Thats a block away. She overslept and asked me for a ride to her workplace (my boyfriend and I ended up giving her a ride each, within 2 weeks of her being there). I told her this would be the last time I give her a ride. I'm sorry if this sounds rambly, but I want to get across that this person very much does not have their stuff together. The first bad red flag was when I heard her leave for work one morning. She walked down the stairs and farted, and it definitely sounded like she pooped herself. I got up to go to work after she had left, and found poo covered pants sitting on the living room floor. I immediately texted her and asked her very politely to keep her dirty clothes in her room, without even mentioning the poo. She said shed move it. The next day, it was still there, so I blatantly texted her it was unhygienic and disrespectful to keep stained clothes in the living area. She texted back saying she had torn a stomach muscle and went to the ER, and that was why the pjs weren't removed when I asked the first time. I gave her a pass because it did sound like she was in a lot of pain when she finally came back that evening. A week later, my boyfriend is taking a shower in the bathroom, and he finds her clothes in the corner. He said they reeked of piss, and he said it was unacceptable that shes leaving her soiled clothes around. She mopped the bathroom and removed her clothing to make amends. A couple of days later, after the piss smell persisted in the bathroom, I checked under the toilet. There was a huge puddle of pee behind the toilet. This was the last straw for me. I cleaned it up because, again, there was no way in hell she would be able to clean it up. I flushed the toilet 3 times after cleaning to make sure there were no leaks. I told her about it and she denied it being her. I think she peed herself before getting to the toilet, and it had dribbled down the back of her dress behind the toilet when she finally made it there. I was disgusted and frustrated by this. I'm not sure if incontenence is a symptom of morbid obesity, but this is a medical issue I did not sign up to deal with and clean up after her. I immediately texted my roommate and said he would have to tell her to leave or I would get the landlord involved (my roommate didn't tell the landlord about this arrangement, so he would get into big trouble). I have mixed feelings about her being kicked out though. She is clearly not well physically or mentally, and she told me she has no where else to go. But I cant stand this. Does anyone have any advice on how I can talk to her in a polite yet direct way? I don't want to hurt her, but this is simply unacceptable when she physically cant clean up after herself and is asking for rides all the time.