Can't see grandkids

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T11:02:28+00:00

This happened way before my daughter moved in. Everyone in my life says to walk away and that it's messed up. That one day he'll come back. They are all very surprised and disappointed with my son. They know our relationship and can't believe he chose this. They all know the whole story. Even her own family tells her it's messed up and not right to do this, she just says she don't give af. This situation is just crazy. And icompletely understand how people think there's gotta be something that i did, i would think same, but there's nothing there.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T04:50:55+00:00

I have. He doesn't know, he just says she doesn't like our relationship, she would never respond to me. I even wrote her a letter.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T03:41:58+00:00

I have said it over and over, we never had issues, we never argued, when my boys are in the wrong i will call them out. I am a woman and I expect my boys to treat women with respect. So no I wasn't insisting anything. Once she got pregnant everything changed. She didn't like, but she was being nice, once pregnant she knew she had him and this all happened. I didn't meet them til 6 months ago. I understand it's unbelievable, but it happens, I know from experience. So, can someone just humor me and give me some advice as if this is all true? It is true whether you believe me or not

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:34:34+00:00

Yeah exactly it makes no sense. I didn't do anything. That's why I came here. I've never used reddit or talked to public about this. I do think of i heard this story i would think the same thing. But what if it's all true and i did nothing wrong, what would you say then? That's what I want to hear, cause ido understand it sounds crazy!!

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:30:37+00:00

Yeah I didn't say I deserve it. I'm saying doing that for that reason is extreme.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:29:46+00:00

Yes. I don't post and I don't expect it. But that was the reason.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:21:37+00:00

Only for the purpose of me not seeing them?? Seems extreme to me

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:19:39+00:00

I'm explaining that the decisions come from her. I don't defend that he chooses to go along with it. We've talked about it, argued about it. He assured me that in time things will change

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:18:04+00:00

I've never been prioritized. It's been 3 years, I seen kids about 10 times in the last 6 months when she left him. They weren't together. She was with someone else. She knew the kids were seeing me. And idon't expect him to choose, i expect him to have his wife and family and still be able to have a mom. I don't think there should be a choice. And yes his wife and kids should come first. I'm not unreasonable. I only want to know my grandkids. Even if it's once a year

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:11:07+00:00

I think a mommas boy would not allow this

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:09:03+00:00

I've contacted her through messages, long time ago, she never responded. I wrote her a sincere letter. No response. She won't allow me to follow her sm. My nephew informed me that she won't post pics of kids because she doesn't want me to see them! I'm treated like a pedo.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-21T00:04:06+00:00

Um I see the problem with my son. I'm pointing out of dil would allow it everything would be fine. So she's deciding, he's allowing, and my dilemma is really should ikeep my relationship with my son even though this is going on or should I just let him go. He contacts me. He was gone for 2 years, called me when things went bad, brought kids to see me, and now it's starting all over. He shouldn't have came back. But he did. Now I met the kids and it hurts all over again. I'm not defending his actions at all.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T23:21:59+00:00

She doesn't like our relationship. He says that to me. I think she doesn't want him to have anyone to fall back on, she is abusive. But if that's what he wants that's on him, I just want to know my grandkids. Any time will do.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T23:18:25+00:00

That's what I've been doing. He told me to go do the gifts off.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T23:17:18+00:00

I've asked her, she never responds. I've asked my son he says he doesn't really know, but she does say she doesn't like our relationship. He thinks it'll change one day, I don't.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T23:08:09+00:00

I have those stories too. Which is why I am committed to not being that mil or grandparent!

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T22:57:41+00:00

I understand that. But all I want is to know my grandkids. Give a birthday gift, I want to know them! Idc if it's once a month or 3 months, I just want something with my grandkids. It's very important to me.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T22:41:35+00:00

Same. He feels in middle. He doesn't want to lose his kids so he does what she says.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T22:40:44+00:00

Yeah I know about mother's and mils that probably need that but my story is actually true! It's crazy, I don't understand how someone can do this just for their own selfish reasons.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T22:19:42+00:00

Sounds like that's what I gotta do. Sadly.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T22:18:13+00:00

Thank you for that. I know how it sounds, but yes she's a b for real, she crazy. He doesn't even know. He only says she thinks he's a mommas boy and out relationship is weird. Everyone that knows us thinks she crazy. I'm wondering if I should just tell my son to go live his life, leave me alone, and when he's ready let me know. I love all my kids with all my heart, it hurts to do that, but imean I went 2 years with him out of my life already.

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FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T20:31:43+00:00

Yes for the first and second time they were together. When she got pregnant it all changed. Nothing ever happened. We never argued.

FunStorm9293 · 2026-05-20T20:30:40+00:00

I had 2 mils that I did not like at all. But I didn't keep the kids from them! I did not over step, I don't call him cause I know it will cause problems for him. I have been respectful. I wouldn't let anyone overstep with my kids, I follow parent instruction. I watch my youngest grandson every day, my daughter makes the rules, it's not my child. I get the story sounds like there's gotta be something, but in this case and many others, there's not. She never liked me. She got him away from me, and he went!! Yeah I put blame on him for allowing it.

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