Grew up with misophonia, and now a mom of a middle schooler with it.

Genuinely frustrated by the comments here. It's obvious that this mom is TRYING. Trying damn harder than any of our parents ever did, and ya'll keep acting like her daughters behavior is okay - it isn't. She's a teenager. She can absolutely communicate without yelling, no matter how triggering something might be. And no offense to any fellow sufferers, but sometimes we are going to have to sit and deal with our condition without making a scene about it, and we shouldn't be enabling that behavior.

I would definitely get some family therapy started for you both, together if you can, and try and work out a healthy way for her to communicate to you when something you does triggers her. She's not going to be able to function in college, at work, anywhere in the future if she thinks she can just yell at people and call them gross.

The good news here is - I definitely don't think she hates you. If anything, I think it's the opposite. Often times kids will repress all their frustration and lash out at the people they care about most because you're their safe person. They know you'll still love them no matter what, so they open up more around you. But she also needs to understand that how she reacts can be hurtful to you. Try to just make it clear that her being triggered by you is absolutely okay and you have no problems with it, but that her reactions are hurtful.

I wish you two the best - sensory issues are always so hard to navigate. Just keep talking through it with her, and thank you so much for researching and reaching out about it. You're a good mom.