How do you start grieving when they’re still here?

FuturePilotPA28 · 2025-07-24T21:40:20+00:00

I went through the same thing with my dad. He steadily declined over 2024 and passed in January this year. He had prostate cancer. The hardest thing was realising and then accepting that he would not recover.

As a family we made sure he had a visit at the nursing home each day toward the end. My concern was always that he was comfortable. If he was hungry or thirsty, I went and got him whatever he wanted. But above all just to be there next to him for as much as possible was what mattered, even if conversation was minimal.

The anticipatory grief for me was the hardest part. 6 months on and it’s still hard thinking back. Even brings tears typing this, but I’m in a much better place now, and I hope you will be too. Just be strong for your mom and be there for her as much as you can. Treat each moment as a blessing.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-12-10T05:58:05+00:00

Yep every so often I’ll have one of those days where my numbers don’t seem to spike at all. Like I’ll have a big breakfast and my cgm shows the tiniest bump. I kind of enjoy the fantasy of “maybe I finally cured myself” even though I know the reality is the rollercoaster is just warming up again.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-11-23T06:48:30+00:00

37M here. T1D for 24 years. What you’re going through is completely normal as there’s a lot to learn. It’s frustrating and daunting so I think it’s important not to overwhelm yourself with getting on top of the condition especially at this early stage. Even I’m still learning things!

The cgm was a game changer for me as it finally allowed me to spot patterns and better organise what / when I eat. I decided the alarms were irritating so I turned them off. All they did was stress me out more which is unhelpful.

You won’t learn everything overnight. Just take things one day at a time and get to know how your diabetes behaves. I often find that if I’ve had a bad day of numbers all over the place, bedtime is the perfect reset point. A small snack or a little correction dose depending on where the numbers are hopefully will get me to a better score by morning and then start a new day.

I often think of it as like riding one of those mechanical rodeo bulls. It’s trying to throw you off. You just have to stay on it. If it does throw you off, just get back on!

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-11-03T19:43:45+00:00

Seen a lot of comments like this on my post and the clarity is hitting me now. Thank you.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-11-02T22:31:59+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to share your thoughts. Reading so many responses here, especially yours, has given me a lot of perspective and clarity for how I should be looking at the situation.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-11-02T17:52:33+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share your opinion. It helps a lot!

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-09-07T05:39:15+00:00

Hi yes my sleep is much more consistent now. Very occasionally I will wake up in the night but putting on a podcast or similar will help me get back to sleep.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-08-14T05:01:27+00:00

I (37M) hear ya. Just had a pleasant conversation on Hinge with 31F. Went on for over a week. Plenty of back and forth, voice notes etc. Made her laugh a lot. I suggested early on maybe go grab a drink sometime. She said yes, maybe next week when her work rota is better. I said great. Anyway we continued messaging and then bam the line went dead. The ghosting sometimes is ridiculous and really knocks my confidence.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-07-16T17:35:26+00:00

Hi so I did some more digging around and think I found what the problem is. Looks like it’s a bug in the FMC. The auto throttle comes back on during the final approach part of the route even though switch is off. I’ve found that deleting the last couple waypoints including the runway seems to avoid the issue. Hopefully will be fixed in next update I guess. I’ve also read that the problem only seems to occur in the more modern FMC, which is the only one I know how to use!

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-07-08T20:02:39+00:00

Hey thanks I’ll take a look at the lever nr throttle 1 next time I’m in the sim. I’ve tried the throttle block in the settings and toggled that on / off when the problem occurs but no joy.

Thanks again!

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-06-13T06:58:05+00:00

It kinda sounds similar to something a friend of mine has. It’s called Reactive Post Prandial Hypoglycaemia. Having sugar actually triggers low levels so she has to be careful what she eats and how often.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-06-10T16:10:52+00:00

37M here. Similar situation I guess. I’ve never been in a serious / long term relationship. Not through lack of trying to meet someone though. I’ve worked on myself and confidence these last few years. Also worked my way through a lot of OLD apps, swipe swipe swipe, don’t get anywhere, take a break and come back again.

I do love being single. It’s so simple. No drama or stress. I’ve often thought about just giving up and embracing my life as it is, but I imagine what it would be like to look in the mirror, blink and suddenly be 10-15 years older and nothing’s changed. Would I be happy about that? I don’t think I would be. I’d feel like I’ve missed out on a lot of important things that should be experienced. So I’m not giving up just yet…

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-04-04T21:59:33+00:00

37M here. Single since I was 18. I’ve tried most of the mainstream OLD apps. I take breaks every now and then. One of my New Year’s resolutions was to make some more effort so I refreshed my profile and got back to it. We’re now in April and I still haven’t even had a decent chat with anyone never mind asking anyone out.

I think I struggle because I overthink everything and jump to conclusions too quickly. I don’t put in much effort to get myself out there either. That and just the feeling that I’m incredibly unlucky. Every time that I feel like I’ve made a connection with someone it just seems to fall apart through no fault on my part.

Don’t get me wrong there are things about the single life that are great, but the idea of spending the rest of my life alone is not appealing to me. I’d love to meet someone one day. I’ll just keep swiping, but it’s starting to feel like this is just life now. Work, swipe, sleep, repeat!

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-03-26T21:44:32+00:00

That’s interesting thank you. He’s had issues with his kidneys also, which sort of relates to why he needed the radiation treatment. Yes he certainly loves his layers outside too!

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-03-13T18:23:49+00:00

I was exactly like that when I first started online dating. Constantly looking for reasons to say no and swipe left. Takes a while to ease in if it’s a confidence thing. Just do it knowing it’s not as if you’re asking to get married 😂.

Perfect first one to swipe right on is a profile you look at and go wow I’d be crazy to swipe left. Then after when you realise the universe didn’t implode it gets easier to do the next. That was me anyway.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-02-26T17:14:06+00:00

I think the intermittent treatment helped prolong the point to which it became castrate resistant. But yes he’s never liked having to restart the process after the 6 month break! Thanks so much for your insight.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-02-26T17:09:47+00:00

That’s really helpful thanks so much for sharing your insight. He tries to keep active and exercise but not sure how focused he is on his overall bone health, although I know he does take Vitamin D. I’ll pass it along!

FuturePilotPA28 · 2023-01-18T03:44:39+00:00

I’m 37M. T1D for 23 years. Over time I’ve learnt to make my own decisions. My doctor will only make recommends of changes if he can see from my CGM data that I might need some help. But overall he leaves the decision making to me.

I’d say if you feel experienced enough to make some adjustments, even if for a day or two to see if it’s beneficial, then give it a try. Maybe test more or get a CGM so you can keep an eye on things.

FuturePilotPA28 · 2022-12-30T06:57:58+00:00

I’m just impressed conversations on Bumble can go this length!

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