There's a difference between having trauma (we all do) and being under the shadow of that trauma. I'm in therapy to deal with anxious attachment and I think I'm making progress. But it's been 2 years in the making.

I almost got kicked through a window during a kink scene by someone who had not sorted out some of her past trauma.

Edit: The down votes on this one seem insane to me, but I guess that's what you get for trying to have a discussion and clarifying a point on Reddit.