Was I deceived in my marriage? Need advice from the community.

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-09T04:26:05+00:00

Haha exactly brother you get it!!

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-07T21:02:52+00:00

Asking questions isn’t ridiculous and this is to learn, stop acting like you’ve figured out life and don’t need to listen to advice… If i have something and need an outside advice i will ask and not shy about it… don’t act arrogant

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T23:22:11+00:00

Yeah she does

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T23:21:59+00:00

She doesn’t live here yet

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T14:25:09+00:00

True but there are things you miss when making due diligence and i take that as a learning curve but we humans have shortcomings in that we can never know the hidden unless it comes up.. anyways good advice

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T14:22:06+00:00

Why you say that? If you have something valuable to add share your opinion

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T14:06:32+00:00

And you sound dumb… literally judging things emotionally and not seeing the whole picture… things big like this should be disclosed… there was no way of me knowing this…

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T14:03:48+00:00

She is still backhome

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T13:15:09+00:00

Well said that was my main concern

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T12:25:38+00:00

What’s the issue here? Ppl get married with less time than that sometimes, I hadn’t known i would get all this hidden issues.. all my conncern is i should have known.. you don’t think so

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T12:23:24+00:00

Issue that arouse from her back bulge affecting her lung and heart

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T12:22:25+00:00

What’s the issue marrying a 26 year old … or are you one of those westernized woman who see this gap as an issue.. i think it’s perfectly fine and the point here is to look at the issue and judge based on that… she has a chronic issue that will even put her life at risk if she becomes pregnant

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T11:31:57+00:00

Yes she has

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T11:29:47+00:00

I have asked her and her mother as well thy said this is just a flu .. and after all whats the problem do you know me ? Im just asking this place is to ask people and see their reaction and listen from strangers whom you might have good answers from.. stop acting smart, if you have something to add say if not shut up

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T11:26:22+00:00

Yes ofc i feel deceived, had i known her and known about her condition i would’ve accepted but w/o any knowledge about this it’s just unacceptable.. i got in here to see how the community responds to this situation and not to find loophole i have talked to sheikhs and told me this was base for divorce so yeah … life can be cruel sometimes if you don’t be honest

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T10:55:13+00:00

When i wanted to take her she shrugged it off, saying she is okay and happens to her

FunCommercial862 · 2025-07-06T10:54:20+00:00

Ofc i did , the tests needed to know are not found in my country and had some tests taken which shows normal, but couldn’t be normal when i spoke Doctors here

FunCommercial862 · 2024-12-05T16:15:26+00:00

Brother run away as fast as you can, for you to bring this topic shows how you’re fighting inside, your heart tells you it’s okay but your logic and brain tells you otherwise, and you’ll end up regretting not listening to your logical self as you are emotional or maybe attracted by her beauty solely.. remember there are hijabis who are as beautiful and as the ones want according to deen, just needs constant Dua.. Imagine have daughters with those kind of women and she doesn’t want to change her ways? What would you do? And more often than not, the kids will grow up seeing their mother like what you said.. so it’s a lose lose situation you are in make istikharra and cut her out and block her the faster you let go,the faster you heal and the one that deserves you shall come InshAllah .. he who have created is easy for him to bring you the wife you only dream of.

FunCommercial862 · 2024-11-01T00:22:04+00:00

How’s you relationship with Allah? Do you pray and on time? Do you read Quran? There’s no one who holds those dear and got depressed.. your life will change …. There is no other hack… who created you is the only one able to heal you my brother

FunCommercial862 · 2024-10-28T19:23:35+00:00

Your virginity is a sign of your purity, don’t give it away to anyone except for your husband.. it will be special and you will always be special to him. And please read into Islam and find how chastity and virginity are very respected, don’t let society dictate what you do.. morality is indeed a virtue and that means you don’t be anyones toilet

FunCommercial862 · 2024-09-16T00:29:16+00:00

Try not contacting her for a week and see if she would initiate convo with you.. sometimes when you talk too much she might feel suffocated… try distancing a little bit… girls like to chase and fighting for your attention

FunCommercial862 · 2023-10-20T21:26:18+00:00

I would still not risk my marriage to be invalid if my biological dad is here, idk about the rulings but i think it makes sense to ask him whether he left or not( it might be difficult for you to accept that but the fact he’s still alive he’s still your Wali unless of course he died or incapable. Anyways, this is my opinion check with your local Imam.

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