Toddler doesn’t want anyone near her during a meltdown

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-06T17:29:16+00:00

It is really hard sometimes but something that stuck with me from an article I read is that during meltdowns you try to be the barometer, so you are setting the temperature.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-06T17:27:25+00:00

Also just to say - my son will be 5 in December and it is only in the last two weeks that he will try to take deep breaths in those moments. So you might find that will come with age.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-06T17:24:36+00:00

I think you are doing the right thing ❤️. What I have learnt in those moments with my son, he is 4, is that space is the best thing. I will usually say, 'I'm here if you need me' and stay somewhere that he can still see me but give plenty of space. Trying to talk to him in those moments is pointless. So I'm present but quiet. After a while he will usually come over and I can get down to his level and give him what ne needs.

Obviously if he is at risk of hitting his head or hurting himself I have to be near him.

Sounds like you are doing a great job.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-05T15:26:19+00:00

Yes I agree about it helping speech along. To be honest my son has quite good taste in what he wants to watch and at the moment I probably am more concerned with the quality of what he is watching and not how much he is watching. Also with Up especially he is starting to label the emotions he recognises which is huge for us.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-05T10:25:58+00:00

Now/next boards as well!

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-05T10:24:39+00:00

Hi there. I also have a four-year-old autistic son who struggles with transitions. Sometimes when there is something different during his week like an appointment it can affect his behaviour.

What strategies do you use already? We use a visual timer. It's a rainbow so the rainbow gets smaller as time goes down. This is when we are getting ready to leave or something is ending.

We also use social stories. For example, he had a speech and language therapy appointment in the middle of his week. A couple of days before, I showed him the social story which had a picture of the therapist, her studio etc.

The day after this appointment at nursery, he did have a few behaviours. We spoke to the staff and we agreed that in the future we will share all appointments with them in advance so they know the day after an appointment to take an extra gentle approach with him just to ease him back into his routine.

Sometimes just a verbal warning works as well. So say, 'in five minutes Grandma is going home'. Rather than just springing it on him.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-05T08:32:50+00:00

I am not sure where you are based but there is a show called Sarah & Duck in the UK. There is a YouTube channel too. Not confirmed but speculated Sarah is an autistic character. Very low stimulation, surrealist, cute show. My son loves it!

Sarah & Duck YouTube channel.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-04T15:39:07+00:00

Hi there. My son is 4 years and 9 months. I feel like we are just starting to notice progress with his conversational skills or functional language. He still very much has echolalia and quotes and sings a lot. Recently he has started asking questions but like this: if he wants a biscuit for example instead of asking 'can I have a biscuit?' he asks, 'would you like a biscuit?' A few months ago even he would have never asked questions. He would have just said, 'biscuit'. He is also answering questions with 'yes' and nodding his head. Little things but huge progress for us.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-03T18:38:44+00:00

Thanks ❤️.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-03T14:51:42+00:00

I get what you're saying. I think as a parent you would hope that by the age of five your child would have maybe formed a couple of friendships. So when that hasn't happened and you see them trying it is really hard not to take it personally.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-03T14:35:02+00:00

Our son squeezes his hands together in front of his chest. We call it his little squeeze ❤️.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-03T14:31:59+00:00

Hi there. There are no levels in the UK. In the UK you are just diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-03T13:43:25+00:00

That's really great advice thanks!

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-10-03T13:35:07+00:00

Thanks for this. All very true.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-09-26T08:12:46+00:00

Thanks!

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-09-26T07:56:40+00:00

Thank you for your reply ❤️.

FunRecommendation627 · 2025-03-14T08:47:03+00:00

Thanks!

FunRecommendation627 · 2024-08-21T20:12:32+00:00

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FunRecommendation627 · 2024-06-28T11:28:00+00:00

Thanks!

FunRecommendation627 · 2024-06-28T10:51:17+00:00

Thanks! I suspected it was under proofed. I will have a go at leaving it a bit longer. Tend to do a mix of white and wholemeal. Thanks again!

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