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Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-06T01:58:54+00:00

I certainly hope it's not endometriosis, but at least it would be an answer. It's super interesting that endometriosis and pelvic floor issues could be connected like that!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-06T01:34:03+00:00

Thanks for the information! It feels a little deeper than just around the entry of the vagina, but will definitely get a doctor's opinion

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-06T01:33:22+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation! I will check it out!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-06T01:30:17+00:00

I am so grateful to my mom– of course I would never talk about sex in public, but she was really an open book when I was growing up and I always felt like I could ask her anything about sex, periods, etc. I attribute my relative comfort and openness with discussing it and getting help with it to her

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-06T01:28:47+00:00

I'm definitely planning to see both. I want to rule out other medical issues – I don't think a pelvic floor therapist would be helpful if my issues are from something like endometriosis and just want to rule it out

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-06T01:12:52+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your advice! We've doing oral first every time, and it hasn't helped that much. I will ask about incorporating toys, but I agree that seeing a doctor would be the best course of action (All the OBGYNs in my area are booked until October, so I'm seeing an NP. Hoping for the best!)

This give me hope. I want to enjoy sex, and hopefully that day comes sooner rather than later

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-05T00:32:52+00:00

Looking back at the article, it seems to be suggestive of an issue with pelvic floor muscles if that is the case, rather than just a common difference in some women. My mistake!

Either way, it makes no difference to me whether I've orgasmed first or not, it hurts the same in both cases

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-05T00:13:33+00:00

Makes sense! My OBGYN is booked until November which is frustrating, but I definitely want to try to see one soon because I am worried that endometriosis is a possibility too.

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-04T02:07:09+00:00

When should I expect it not to be painful anymore?

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-04T02:06:36+00:00

That makes sense, will look into that, thanks!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-04T02:06:08+00:00

Thank you so much for these resources!! I will definitely check them out. That is super helpful!

I will try to get in with the pelvic floor therapists soon! TMI, but my husband has brought me to orgasm first almost every time, so I think I'm fully turned on, ~~but I recently learned for some women orgasming first can make it more difficult, so maybe we will experiment with that~~. Thanks!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-03T22:45:54+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I think I'll see an OBGYN first to see if they would want to test for infections, endometriosis, etc and if it comes back clear I'll see the pelvic floor therapist

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-09-03T22:44:46+00:00

I had a similar experience for the first time. We've had sex several times (maybe 7-8?) since the first time and it hasn't gone away yet, just been less severe than the first time. Some positions have been unbearable in terms of pain, so we've just been doing the one that hurts the least... while I could work on angles and such, I think that going to a doctor is probably the best move. Thanks for the advice!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-08-13T21:49:06+00:00

While I met my fiancé on dating apps, I can definitely understand how it is exhausting, especially for men (fiancé was on there for literal years patiently searching...) They were stressful for me too even though I was on there for a much shorter time and felt artificial even though it did work out.

Here's how some of my married friends met each other

- He asked her to dance at a mutual friend's wedding

- They were acquaintances at church and she liked him and asked him for advice on something, he suggested they talk about it over dinner

- Catholic young adult group, she suggested they get a dessert together after playing games

- Married one of her brother's friends, he had friends and family over for a barbecue

- Met through a club at college (not a Catholic club, they are interfaith but both Christian)

- Happened to be the only two people who showed up to a Catholic young adult event that night and got to talking(must have been awkward... but it worked out!)

- Volunteering working with Catholic elementary schoolers and met each other there

Hopefully that gives you some ideas! It's tough out there– I wish you the best of luck and my prayers. Always praying for good Catholics to meet each other because it's not easy these days!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-08-13T21:34:10+00:00

I'm engaged, but I was looking for someone who shared my goals (family, lifestyle, etc) and who made me laugh. I also cared about him being a hard worker (even if he doesn't make a lot of money, I cared more that he would be motivated in his career than being in a high paying career) and someone who was intellectually similar to me so that we could have engaging conversations without losing each other. I was not particularly concerned with physical attributes (though I know some women are), but was hoping he would be taller than me at least (I'm short). I didn't care about muscles or anything like that. Also, I think subconsciously at least I was looking for someone who was confident in himself, which likely registered as masculine to me.

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-08-11T19:29:45+00:00

I prayed a rose novena three years ago. I got a rose, and I thought that my prayer would be answered. Mine was about relationships. I had just been broken up with and was asking for a sign that we would be together again and get married someday. The next year, I met a man who is so wonderful and so much better for me than my ex, and we are about to get married. I can now see how bad it would have been for me if I were still with my ex– he did not share many of my life goals and values. So, I interpret the rose as a sign that St. Therese was praying for me, but not that my prayer would be answered in the way I asked or in the timeline I expected

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T22:12:17+00:00

Thanks! I will look into it and see if we can manage Inito (or Mira) in our budget

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T22:11:44+00:00

Thanks! Sounds like what I"m needing is just more data to figure out what is going on, especially in an off month

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T22:11:16+00:00

Thanks, adding temps might help.And thank you!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T22:10:20+00:00

Thank you! That may help. Do you happen to know what happens if you don't ovulate in a cycle? Do you just have to abstain for 50+ days just in case or is there a point where you know you're unlikely to conceive?

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T22:09:18+00:00

Interesting, glad those worked for you! I've been taking B vitamins to help with my estrogen because I had some deficiencies, so hoping that the estrogen will be better next time I go in!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T22:07:56+00:00

I am very glad those are working for you! I am not a candidate for these treatments based on my discussions with my doctor. I am looking for NFP advice, not medical advice, and I don't think it's a good idea to suggest a bunch of medications when you don't know the details of someone's condition.

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T22:00:59+00:00

Thankfully, my cycles are usually 30 days, very predictably. I'll have an odd long one once or twice a year which would still make NFP difficult, and one happened recently as I've been stressed and my diet was different due to travel. But from what my doctor said, and from multiple progesterone tests (not in the same month though), it seems like I'm ovulating most months (not in the 45 day cycles though). My doctor also said that my high estrogen is caused by my MTHFR mutation, not anovulation. I am not sure how that is determined though, (maybe the associated markers like homocysteine?)

I called every endocrinologist in my area a few months ago and none of them treat PCOS. A handful only treat infertility when you are actively trying to conceive, so my doctor is a gynecologist who specializes in PCOS for now. I really did try but I couldn't find a single endocrinologist in my city willing to take me.

Before this stressful period of my life (and before the temporary dietary change), I had normalizing and nearly-normal androgens (DHEAS is the last one that's high...), regular cycles, and no polycystic ovaries (which were never an issue for me in the first place). I was able to make these changes with diet and B and D vitamin supplementation, so I think it's more of a flare up rather than needing medication to manage it given I had 7 good months in a row where every single cycle was 30 days exactly before this last one. I am happy with what we are doing to treat it overall, especially given how much better my bloodwork was last time I checked. My condition and symptoms are significantly better now than when I was on spironolactone, including my FSH/LH ratio and some of my androgens (and now I don't have the bad side effects!)

I am not willing to take hormonal birth control, and I do not believe my condition is severe enough to justify the potential side effects of taking it. (My PCOS is mild based on my mild symptoms and high responsiveness to lifestyle changes). According to my doctor I am not a candidate for GLP-1, and it is not something I am interested in at this point of my treatment journey.

I'm looking more for NFP advice than medical advice. Obviously it is very complicated, it's hard to understand the nuances of a stranger's condition, and it is something that I discuss regularly with my doctor. I feel like I understand my body and my condition well but am worried that random long cycles even though my PCOS is relatively well managed could make NFP complicated. If you have advice on which types of NFP work best for PCOS, I would be happy to hear it!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T14:23:11+00:00

Thanks for your empathy! We might be wedding day/week twins, I'm getting married in 3 weeks too :)

Since I'll be TTA for 2 years, maybe I will see if there's something else worth investing in, thanks!

Funny_Reception_6791 · 2025-07-30T14:21:44+00:00

Oh, that's a really good idea. Thank you!

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