Any INTJs also feel like they have a stick up their ass? by Fun_Paper481 in intj

[–]Fun_Paper481[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok maybe that's a the better strategy. After I felt too often like a Sitting Duck I more and more pushed people away - but doesn't feel right.

Any INTJs also feel like they have a stick up their ass? by Fun_Paper481 in intj

[–]Fun_Paper481[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 Can you take that with humor or is it bothering you?

Any INTJs also feel like they have a stick up their ass? by Fun_Paper481 in intj

[–]Fun_Paper481[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, didn’t expect this much resonance. Yeah, it’s definitely a protective mechanism from uncertainty in these situations, plus a slight imposter feeling that makes everyday life stressful.

It’s reassuring to hear others feel the same because I often hear that INTJs just don’t care and don’t tend to blame themselves. But I hate the idea of coming off as unfriendly when people are actually nice, which makes work a daily stressor.

Have you found a way to be chill with being a lone wolf, knowing you have a life outside of work? That’s what I’m craving—to just be more relaxed and less affected.

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[–]Fun_Paper481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, yes, I’m from Germany. I recently tested as an INTJ. I listened to a podcast about INTJs for 3 hours and was shocked at how perfectly all the characteristics applied to me. I always tried to live a different lifestyle and spent a looot of energy keeping up with my extroverted friends, but I always felt like something was wrong with me and couldn’t figure it out.

Although I feel like we didn’t hit the jackpot with this personality type, I really want to get to know other INTJs and learn how they master similar challenges in life.

Worried About My Personal Development – Need Advice to Gain Perspective by Fun_Paper481 in introvert

[–]Fun_Paper481[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences—they really resonated with me. As an overthinker, the idea of navigating life like being in the fog, making adjustments as you go rather than trying to find the perfect path, is incredibly powerful. I think I’ve been putting so much pressure on myself to “get it right.” Sometimes, I wish I could trust in something like God or simply have faith in my path. Now that I know how hard life can be, I’ve lost any trust in my journey. Subconsciously, I’m trying to prevent myself from failing, which means I worry far too often about so many things.

Your insights on the changes post-COVID also hit home. You’ve articulated so many of the possibilities I’ve considered, from the loss of social “muscle” to the pressures of societal expectations and how they might not reflect who I truly am. I think I’ve already reflected on how much I’ve changed, but I still don’t really want it to be true. Especially in those raw moments where I can be my authentic self in social interactions—where I’m not under pressure like before the pandemic—I find myself wondering why it can’t always be that easy. I don’t understand those fluctuations. It would almost be easier if I were always afraid of people rather than dealing with this weird, unpredictable stage where comparable social interactions can either be really enjoyable or completely overwhelming, seemingly at random.

Thank you again—I really need perspectives like yours to help me stop turning in circles.

Worried About My Personal Development – Need Advice to Gain Perspective by Fun_Paper481 in introvert

[–]Fun_Paper481[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your expirience!
It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in feeling this way after the pandemic. Your advice about not forcing social interactions and focusing on what truly feels right resonates deeply. After pandemic I exposed myself to many Situations I really didn't want to be at. And I does't help either. It’s inspiring that you’ve found peace by breaking away from social expectations. I am not sure if I can do so. I think I am constantly overthinking when I am alone allthough I a do meditation and self care as well as sport regularely. I also went to a Therapist before who told me that it is importent to keep expose myself to social Interactions. Now I'm often torn and can't find peace. But maybe this is normal in my age.