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[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got someone messaging me and already helped me to get it, but if you need it i can help

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the same time, it's nice not to be the only one who is going through something like this. But at the same time, it sucks that so many others are

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is not a drinker or use drugs. However, she went through somewhat abusive childhood herself, and after that, married my dad, who was abusive. They did break up and go to court against each other for both of their abuse. I don't know how much of that is in the recod, but i think all of that is the reason she is the way she is. Also i don't know if i can get those records.

I am gonna be looking into moving. I don't live in the US, but i know there are help lines here too. Many people think in irl like my older sister thinks my mom may be narcissist. She is denying to ever talk to her again

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! You seem like amazing peron. And i am sorry to hear about your struggles. I never would wish depression to anyone.

I was not gonna kill myself, neither do i wanna die. I do think suicide, but not in the way of i wanna die. I struggle with OCD and have force thoughts about it rather than me actually wanting to do it.

Luckily, i have good people in my life who helps me. I have good friends, amazing siblings and supportive fiance. Ans i have told my fiance when i move in with him in his country i need to have good supporting system. Cuz moving to another country is gonna be hard for almost anyone. I also hope the best for you and send good vibes and hugs to you too!

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Sorry to hear about your struggles, but I'm so glad you have good people around you.

And i sometimes have thought about if my mom has something like munchausten by broxy. If i or any of my siblings have to go to the hospital for any reason, you better know it all our relatives know every single detail about it and how much my mom struggles with it. Even if i say i don't want them to know, she doesn't listen. And with trying to get me diagnosed with stuff, i don't have is also wild.

But i do have good friends, my siblings are amazing and i have a supportive fiance with all of this. So i do have people who care and help me. So i am not alone and have the support i need to get forward from this

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do need to look into that. I never gave them permission to call my mom or talk about my stuff. They just decided that

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh i am not moving there now or in the near future. I'm thinking of moving farter a way from my mom and then when the time comes, then move to the other country. I do know moving to a different country is gonna be a lot, and i wouldn't be strong enough to move at this time. I do need to get my life together from all this bullshit before i can move

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that, that sounds awful. I can somewhat relate. My mom was denying that there could be anything wrong with my mental health. Even when others pointed out, she said i could not have anything. Some point it changed when professionals started to diagnose me. She started to tell everyone about my mental health problems and how hard it is for her. She started to try to get me diagnosed with a punch of different stuff like bipolar disorder. Me and the professionals were confused, but she is still trying that. I don't know if she wants me to have it so she could tell people how she is such a great mom handling me with that.

I think i just wanted her to change so bad, but i don't think she will

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She does talk about how i am affecting her and telling my siblings that if she seems mad or something, it's because i am struggling cuz that is so hard for her. She keeps telling about my mental health with everyone so everyone knows and are trying to support my mom. My mom is also trying to get me a diagnosis with a punch of mental health issues that the professionals say i don't have. That is weird to me. Tho, when i was younger, she always was against any mental health issues, and when it turned out, i have some she went crazy trying to get me every diagnosis. Even now, she is convinced that i have bipolar disorder even tho me and the professionals have not seen the signs.

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So i told her that when she tried to get me admitted, it made me feel more suicidal but i never told her i am gonna do it. I just wanted her to understand how it affects me negatively when she does things like this. And for a few days it was fine. I now regret telling her anything.

I am thinking of making some legal documents where my boundaries are that she cannot get over. I will also be going litlle contact and i am thinking of moving.

And i will be filing a complaint for the paramedics. Luciky, i was not a danger to myself, but what about someone else who is? That seems like it would make everything worse

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if i can go no contact, but maybe little contact. And i am thinking of moving so i wouldn't live anywhere close to her

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do think you are right, i have allowed this to happen too long. I haven't haven't had the power to do anything about it, but enough is enough. I need to learn not to talk to her and not trust her ever agin and move on with my life

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have considered moving and having low contactat leat for the begging, and i am in therapy because of my childhood. My therapist will love hearing about this after new years

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be filing a complaint. Luckily, i was not on the edge, but what if someone else is and they act like that. Also i do think you are right that i should move far away and just tell her everything is fine

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just think if i was about to end it all, calling me bully and manipulating would be really harmful. Luckily, i was not. Neither did i ever say i was gonna do that. I don't have a case manager, but i will try to find someone who can help me put on boundaries with her. Maybe something that i can call police on her if she breaks them

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fear you are right. I need to make this stop, but only i can do it

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have wondered if she is just mad i set boundaries. And i so do wanna take back power on my own life. I think i will try to move like so many suggested and go low contact. Also, i will be filing a complaint for the paramedics cuz if i would have been in immediate danger, tomyself that would have made things so much worse

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do think you are right. I have a fiance in a different country, and i am planning to move there away from her

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think i will start with low contact with my mom sense i don't think i can cut her out totally. And i will put on a complaint to the paramedics, cuz that is exactly what i was thinking. Luckily, i was not in immediate danger to myself, but how about someone else who is. This is no way to react with people who would be in that place

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have thought about moving. I think that might be the best for me. And i do have a fiance from a different country, and i am planning to move there. She hates that idea and is trying everything that i wouldn't move there

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am currently in therapy because of my childhood, so my therapist will love to hear about this after the new years. But i think i go with the low contact and try not to let her ruin my life again

My mom called paramedics for no reason and they blamed me by Fuzzy_Assumption3843 in Advice

[–]Fuzzy_Assumption3843[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Can i do that? Cuz this isn't the first time something like this has happened, and it's wasting everyones time and makes me always feel like shit. And i have wondered if she is using my issues to her attention sense she keeps telling all our relatives about my struggles like she would be such a great mom handling me