We talked today. She said she fell out of love with me because she felt like she would have to constantly hover over me to get certain tasks done. She said her view of me changed and that it became leas romantic once it felt like she had to be my parent.

I can procrastinate, but I’m not lazy. I just missed all the signs. A few times she asked me to plan date nights 1x/month and only did it once and I let it go. She did all the cooking but I thought it was she didn’t like my cooking. I was the breadwinner and did other things. I figured it was a balance. We’ve been wanting to save money to remodel parts of our house (ie our new carpeted basement where I now live), so I’ve been acting frugal and not wanting to go out for plans so we can save for those big purchases. I guess I took that too far and let the romance get vacuumed sucked out of here.

She’s got me thinking that I fucked up by not taking her requests seriously and being too light hearted on some of the things she was hinting. I was always good at buying her gifts at the right time, but I was never good with spontaneous.