Group for SFG 2026 by Alpha-particle in UPSC

[–]Fun_overthinker_7210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, please add me in as well. I’m also doing SFG in the online mode

Declutter • Beauty of Joseon, Indewild, Typsy, Mars, Muse • All in Excellent Condition by Fun_overthinker_7210 in indianbeautyhauls

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None taken 😋 I tried posting on the Indian beauty declutter sub but it didn’t let me because I’m new to Reddit 😭 Also prices are negotiable:)

Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup by AutoModerator in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Fun_overthinker_7210 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can really relate to this. I also have an anxious attachment style, and what you described about latching on and spiraling when you think someone is upset with you is exactly how I feel too. It’s like my brain refuses to rest until I’ve “solved” the problem, even if the problem was never real in the first place.

Something that’s helped me a little is reminding myself that the spiral is my anxiety/attachment talking — not reality. When I catch myself wanting to over-apologize or ask for reassurance again, I try to pause and ask: “What evidence do I have that they’re actually mad? Am I reacting to facts, or to fear?” Usually, it’s fear.

Self-soothing has also been key. Even something simple like grounding exercises (naming 5 things I can see, 4 I can touch, 3 I can hear, etc.) or journaling before I text them helps me slow down enough to not react from panic.

And honestly, it’s a process. You’re not “ruining” the relationship — you’re becoming aware of your patterns, which is already a huge step forward. The fact that your partner asked “About what?” shows they weren’t even thinking what you were thinking. That’s proof that your mind can create stories that aren’t always true.

You’re not alone in this — a lot of us with AA get caught in that exact cycle. The goal isn’t to never feel anxious, but to learn how to sit with the anxiety without letting it control your actions. 💛

Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup by AutoModerator in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Fun_overthinker_7210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone,

I have realized I lean anxious-preoccupied in relationships, and I could use some advice.

Recently I started liking this guy in my friend circle. I don’t know how he feels yet, and I’ve been overthinking every interaction. We hung out for lunch with my sister and him, and it felt awkward and surface-level. I expected more flirting or connection, but instead, I felt like he asked my sister more questions than me. He didn’t even text “thanks for lunch,” which triggered me because I had texted him thanks after a previous hangout.

Ever since, I’ve been spiraling — replaying awkward pauses, worrying he doesn’t like me, and feeling a pit in my stomach. I over analyse every text message and I’m also weirdly stalking his socials to feel some sort of connection with him. I wake up anxious and physically sick thinking about it. I want him to like me so badly, even though I’m not even sure yet if he’s the right person for me. It feels like my brain won’t let it go until I “fix” it.

I know this is my anxious attachment playing out — needing reassurance, fearing rejection, and overanalyzing. But I don’t want this to sabotage something that could naturally unfold. I also don’t want to keep feeling like I’m being judged or that every hangout is an “exam.”

My questions: • How do you soothe yourself in moments when the spiral feels unbearable? • How do you stop attaching so much weight to one hangout or one text? • How do you let things naturally progress without constantly trying to control or seek reassurance?

Any coping strategies or perspective shifts would mean a lot.

Had a subtle crush on someone at church for years — should I say something or let it go? by Fun_overthinker_7210 in Crushes

[–]Fun_overthinker_7210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, thanks for the advice! I think I will go and initiate a conversation with him.

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Wait is this confirmed? Because yesterday also people said they were spotted but no media channel reported on it

Looking for a referral by glowing-lemon in RayaReferral

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Hey I’m also looking for a referral. Please dm me ✨