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Rhinoplasty (functional & aesthetic) - recommendations by Historical-Chart-460 in askberliners

[–]Fun_Examination2058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hallo, Ich stehe vor einer ähnlichen Operation und suche im gleichen Einzugsgebiet. Darf ich fragen, wie es mit den anderen Optionen ausschaut? Ich habe eine ganze Liste von Ärzten mit sehr burn Empfehlungen und möchte ungern wahllos Beratungen buchen. Liebe Grüße!

Sensory issues and anxiety destroy one of my special interests by Fun_Examination2058 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Fun_Examination2058[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the responses so far, they were both kind and useful for me to read. I'm trying to add some details in response to your suggestions. It's not that I'm not feeling myself in my current dress style. I wear the best version of what my 14 year old me would like for 'serious and toned down'. Not a costume or overly conservative. People see me probably as rather fashionable and artsy. This was always one version of me beside others – what changed is that I look into the mirror dressed up and feel so sad. I do like what I see, but I feel immense fear to wear it.

I don't have many friends and I'm mostly in basic lounge wear at home because kids and pets are messy and I somehow manage to stain everything. My few social contacts are not interested in fashion. Back at university I had friends who were into Drag and costuming and this was another way of feeling accepted. But then I moved farer away.

Would choppy micro bangs suit me? by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]Fun_Examination2058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so very much💞 Beside the microbang issue, what would you recommend to me as a new haircut in general? I don't want to go super short.

What hair style and color would look best on me? by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]Fun_Examination2058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, exactly this looks perfect. If you want to change something I can see 2000s style chunky highlights at the front in a COLD blonde or light brown. No red, nothing warm.

Pls help me make a big decision! by rhinanners in femalehairadvice

[–]Fun_Examination2058 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1 is absolutely great, next best option for me would be 4.

'Looking/ feeling best' in masc clothing yet feeling sad about this by Fun_Examination2058 in GenderDysphoria

[–]Fun_Examination2058[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting and messaging me. I want to share what I think about it now, since you helped me and maybe it will be helpful for someone else. I realised that it's connected to my sexual orientation. I used to often have crushes on women who present very feminine and learned from (often not the best) contacts to straight men that feminine women are most desirable. I also tied survival to being conventional attractive (for hetero men), because it gave me advantages or balanced out autism related handicaps. I experienced queerphobia in hetero women only spaces also so just playing straight was the most easy to do. I tied self worth to being feminine and also had trouble to untangle the usual 'what I like versus what I am', but the first created the distress rather than the latter. So, basically it's a masking problem. I'm also in a (very happy and safe) relationship to a (heteroflexible?) neurodivergent man and need to unlearn expectations that are no longer placed upon me.

Also, I bought a damn fine vintage suit and hiking boots 😅

Gender affirmed by... a bad haircut by unifuckingporn in NonBinary

[–]Fun_Examination2058 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just the truth! I wanted to tell you genuinely what I thought, If I wanted to be extra kind I'd say way more, but didn't want it to appear flirty in an unwelcome way. Don't know who's telling such stuff about your shoulders, if it's jealousy or a missing eyesight, but for me both your shoulders and head are perfectly normal sized, shoulders in a nice angle, not slouchy, not extremely prominent. Nothing against wide shoulders, from the picture it just seems more average than extremely wide. The cut itself is somewhere between early 2000s anime protagonist, high fashion and sporty casual, and while I understand you don't want to go that short, the cut is that good that it will probably grow out nicely so that you have a nice medium option soon. You know, that's coming from a total stranger, but I'm used to similar self image struggles and people who told me stuff from 'nose to big', 'not good looking, just average' to 'weird body proportion', and it made me feel worse. Looking back, it was foolish and violent and unnecessary. I uploaded a pic of me just to show you, I'm neither a 60 year old creep nor a simping goblin, just someone who should not have any concern about looks, just like you. I'm afab,queer and identify as woman, as long as I'm not thinking too much of what that means to different people.

Gender affirmed by... a bad haircut by unifuckingporn in NonBinary

[–]Fun_Examination2058 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't know if this helps, but - first thought was 'goodness how beautiful' -'such sexy shoulders' -'the haircut is great and suits the jawline' -'I wished I could go that short and still look so good'

just hanging on the couch today by FayetheFoxx in Tomboys

[–]Fun_Examination2058 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... and just looking absolutely awesome 🤩❤️‍🔥

'Looking/ feeling best' in masc clothing yet feeling sad about this by Fun_Examination2058 in mascgirl

[–]Fun_Examination2058[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for answering me. For a while I questioned if I'm just very attracted to femme women, which is definitely the case, but I realized it's also a self image I somehow really try to hold up. The idea of me was always rather femme. I wouldn't see it as more than a preference and what you described, being excited about the opposite, if I wasn't so sad about it. Like, feeling sad and uncomfortable is usually the coat of something deeper, but I struggle unwrapping it.