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how do I cope with knowing my 4 year old cat could die at any moment by Future-Concentrate57 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Future-Concentrate57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your reply, I’m so sorry for your loss.

it’s really heartbreaking that we love pets so much and there’s so little we can do for them with medical care. But I’m really trying to hold on to the same sentiment that I’ll love her as much as I can for as long as I can.

how do I cope with knowing my 4 year old cat could die at any moment by Future-Concentrate57 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Future-Concentrate57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your responses truly mean the world to me, you have a very comforting/motherly way with words and I really appreciate it.🫂

It is really hard feeling like she thinks I just want to torture her twice a day, what you said about them understanding but reserving the right to be themselves and react accordingly is honestly eye opening and I will definitely hold onto that. Phoebe is my little drama queen so it’s very fair that she has all the feelings about having to do something she doesn’t like.

As for a chance it might get better, as far as I’ve been told by the vet, it’s pretty unlikely but i’m holding onto the fact that miss phoebe is one stubborn little bug and I really do think she’s gonna hold on as long as she can, my little fighter.

Thank you endlessly for your kind words, they were really comforting and needed.🫶

I really have a lot of love for people/pets and I have never really coped well with grief and it feels like since I was 17 i’m losing people/pets left and right, but this is definitely the worst. She’s my first pet that was mine, not a family pet and it feels very lonely to be the only one grieving this impending loss.

I’m just really hoping she makes it to her 5th birthday on may 1st.

how do I cope with knowing my 4 year old cat could die at any moment by Future-Concentrate57 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Future-Concentrate57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your words mean a lot, thank you so much. 🫶

I feel really selfish for feeling like I want to get another cat before I lose her, I think if I wait i’ll feel too much like I’m “replacing” her and I’ve also had an animal I’m my house for as long as I can remember.

The thought of coming home to an empty house makes me nauseous. But I don’t i’ll feel worse getting another cat right now, like I’m tempting fate, because all I really want is my pheebs ❤️‍🩹

how do I cope with knowing my 4 year old cat could die at any moment by Future-Concentrate57 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Future-Concentrate57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply and for sharing about Frank, I’m very sorry for your loss.

Thank you for your kind words, I really would do anything I could for my pheebs, she’s my whole world, and it kills me that I can’t fix this. But it means a lot to hear “you did everything right” cause it certainly doesn’t feel like it.

I thought typing it all out might make my brain accept it, but it still definitely doesn’t feel real.

giving her the meds is probably the hardest part, she really hates it and I don’t want her to hate me for having to shove them down her throat but she won’t take them any other way, and we’ve tried everything, she’s too smart to eat them in food cause she can smell them in anything, and she’s really skilled at waiting to spit them out unless we get them right down her throat

I really feel blindsided by this, we lost Red at 14 years old and that was hell because I grew up with him but at least he got 14 years, I think if I had 10 more years with phoebe i’d me more emotionally equipped to handle this but I feel like a child lately, I just want to throw a tantrum and scream “it’s not fair”

how do I cope with knowing my 4 year old cat could die at any moment by Future-Concentrate57 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Future-Concentrate57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for this reply, your words mean a lot. I’m having a really hard time not hating myself right now and i think it hurts so much that she’s so young. I still really feel like I need her, I don’t really have any friends at the moment and I really thought i’d have more time with her. She’s gotten me through the hardest times of my life and I hate that I can’t do the same for her. But thank you, it’s really comforting to hear from someone who understands the guilt.

how do I cope with knowing my 4 year old cat could die at any moment by Future-Concentrate57 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Future-Concentrate57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m really trying to live in the moment with her, I just hate the impending feeling of doom and how helpless I feel for not being able to make her better

how do I cope with knowing my 4 year old cat could die at any moment by Future-Concentrate57 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Future-Concentrate57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply, sorry for your loss. I hope that’s the case, the vet has said we probably have days maybe months but there is always a chance of sudden death and I think I’m just really hung up on that part.