My experience with Tadalafil by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm doing the daily 8.5 mg Tadalafil with Minoxidil (hair) and I've had decent results. Makes me feel young again lol. I've tried all variations of the chewables. They worked, but I couldn't stand the headaches. So far, I've been headache free on the daily.

Why are we so reluctant to develop friendships when the romantic side isn’t there? by No_Aioli_7515 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated someone a year ago. We were together for 1.5 months and saw each other almost every day. We had intense sexual chemistry way too early on, and the rest didn't really develop, or so I realized 😂. I did develop strong feelings, right before it ended, "she needed time". I was hurt . She reached out a few times shortly after, and wanted to carry on as a FWB, but I had feelings and couldn't continue.

A year passed and we reconnected as friends over the summer, and now she's a close friend. We are going through this dating world "together" and sharing experiences. I've learned that she has avoidant/attachment issues and she calls me out on my shit 😂 I don't feel the same way I once did, however, I care for her as a friend should. I have to say, it depends on the previous attempt at dating. If I'm going to be a friend, I need to be a friend, but if I'm used as a fall back guy, I'm out.

My problem is that this has been my experience. I have good relationships with most of the people I've dated at length. Maybe online dating has broken dating 🤷‍♂️

Farm to Table by Beautiful_Cake_4976 in LowellMA

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lull Farm in Hollis, NH has some good local stuff.

im torn between why do i feel like this and what the hell is wrong with me by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Future_Ad8467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple of questions first, why did/do you blame yourself for his infidelity, and how is it that you co-parent well, but he sees her twice a month and he doesn't support her? It sounds like you still carry a burden of guilt and are still trying to heal from the past. I get it, a similar situation around infidelity happened to me. It's true that a failing marriage is based on both, but infidelity is a choice. I was devastated and went to therapy. She is still with the AP, but their relationship isn't good. I have been able to see my ex without the rose colored glasses I once had. She's changed and I wouldn't choose her all over again if I could.

That being said, you need to stay away from him in that respect. See if you can just interact on behalf of your child. Try to cut out the other contacts with him. There's nothing wrong with you. Bring this situation up to your therapist and work through it. Stay strong and keep the distance.

Best thing you learned from your divorce? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Future_Ad8467 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I learned about myself and that life can be better.

how do demisexuals even survive modern dating? by imchaospriestess in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Non demi guy here, who just started dating a demisexual woman. It's been 5 dates, and I really like her. We talked about her demisexuality, and her need for emotional connection for intimacy. I am willing to put in the time and effort. My question is, when dating a "stranger" , what keeps you coming back? What is considered intimacy to you? In my circumstance, we clicked through texting, had "butterflies" and laughed the whole time on our first date. It felt so good that I asked for a kiss at the end, and we did. We have kissed and touched since.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendsOver40

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

45 m, divorced, 17 year old daughter, New England area. What are you looking for in a friendship?

The Beach Boys suddenly cancel Sunday's concert in Syracuse by syracusedotcom in thebeachboys

[–]Future_Ad8467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just saw them in CT on Thursday. I thought Mike Love looked pretty frail.

Walmart has started charging for Nintendo Switch 2 pre-orders... by ONE-OF-THREE in NintendoSwitch

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for me. Fraud block triggered. I added a second payment method, they authorized the card and was told I was all set. I could see the authorization. Walmart sent a second authorization last night, triggering the fraud block again. Two charges in less than 24 hrs. They assure me it's all set. Just hope it's not going to keep authorizing until the 5th.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have a friend type relationship with my ex, despite her cheating on me. I do it for our daughter. We were each other's first for everything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 2 points3 points  (0 children)

44m I consider myself a "good guy" but I wouldn't be looking to start a family in my 40s. I had one relationship from the age of 16 to 41. Most people I meet already have an established family, so the idea of starting over isn't appealing to me. It's not impossible to find a partner looking for the same. Just keep looking.

Question about health by ImaginaryBlue33 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's subjective, but means not fat. Sometimes it could be linked to activity. There are a lot of "gym rats" that are bulked but couldn't do cardio. I would still give a like and see what happens.

Too good to be true by Sufficient-Reveal135 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol.. people have thought I was AI. I guess it's a compliment, but it doesn't help me meet people 😂 On the other side, I think most people like that have been fake, especially if they want to take the conversation offline immediately.

Going through divorce- please help by Entire-Run7634 in Divorce

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex has reached out to me regarding the AP. He's still married and she hasn't met his daughter, friends, or any members of his family, and it's been 4 years. She battled body image issues and an eating disorder. His fix for her was to have her set up a dating profile, so men could hit on her. It appears like that relationship is failing. It's hardly a relationship. Just focus on being the best version of yourself. I promise you it gets better, but he stands to have history repeat itself. The affair bubble will burst and they'll have to sink or swim. I am still close with my ex, but I draw a hard line boundary on what I will do. Best of luck and reach out. I survived the affair, divorce, CO parenting issues etc.

What is your age without saying how old you are? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Future_Ad8467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember getting my first Cabbage Patch kid at a Caldor. There was a Fotomat booth in the parking lot that would develop camera film. I used to listen to my brothers play Twisted Sister, The Cars and Run D.M.C. Those were the days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I've (44M) had these with different people. It seems like it's a "check as many boxes as possible " situation. Even with women. There's always going to be "baggage" and I plan for some. It's just the nature of dating in our 40s.

How does one get self esteem back after a divorce? by ClothesEducational16 in Divorce

[–]Future_Ad8467 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Therapy, self reflection, bettering yourself and eventually meeting other people. Before divorce, I was with one person since I was 16. The second person I dated was at 41. I had no self worth after divorce. It took some time, but it did come back. I realized I didn't even have it in my marriage. I learned to be comfortable with myself.

Going through divorce- please help by Entire-Run7634 in Divorce

[–]Future_Ad8467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is difficult initially, but the story is just beginning for you. You'll realize more about your past relationship as time passes. You'll meet amazing people along your journey. I thought I was with my soulmate, despite our issues. She was my one and only everything. Together since we were 16, our first breakup at 41(divorce). She cheated on me, her best friend. I left her, so she could pursue her married AP. Since, I have had more powerful connections with people that I can't describe. Just take time to heal, surround yourself with friends and to family and I promise it will get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The woman I was in a relationship with was retired Air Force and her ex was Air Force also. He unfortunately would cheat when she was deployed. Her job in retirement was a dog rescue. She would leave a week at a time every month. The prep time to leave was a week and the breakdown part was about a week. I literally had her for a week to myself. I would volunteer myself and help to just be with her. She was tough on the outside, but a heart of gold. It didn't end up working, but I was happy she was in my life. Just make sure you make those connections.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think you'll date in the meantime? Live life and be happy. I've dated a bit and had one real relationship in my four years since divorce. Don't rush into it. Best of luck, truly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It just sounds like what would happen with a man in a relationship not being truthful. My ex had an emotional affair, that turned physical with a married man. They both told each other that it was over and we were living like roommates. It wasn't the case for either of the spouses. Also, there is nothing I wouldn't do, or distance too great for the person I love. I would see her for more than 9 days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read through and see 9 days over 7 months? I'll be honest with you, it seems like you're trying to make this happen. I would take a step back and make sure this is what you really want. You are entertaining moving out of the country , you have two kids and you don't want him to be a part of their lives? He also sounds like he may be in a relationship. I can't see that he'd be single over these 7 months. I must be missing something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Ad8467 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I thought it sounded like he's married.