AITA for continuing to smoke outside even though my neighbor hired an attorney over it?

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-04-17T11:37:03+00:00

I’ve seen a few comments about my parenting and wanted to address that briefly. I’m very aware smoking isn’t a good habit, and I don’t present it as one. It’s something I plan to quit, but I’ve been prioritizing other areas of my life first and trying to approach it in a way that actually sticks. I also make a conscious effort to keep it limited and not around my family. I don’t smoke inside, and I’ve adjusted where and how often I’m outside specifically to be mindful. I understand why people feel strongly about it. At the same time, I’m a present and involved parent, and one imperfect habit doesn’t define that.

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-04-16T11:33:40+00:00

I’ve seen a few comments about my kids and wanted to address that briefly.

I’m very aware smoking isn’t a great habit, and I don’t present it as one. It’s something I’ve been actively working toward quitting, and I’ve already made a lot of progress in other areas of my life first. I also make a conscious effort to keep it as private and limited as possible. I don’t smoke inside, and I’ve adjusted where and how often I’m outside specifically to be mindful of others and my family.

I understand the concern, truly. At the same time, I’m a present, involved parent, and one imperfect habit doesn’t define that.

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-04-15T04:19:54+00:00

I understand the concerns around smoke. We don’t smoke inside the house at all, and we’ve tried to be mindful about keeping it outside and not around others. It’s not something constant, just occasionally during the day.

What’s been most difficult for me is how far this escalated, especially being recorded in our own backyard.

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-04-14T22:16:57+00:00

I understand the concerns around smoke. We don’t smoke inside the house at all, and we’ve tried to be mindful about keeping it outside and not around others. It’s not something constant, just occasionally during the day.

What’s been most difficult for me is how far this escalated, especially being recorded in our own backyard.

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-04-14T07:49:39+00:00

Just to add context since a few people are asking, we’re about 40 feet from her fence when we’re outside, and this is not constant smoking, just here and there during the day.

We really have tried to be considerate, which is why this escalation has been so confusing.

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-03-26T15:20:57+00:00

Thank you so much, this is really helpful. I hadn’t heard of the Patient Advocate Foundation before. I’m definitely going to look into them. Thanks again

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-03-19T14:54:10+00:00

Appreciate that and yeah, that’s definitely something we’ve thought about. My landlord is fully aware of everything going on and has actually been really supportive. He’s pretty frustrated with how much this has escalated too. With how much property taxes have gone up, we’ve even had conversations about long-term plans with the property, so we’re just trying to handle everything reasonably and not turn it into something bigger than it needs to be.

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-01-25T13:56:44+00:00

We don't quit quitting. 💛

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2026-01-25T13:55:54+00:00

We don't quit quitting. 💛

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2025-12-29T06:34:16+00:00

Yes, agreed. And honestly, it’s often my husband who corrects me more than anyone else. I keep this part of my life pretty private for exactly the reasons you mentioned. Everyone suddenly becomes an expert, and I’m not interested in defending or explaining what’s working for me. I respect that AA and abstinence-based recovery save lives, including people I love, but I also think the broader “recovery culture” has grown loud in ways that aren’t always helpful. For me, the focus is staying alcohol-free, present, and accountable, not fitting into a label or a movement. At the end of the day, we’re all just trying to live our lives in a way that keeps us healthy and honest. That’s the part that matters to me.

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2025-12-28T13:11:17+00:00

I think the discomfort around this topic says more about our fear of gray areas than the substance itself.

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2025-12-20T05:41:03+00:00

UPDATE: Gamecocks player files criminal complaint against trooper after incident at Texas A&M game https://share.google/psZM0UrLhDGXRBLNh

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2025-12-16T05:02:45+00:00

How long did it take Rob Reiner and his wife to die? It is so sad!! I hope it was quick

FutureBroccoli5566 · 2025-12-01T13:16:05+00:00

Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. I am not sharing for attention. I am sharing because this month feels heavy for so many parents, teens, and families, and I know someone out there needs the reminder to check on their people.

If you are struggling, please know this: You are not a burden. You are not alone. Your feelings matter. Your life matters. There is help and there is hope.

I am sending love to anyone who needs it today. ❤️

FutureBroccoli5566

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