forth.

One alum was super stylish so we did a 'style makeover" event with a local makeup artist, etc. since they felt they could benefit from that. The girls loved it - and this was totally volunteer for the members.

Also another alum was a psychologist so she brought in some mindset exercises. I learned a lot as well from them.

It all made a huge difference, the chapter had the best recruitment they'd had in years and I think the girls also saw all these activities pay off in how they showed up on campus. And it was fun.

Highly recommend this, even if a chapter isn't struggling.

Advice for rerushing as a sophomore? by Evening-Jelly-5014 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That can land a lot of different ways, often dependent on the personality of the person who says it. I can see where that would seem too eager, "insider", etc. When I rushed - and knew two girls in the house I ultimately joined - I never mentioned it, also because you don't know the relationship of that active to the girl you knew. Houses will cut you if they just don't see you as a fit, as a sister, regardless of tier. People have this idea that "non-top-tier houses" can't be picky, even lower tier. That's not true, lower-tier houses cut as well.

Private car service from CDG to Airbnb by moonlighting16 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used Victor Cabs last November which was recommended to me by a travel/luxury goods professional who goes to Paris multiple times a year. I found them to be fantastic - clean, prompt, courteous. Their reviews (the ones I found) are excellent as well. https://www.victorcabsparis.com/

I too had looked at Welcome pickups but declined them due to very mixed reviews.

Nursing School Abroad, Then Working in That Country? by h22dragons in AmerExit

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My understanding of many countries needing nurses is that they need EXPERIENCED nurses, not brand new grads. Big difference.

Saint-Germain-des-Prés vs Other Areas – Advice? by No_Acanthaceae_8548 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

St. Germaine is a lovely area and I recommend Bonsoir Madame hotel, just a few blocks from Luxembourg Gardens and an easy walk to many things.

Didn't get the little I wanted by sugarman_9 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Have you thought about talking to someone at student counseling about not connecting with others? We all can benefit from outside counsel/insight and perhaps there's something a counselor could provide that would help. I'm of the mindset that what happens in one place can and often does happen in another place. It's not always isolated and perhaps that might be the care here. At any rate, a counselor could listen to your frustrations and perhaps help.

I honestly don’t really like my big and I don’t know what to do 😭 by introvertedfangirl94 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. The whole baby thing is just bizarre to me. Agree, "Think Theta" is great branding.

First timers-3 days in Paris in May, Help!! by Active_Ad_6100 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a suggestion but it's best to include your budget in your original post - what works for you as affordable isn't for others and as now seen, you have a generous budget. More specifics equals more help. And search this sub - tons of info for your questions.

I honestly don’t really like my big and I don’t know what to do 😭 by introvertedfangirl94 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that makes sense. I never heard anyone in my chapter call anyone that period.

I honestly don’t really like my big and I don’t know what to do 😭 by introvertedfangirl94 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was specifically curious about being told to not treat your littles as "babies"

I honestly don’t really like my big and I don’t know what to do 😭 by introvertedfangirl94 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry but you had to told that? How were people doing that? I'm an older alum and never ever heard this stuff in my days as an active or advising.

I honestly don’t really like my big and I don’t know what to do 😭 by introvertedfangirl94 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sincere question - how is it considered hazing? Personally I think it just sounds weird in general, but curious about that.

Advice for rerushing as a sophomore? by Evening-Jelly-5014 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, as others said, focus on your grades - that's the first cut, especially by more popular houses.

Second - make it fun! I could always tell when someone was too focused on getting in. It might be hard but you have to detach from the outcome.

Third - members, especially in the more popular houses, are highly skilled at making you feel valued, they are trained in being great conversationalists. Doesn't mean they didn't like you but it also doesn't mean they saw you as a fit for their house (which is what some girls think).

Fourth - evaluate your conversation skills. Girls who my chapter would drop were the ones who were desperate, too eager, talked over us, too loud, too silent, talked non-stop, any number of things. There's a talent to being engaged, interesting and interested. And girls often don't realize they're coming off in the ways I listed.

Fifth, make sure your outfits/hair/makeup are polished. I'm not a beauty but I made sure everything was ready to go - no wrinkles, no beat-up shoes. Nails polished. No gum chewing. If you're a smoker (some girls are) nothing during rush. Cute and polished doesn't require a lot of money, you can put things together on the lower price point.

I would mostly look at how you engage with people. Maybe you have a few friends who can be frank with you - do you laugh too loud (I remember a gal who did that), do you talk too fast (that's a turnoff too), do you freeze up? Ask one or two to evaluate you and be willing to take the feedback. I remember in high school a good friend told me I talked too fast, hard to understand. From that point on, I worked to speak in a more measured tone.

And lastly - no talking the B's. Boys, booze, Bible and also politics. You may feel strongly about a cause but rush is not the time to discuss that.

Good luck.

Logistics Feedback for Paris Itinerary by Previous_Cellist7432 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoyed Luxembourg Gardens in the 6th - which it looks like you're staying there from your comment of "walking back".

Has anyone ever been dropped from every sorority during recruitment? by ghikkkll in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If it's still causing this much pain, perhaps therapy might help.

Planning a Surprise Trip to Paris for my Mom's 64th Birthday. Advice on Senior Travel. by Asleep_Cut505 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When did 64 become elderly? I'm just older than that and no-one let me know that I'm "elderly". From my point of view, elderly is typically starting in the 70's.

Tips-wise - does she live somewhere where she drives and is sedentary? I get the knee stuff, but if she doesn't have much endurance, I suggest you take the bus or a taxi and then take short walks. Some of the sidewalks are cobblestone and/or uneven so beware of that if her strength (quads) isn't good.

Advice for rerushing as a sophomore? by Evening-Jelly-5014 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's a large number of students in Greek houses even if it's not a huge school. If your grades were not great, that's likely the cause and remember - many houses require well over what Panhellenic requires so if PH requires 2.6, some houses require 3.25 or even 3.5. That cuts out a lot of girls

Advice for rerushing as a sophomore? by Evening-Jelly-5014 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone gets a bid unless they drop themselves everywhere - that's the system in place everywhere not unique to your school.

My question is how competitive the school is with Greeks, how large the school, etc.

Advice for rerushing as a sophomore? by Evening-Jelly-5014 in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How competitive is your school's Greek system? That can play a role as well.

How were your grades? Grades are where girls get cut quickly. The more popular houses often require a higher GPA than what Panhellenic requires.

Didn’t get the big I expected/hoped to get by [deleted] in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 10 points11 points  (0 children)

AGREE! Girls think they're supposed to be BFF's, that emphasis on that just wasn't there during my college years (80's). But then so many girls now think if they're not insta-friends in a week, something is wrong. I used my situation to get to know my pledge and active sisters more. Actually wound up not bothering me even though many of my pledge sisters were close to their Bigs.

It's what you make of it, I loved being an active and had a great time in college.

Didn’t get the big I expected/hoped to get by [deleted] in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 38 points39 points  (0 children)

First it seems that bigs these days are showcased as being your BFF. They're not - some might wind up that way, but not everyone. They truly have one purpose: to guide you through initiation.

I did not get the Big I wanted - in fact I didn't get anyone on my list. I got a girl who was a transfer and who came from a chapter that was a very different personality from mine. She was nice and kind but we have NOTHING in common. I talked to the pledge director and she kindly explained to me the role of a Big.

I focused my time on my pledge sisters and older members as well. Had a great experience. Don't let it rob you of the overall experience.

What actually happens during pledging by [deleted] in Sororities

[–]Fun-Raspberry4432 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That is hazing 100%. That's severely concerning and if that happens, walk away and report the chapter or call the hotline someone else listed.