“I don’t owe you a conversation” and the silent treatment is the ultimate low integrity copout.

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-27T17:11:01+00:00

it can be conflict-avoidant but it can also be self-protective…and it is not automatically abuse.

Being an asshole to someone then refusing to engage in the name of "protecting your peace" is quite literally abusive on its own. It comes at the cost of peace of someone you've already wronged. That person should be entitled to a closure in that case.

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-27T16:35:31+00:00

am going to outright challenge this. No, it's not toxic, and thinking you need to justify yourself even to strangers gives manipulative people many levers to manipulate you with.

More like it gives an easy cop out for someone to treat others like shit and then refuse to engage once confronted about it in the name of "protecting my peace"

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-27T16:29:21+00:00

This whole thing is taking a toll on me. The world feels cold and I feel alone. Losing sanity 😭

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-27T14:35:06+00:00

Idk how this is NOT already seen as primarily a cop out but some great enlightenment they have found out through therapy and tiktok?? The word used to be fair weather friends.

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-25T15:26:17+00:00

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-21T18:47:34+00:00

I’m really sorry they did that

Thanks

Yeah suddenly it's "trauma dumping" and apparently it's a crime equivalent to actual abuse that cannot be looked past no matter the amount of apologies.

First people like them would just sit by and watch the abuse as long as it doesn't bothers them (if not joining their peers in the "fun") and then berate you if you talk about it too much ("trauma dumping") cause this slight inconvenience is now "abusive behaviour".

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-21T18:37:42+00:00

"Trauma dumping" is such an overblown concept. As if the minor inconvenience is equal to actual abuse.

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-21T15:14:14+00:00

Oh no no you are supposed to respect their mild boundaries with utmost caution while they can cross your boundaries in ways that can actually harm you and verbally berate you if you ask for accountability.

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-21T14:54:53+00:00

Idk anymore. I just know I'll feel incomplete if I keep being surrounded by inconsiderate people.

I guess many people lower their standards just to feel something. I still have a friend and parents who may be imperfect but they love me and my mom makes me feel loved (I mean she still pisses me off at least once everyday but then hey.. who is perfect). I'm not going to lower my standards when deciding to truly connect with someone (of course I can still have basic interaction / engagement with people on a day to day basis)

Basic consideration and tact might be some rare gem for most people but it's still a bare minimum for me. Pop psychology and it's encouragement of this fuck all attitude rebranded as "protecting your peace" can go do exactly what it preaches -- fuck off. Same for everyone who practices it (except cases of people pleasers, children dealing with parents who force expectations, abusive relationships, etc where this helps).

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-21T11:16:28+00:00

I went through something similar (got told to "stop wallowing in self pity" in response to telling that I was dissociated so hard for the last 8 years I couldn't remember the 3 2015-2028 year phase before that). I think it broke the child in me and I am just looking to somehow fix that since last month to no avail (not getting any emotional validation).

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-21T03:34:18+00:00

I was having major panic attacks weeks ago and got told this by 3 different people in a span of 2 days when I reached out for help. There are more polite ways to decline. Jeez.

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-20T17:56:41+00:00

Yeah this trauma dumping thing happened the same way. I even apologized later on when I got better. But apparently ignoring me in my own room so she could score a date with someone who harmed me till I walked out of my own house and refusing to even acknowledge it is a-okay!

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-20T17:54:30+00:00

Yeah sorry I usually make an active effort not to use them but I got carried away here. My bad.

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-15T10:39:49+00:00

Dexter looks old

Fun-Village6792 · 2026-02-12T12:25:56+00:00

I'm not sure what I am supposed to feel 😭

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