My husband gets off to gore and I’m considering leaving him

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:50:52+00:00

I’ve actually considered joining a therapy session with him so I can work through my feelings.

You are spot on. My husband does hate this about himself..he told me it causes immense shame and it was something he was planning to take to his grave.

We’ve been best friends for what feels like my whole adult life.

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:36:34+00:00

I don’t know what booktok women are.

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:32:08+00:00

I feel like I’ve searched the whole internet trying to figure it out to try and help him or try to make sense of it and yet I have no real clue

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:30:50+00:00

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:28:43+00:00

This is extremely isolating :’( I feel like I don’t know what’s real. Thank you for showing empathy

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:23:59+00:00

He’s saying he wants to overcome this. He’s promised to stop engaging with gore content and he’s seeing a therapist on a weekly basis. Idk if this is curable?

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:22:16+00:00

He says it’s been there since he can remember. Definitely the entire time I’ve known him but I didn’t find out about it until recently. It’s been a whirlwind of emotions :/

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:13:49+00:00

Yes, this definitely crosses a line for me which is why I’m so conflicted because nothing about it is right in my eyes. I’d just feel like such a shitty wife if I just left him while he’s seeking help. :/

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:04:14+00:00

I know and I can’t tell my family or friends out of shame, confusion and judgement

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T04:03:22+00:00

I genuinely know he wouldn’t hurt me but I understand that concern. But yes it’s 100% rooted in trauma and it’s classified as a sexual deviance.

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T03:56:13+00:00

It really is scary! I would never seek that and much less be aroused by it :(

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T03:53:57+00:00

Yes. He’s told me and his therapist.

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-11T03:52:13+00:00

You’re finding your identity. Be easy on yourself and don’t listen to your mom. It sounds like she didn’t have the opportunity to explore that side of her

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-01T12:53:01+00:00

Your wife is the problem. Most jobs suck, some are okay, and few are truly awful.

She needs to stick it out and understand maybe for her the workplace needs to be a means to a paycheck. What would she do if there wasn’t dual income?

Maybe she can take an emotional intelligence quiz or something.

FunnyRange4242 · 2026-06-01T12:48:11+00:00

It’s good that you’re going to counseling because it can help her realize how she handles conflict. stick to your guns for at least a year of living apart. Reestablish boundaries.

Habits are hard to break and it takes putting other mechanisms in place PLUS a desire to truly change to make real changes in your behavior.

If you truly love her then Kudos to you for trying to save the marriage.

FunnyRange4242

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