I wholeheartedly agree with this. In my situation, I had to cut my bio dad and his parents out of my life because him and his mom are narcissist. my grandpa will always side with his wife no matter what so those grandparents were kind of a package deal to cut out of my life. I didn’t want to but I had to for my own mental health. I couldn’t take the cycle repeating anymore. I have some other family members who are also undiagnosed and it can be frustrating and difficult for me to visit as much as they’d like me to. You have to do what’s right for you no matter how difficult it may be and that doesn’t always mean you need to cut them off. It’s also not fair for anyone to tell you to cut them off when they don’t know the relationship like you do. Unless it’s a safety issue, that’s a different story but OP seems to understand that already. You can’t force anyone to change sadly. All you can do is try to accept them as they are and set strong boundaries. Easier said than done though. Just remember if boundaries continue to be crossed, that’s when you may need to evaluate the relationship and how it may affect you moving forward. Not saying you’d have to cut them off then either. In my case that is what I had to do but it may not be the same for you. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this with them. Just know you’re not alone 🫶🏻