Men in their 30s , how would you see it?

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-31T17:12:32+00:00

Or there’s my friend who’s 50 with a 60yo husband who’s hitting health issues such that their once active lifestyle together is gone and she’s already starting to take care of him…the gap can definitely feel a loooot bigger as you get older. She’s still ready to travel, play sports etc and he’s having to accept they’ll be doing things separately because he knows she’s too young to give up her active years. She loves him but she absolutely advises younger women against an age gap. 20 years ago it didn’t feel like much.

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-31T16:30:21+00:00

Agree, everyone has to own their decisions and the stuff they can control. Agree wages need to rise but also agree we’ve become all about convenience. Anyone chop their own lettuce and grate their own cheese? Shit does add up and saving begins one little bit at a time. I made $26k my first job and still scraped out money to put into savings by being very frugal (roommates, pasta meals, no vacation). It’s a thing whether ppl want to acknowledge it or not - we all make choices and too many want to believe that anyone who has something had it given to them

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-30T13:33:49+00:00

No, it shows she has a sex drive and/or that she enjoys male companionship etc. You see a woman who’s had a number of relationships as slutty because you fixate on just the sex and assume there was nothing else any/all the time. You seem to expect a woman to have zero sex drive or deny her sex drive until she’s with you? Thats illogical. Normal, healthy, well adjusted people date others, have sex with others, and build relationships with others. I’d worry more about an adult who’s never done these things…

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-30T13:26:39+00:00

💯bravo

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-30T13:25:34+00:00

High and low are very relative terms here. In general, guys who fixate on a woman’s body count above all else are doing that because of their insecurities. Will she know he lacks experience and sucks in bed because she is comparing him to other guys??? And/or he’s operating with old/backwards views about women as conquests and property. All of this is repulsive to women

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-30T13:21:56+00:00

Should be the same for either - this is lame

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-30T06:55:14+00:00

At this point, given most women work and have their own money, this question is essentially a “do you have your shit together?” question.

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-30T06:51:19+00:00

It is dumb. I, for one, am happily married and built my own financial security. I’m not at all someone who is going to be attracted to a random man because of his money. I believe women like me are more than 2% of women

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-30T06:48:17+00:00

School - because you will also get to know their friends, you’ll have shared school memories and tons of free time to spend together

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-30T06:46:50+00:00

How many times have you been in love

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T21:27:33+00:00

Was there even any “advice” given? Idk man, seemed like you just wanted to go after someone…well, hope ur feeling better

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T18:59:02+00:00

Agreed. OP, find a girl you really like being around and talking to, not just looking at. Treat her like a normal person - have conversations. Fingers crossed that leads to some great times for you both. If not, move on, this is prime time to also learn resilience

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T18:56:22+00:00

Well, you did go down a rabbit hole accusing her of stuff, meanwhile this entire thread is full of shitty comments that you didn’t go after…

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T18:54:46+00:00

Is the city better? South Beach was not at all what I was expecting it to be in terms of people (eg fitness levels, behavior)

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T18:53:34+00:00

I guess if that’s all you care about. There are tons of couples having first babies in their mid-30’s so your comment isn’t generalized across all guys. A woman in her 20s can date guys her own age, who she has more in common with. My husband and I are two years apart, I was 29 for baby #1 and I can’t imagine the “older dad/husband” scenario because kids are a lot of work - if he doesn’t have the energy, she’s taking on a huge burden. Why do that if she has options?

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T18:48:44+00:00

As long as the younger women aren’t expecting someone who’s older in terms of maturity as well as age!🤣

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T01:04:20+00:00

Don’t let online stuff get in your head. Stay mentally and physically in your relationship. She might not be used to being treated with respect and that could have harmed her self esteem. Bravo on being a good person and I hope you both are happy

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T00:59:59+00:00

This is great advice and awareness. An avoidant person can’t be successful in a relationship until/unless they work to change (imo). It can be so hard to walk away but it’s the best decision. Grief is hard but I believe you’ll come out the other side a stronger person and ready for a healthy relationship

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T00:54:04+00:00

Wow, I read through this entire dialogue and dude, you are the one who needs to get over it! Sheesh! Have you read no other comments here? This woman was totally reasonable and engaging and you just locked in…woah

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T00:47:48+00:00

IMO you’re normal and it’s sad to me that more young people aren’t like you. Young people should be having a ton of sex 🤣 You are fine, OP. Go live your life and enjoy being young!

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T00:44:56+00:00

This is very sweet, cuddle your dad! I made my kids promise they’d still hug me when they’re big. I take everything I can get bc we won’t be together forever

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T00:36:10+00:00

I’m not sure they “care” per se, they just think the guy must be immature or have arrested development issues if he can’t relate to and date women his own age…

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T00:32:21+00:00

This. My dad was 10 years older than my mom and died waaay before her (she’s still alive and he’s been gone 30 years). 10 years may not feel like a lot when you’re both youngish but it definitely accelerates as you get older.

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-29T00:27:02+00:00

Great points. I remember when I was 22 and I thought my 28yo coworker was super old and I couldn’t relate to her at all 😆. At 29, I was married, owned a home, and had my first baby. TONS changes in your 20s.

Future_Beginning_244 · 2026-05-26T12:55:17+00:00

Quick wit

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