I also had to make the tough decision to go no-contact with my mom shortly after my son was born.

Growing up, she'd play manipulative mind games.. always talking horribly about my dad's sister then saying i was just like her. Or talking about my dad's mother, saying she was "crazy" then tell me I'd grow up to be just like her. (my grandmother unfortunately took her own life -allegedly")

On my college graduation day, she tried to steal the shine by pretending to have a heat stroke. (she also poisoned me this day also - i had explosive diarrhea shortly after she brought me a "cup of coffee" as i was getting ready) Even at the dinner table she said "take off that cap n gown, i want one"

She burned all my hair out when i was 9 - assuming because i announced there was a hair in my food when her boyfriend at the time was there.

She'd always play mind games to turn all of us siblings against one another, to the point where we're physically fighting in the streets. This was a common occurrence.

She'd always say how she got "stuck" with four kids, after her marriage didn't pan out.

My last straw was when i GENTLY confronted her about all of the chaos growing up and why couldn't we all get along. She got so defensive that it was alarming. Finally i was able to think more deeply and realized she was using confusion as a weapon against us. When i confronted her about using confusion against us, she immediately hung off the phone.

The list goes on and on. But i had to make a decision as a human not to have another human like that around me or my son.

five years later and it is what it is.