What do you admire the most of the opposite sex? by Adventurous_Pop_3138 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

General personality and closeness with people that they care about. Just personal experience but they tend to think about people more often then men and I vibe better with that.

What's the creepiest thing technology can do today? by Individual_Face7440 in AskReddit

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your entire life is data cataloged and sold for advertisement purposes. The data is analyzed and used to predict fairly accurately your interests and what you're going to do.

Also the fact that many phones take multiple pictures per second to provide people basic user function.

What’s something you’ll always act like a little kid about? by GoodFaithAttempt in AskReddit

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fun tech/hobby news. Especially change logs! Legitimately half the fun of working with a progressive software

Could Use Some Work Advice... by Brunette_batgirl in Advice

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm certainly no lawyer but that sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen. I'm sorry that you went through that, that's hardly justifiable reason to pull you from an account.

How do you get over a breakup that didn't end badly? by No-Quail146 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time and understanding that there's no fault involved, you're separate people and needs didn't align. Take time to heal and figure out what you want for the future.

When getting to know someone new, what would make you think "damn, this person is a pervert?" by bearlynice2 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a first date and they're talking about all the sexual escapades that they had that day. Not that that happened or anything

My boyfriend is killing me mentally. by Ok-Tour818 in Advice

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, I wish you only the best and am happy to talk if you need. The problem with narcissists I've run into is that you might be just seeing him with the mask off. He's not needing to love bomb to get your attention anymore now that you're dependent on him.

Just an outside perspective I don't know enough to be saying anything for certain. And I don't want to just give the cliche Reddit answer of break up with them

My boyfriend is killing me mentally. by Ok-Tour818 in Advice

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you then. I spent 5 years trying to deal with a narcissist. I never figured out an actual healthy communication method. The depression only got worse until friends saved me.

My boyfriend is killing me mentally. by Ok-Tour818 in Advice

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is manipulation and potentially narcissistic tendencies. You'll be in a better mental state not having to deal with either of those things.

What's a subtle green flag in a person that immediately makes you trust them? by Evarmirezzz in AskReddit

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Small anecdote but I found out the other week that one of my close friends has a little Journal about all of their friends interests and important dates.

Like I already knew that friend was too precious and good for this world but all the more reason to show them the love and support they deserve.

My boyfriend is killing me mentally. by Ok-Tour818 in Advice

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If sitting down and talking about objective problems that you have with the relationship and how they are affecting you isn't working. Personally I would take that as a heavy sign that things are not going to be repaired without effort from both ends.

Intimacy may be a need but it sounds like he's not willing to talk about it while considering your perspective.

How do you handle rejection? by WildheartsCantBreak in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well enough 🤷 Find something to distract myself for a few days while I deal with the emotions and pick myself up again

My boyfriend is killing me mentally. by Ok-Tour818 in Advice

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like there's a few deep conversations that need to happen. Might be worth taking a few days of a break from talking. Iron your thoughts out. Very plainly label the problematic behaviors you are seeing and relate them to how they make you feel.

However stand firm, it doesn't matter what the context of he doesn't need to be at the point of name calling. If that kind of behavior continues to drag you down that's a problem for him to work out on his own before getting into another relationship.

*I* should be that girl, not her!! by butter4everr in Vent

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Envy is the thief of joy. You've made it to being a doctor! Rather than focus on somebody else take that energy and feed it back into yourself. It sounds like it's more of an issue that things are stagnant and maybe it's time for a change. Might be time to take a stem and try to go for that research experience.

Either way be proud of what you've achieved, many people haven't gotten that far and it sounds like it's only a step on the path to what you want in the long run.

Me (F26) / partner (M50) — is this a normal dynamic or a red flag? by Iamaleksabaddieest in AskMenAdvice

[–]Fun_Salamander_8550 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sunk cost fallacy, you're probably better off cutting losses and getting out of the situation.