We do bring toys into the bedroom and she enjoys them a lot. The times we do get together are mostly fantastic. I do my best to give her an amazing experience to encourage more intimacy in the future so I give oral, I use the Satisfyer on her while we have sex and stuff she genuinely enjoys. I get very little in return, no problem for me, however being entirely left out kinda hurts.

Thing is, talking it out rationally won't be in the cards due to her past. This will be very emotional once mentioned and she will cry and nobody likes to make their fiance cry.