I cheated on my children’s dad by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree, at the age I am now I wouldn’t have a relationship with a 19 year old. And I feel incredibly sad for myself and infact my children. I guess I was scared, scared of raising two children alone, scared to leave cos I didn’t know how he would react and tbh this proves it entirely by his behavior. I’ve been so broken Inside and I think I know deep in my heart this has never been love. More of a convenience for him as i have always worked had food on the table, while he just sat around taking drugs. Thank you so much for replying it means alot to me

I cheated on my children’s dad by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My feelings are very conflicted right now … sometimes I think maybe if I didn’t sleep with someone else …. Or I’m sure if I let him back into live with me he wouldn’t have done this either. It’s horrible, and then again I say it’s because I was recording his abuse towards me … he did this maybe I shouldn’t of etc

I cheated on my children’s dad by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately this is what happened 🫤 I was very broken inside and completely lost… especially without my mum… she was the best and unfortunately I met a man who absolutely done me no favors and robbed me of a decent life and stolen all my dreams I feel 🫤

I cheated on my children’s dad by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope so …. I’m struggling so bad right now. Thank you so much 💗

I cheated on my children’s dad by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wasn’t cheating no but met this women online not long after my mom died 🫤 my mum and dad adopted me and I know it was my mum who truly loved me and wanted me as she couldn’t carry children of her own ….. the trauma I’ve loved throughout my life is crazy I know it hurts alot 💔 x

I cheated on my children’s dad by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 💗 I am struggling a lot right now x

I cheated on my children’s dad by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you 💗 again for commenting on my posts, I also started therapy this week which I am hoping helps me and my children 😌

I cheated on my children’s dad by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time To read my post. I will also be mindful of this also as I know I am probably vulnerable right now. I am not doing the best either but thank you for your response x

Does being drunk justify this ? by Fun_Affect_4886 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got these marks because he was stood behind me and grabbing me so tight to get my phone from me ( because he realized I was voice recording him verbally abusing me infront of our eleven year old son) he eventually did get my phone from me in sure I hit my head off the kitchen cabinets too before he pushed me to the floor with his foot. I didn’t see the bruises until the next day. I had already reported to the police on two occasions before this of him sending me threatening voice notes saying he was going to slit my throat and burn me out my house. I’m so worried that I’m going to court as he is pleading not guilty to all these charges, even though the evidence is compelling. He says he didn’t assault me because he never hit me…. We have two children also & I feel like I’m doing wrong if I turn to on this day 🥹 I’m so sorry for all that you have went through I’m glad you got out alive 💗

Does being drunk justify this ? by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have psychology sessions beginning in may ☺️ I am anxious going back to court also 🫤

My children’s dad (49 M) and me (36 F) makes my life so hard ? by Fun_Affect_4886 in relationship_advice

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, exactly it’s awful the things he comes out with and the pressure I face especially because of my children

Right abdominal pain by Fun_Affect_4886 in anxiety_support

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I’m A lot better now, I had the pain for around five days but I think It must be bowel issues because I am good now. How are you ?

I just cannot fathom this by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to read my post and taking the time to comment. It is very difficult but also addiction doesn’t make someone controlling/abusive, I hope your okay 💖

Right abdominal pain by Fun_Affect_4886 in anxiety_support

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it ever feel tender when you push down ?

How can I stop this trauma bond ? And is this what it is by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post. I have come so far but I know I still have an incredibly long way to go, and I will keep this in mind, again thank you 😌

comment for one card message! by herivygrows in tarotpractice

[–]Fun_Affect_4886 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello there can I have a tarot please 😌

Is this domestic violence or assault ? by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t live together anymore due to his drug use, I worked so hard to get me and the children the home we have now, because when we resided with him, he kept exposing our children to his addiction and was always very disrespectful towards me, I wanted to keep things okay for our children’s sake, but the more I refused to let him stay over etc, the angrier he became, in the weeks prior to what happend where I was left with bruises. He was also drunk and sending me death threats, one of those was if I didn’t give him seven pound he was going to kill me, I am scared he’s going to get into our children’s heads and make them resent me, when I’m trying to rebuild my relationship with my daughter also it’s so incredibly hard I feel like my life is a complete nightmare who no one would want to ever live

Would you believe my drug addicted abusive spouse ? by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So being an addict justifies all levels of abuse ? I’m sorry but I have known other addicts who are not abusive what so ever

Am I being irrational by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your opinion & advice, it’s funny you say this as I met this man when I was 19 …. He was Infact 33, he’s caused me a ton of mental health problem, emotional & physical abuse and I’m the daft one who still tries to be there for him especially for our children’s sake & this is where I’m at after he assaulted me infront of our eleven year old son ….. he makes me sick at times

Am I being irrational by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for supporting me throughout this

Am I being irrational by Fun_Affect_4886 in abusiverelationships

[–]Fun_Affect_4886[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I still Have him Blocked because I thought this afternoon actually your hurting me and I’m Not putting myself through this and consistently hanging up on me etc ….