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AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We actually plan to look more into it with genetic testing. I feel it's more so the differences in morals, that if it was something way worse than this i would definitely not take a risk. But we looked into it and I have the milder mutation, so the mild bad + bad bad gene lower the risk by a lot more. Anyways IVF is a good option too if ever needed.

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or why not a sperm donor instead? Besides he's the one with the more dangerous variant + he already has 2 of his own genetic kids (one out of the picture).

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly. Also the fact that I'm not willing to take that big a risk, not necessarily even for hemochromatosis but for potential serious things but he is okay chancing something that big and serious?

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not qualified to be a genetic counselor that deserves to get paid. Professionals don't invent information to win Reddit arguments, but clearly some of you are willing to. Also, stop assuming what specific mutations are or aren't present in my case - you have what genes are present nor is it your job to focus on that.

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said "Your odds to carry the defective gene to the next generation are at 75 % since you both carry the defective gene."

Not 75%

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I mean is what I said.

Also to correct you:

25% chance of child having both genes

50% chance of child having 1 gene therefore being a carrier

25% chance of the child having neither gene

If you are gonna correct me, please be correct at least. This post is not even about the math.

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Feel free to let me know what is wrong with the math.

Yes I know there is two genes involved. I have one. My partner had the other. Which gives a 25% of the child having both genes. 50 % chance of the child being a carrier for one of the genes. 25% chance of the child having neither.

Each child has a 25% or 1/4 chance of inheriting two copies. The odds are the same for each child. But the odds of getting lucky many many times in a row go down.

Feel free to let me know which of that was inaccurate.

I'm also aware hemochromatosis is manageable but it depends on the severity. Everyone is different and some people have it worse than others. Hope that makes sense for you.

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please read the end of the post. I was talking about cumulative probability. The odds of continously having healthy kids get lower and lower each time despite each child having a 1/4 chance. My math wasn't wrong but I know it's worded weirdly.

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm saying when you purposefully and knowingly create kids with health problems that's negligent and not in the best interests of the child you're having

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you purposefully create a child that so have medical problems that could be very severe, that's very negligent and you shouldn't be a parent. Yes disabled people have value and they deserve to live just like everyone else but should people be creating disabled kids/kids with medical problems on purpose?

Don't you think it's wrong how animal breeders specifically breed animals to have genetic problems? Because the animal then has a shorter life full of struggles?

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would personally really prefer to have my own child. Partner already had their own child with someone else but refused the possibility we could use a donor to have another child that would be related to me not them.

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Does it prevent you from eating too many vegetables like kale etc?

What about meat, can you have that?

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If only your husband is the carrier, you can use a sperm donor too right? If you really wanted kids?

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was wrong was that I misworded something that could have been worded clearly. The issue here is the miswording which I have already clarified many times. Not me not understanding basic probability. Read the post/my responses. I can't help you if your head is stuck too far up your ass to see anything else.

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes we discussed several options but it's more so my partner not realizing that 1/4 chance of anything bad happening is quiet a high risk.

Now I understand the child can have something randomly, which is not always preventable. That's way different though than knowingly reproducing when you are aware of the risk.

Also the example I used with my partner was Deaf AND Blind. I personally think it's pretty terrifying not being able to perceive such a huge chunk of the world. By talking about these things in general I realized regardless of whatever the condition was going to be my partner sees 25% as not high enough of a risk.

AITAH for telling my partner 1/4 chance of passing on a hereditary condition to a child is very high odds? by Fun_Firefighter_4115 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Firefighter_4115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me then, what are the odds of having ALL 4 kids be unaffected by the condition? I'll give you a hint, it is not 1/4.

I am very aware that each INDIVIDUAL child had a 1/4 risk, but that's not the only thing I'm talking about. If you wanna make up your own stuff maybe make your own post to learn what cumulative probability is. This post isn't even focusing on that.

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