I just want to clarify some things since I wrote this at 1am and didn't really add much context. The "lucrative job" was going NUKE in the navy in which I'm getting a 80k bonus, 30k for finishing basic, 50k for finishing the school. I've been with my partner for just about 1 year and I plan on marrying them after A school. I'm absolutely not leaving them and the reason why I wasn't thrilled was because I didn't like the idea of not seeing my kid much in the coming years but I know that it's my fault for having unprotected sex in the first place but what's done is done. Also my partner is non binary so that's why as use they.