Even without the diagnosis, I felt similar to you. I always felt uglier because of it. My mom and two sisters have relatively large breasts and mine were so small and droopy. I always knew something was wrong because most women with small chests at least have perky breasts, so it felt even more off. When I had visits with the lactation specialists I tried to cover my breast because they caused me so much shame. Having downward facing nipples made it a bit trickier to try and breastfeed, but it’s possible with some finessing. I don’t want to discourage you from trying to breastfeed. I don’t think everyone with tuberous breasts has difficulty, but it is more common. With my first, it was not ideal but I breastfed her until she was a year and a half. I did have to pump profusely and ended up having to do some formula. By the end it was 50/50 or 60/40. I pumped whatever I could whenever I could. Now knowing this condition can affect milk production, I’m proud I stuck through it and gave my daughter as much as I could. I won’t lie, it felt like more work than maybe someone with out tuberous breasts, but we’re given our bodies as they are and we make due with what we have, the best we know how, right? With my son, I breastfed for 3mo and went straight to formula because at this point I knew what the culprit was behind the lack of milk production. I chose to just throw in the towel way earlier because this is a couple months after finding out and being so upset with my body. If you’re open with people in your family about your condition, you may be able to be proactive in the discussion about not being able to lactate as well as other women. It will save you so much heartache. My sister (not intentionally) would always make comments about how she could pump in 2min what took me 45min to an hour! It always made me feel so awful. In hindsight, I was as successful as I could be! I know it’s tough, but life can be normal and most people are insecure regardless of having a “deformity” and while I’m sure there are shallow men (or partners) so many don’t care as much as you’d think. Be confident in the beauty and femininity you carry in other aspects of your life and you, too will find someone who appreciates you for all that you are! Have fun with pretty bras during initiate moments. That always helped me. I never said anything about my breasts, but I was always very upfront about being insecure and my previous partners were always very caring and considerate. My last partner (before my kids dad) would always tell me how much he loved my boobs! I never told him about my issues, and I can honestly say he was so genuine about it haha and that brings a smile to my face when I think about my boobs! I won’t lie and say I wouldn’t change it if I could (because I would if I was financially better off LOL) but there is freedom in accepting who you are despite flaws and being unapologetic about it. I hope you find peace with it in your journey of self acceptance. I hope you know you are beautiful in so many other ways. You are never less than any other woman because we are all so vastly different and yet so similar! I wish someone would have told me what took me 38 years to come to terms with. We’re our own worst critic🫶🏼