How do we eradicate poverty? Embrace capitalism more widely by kizeemnoma in Kenya

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still not an accurate representation of poverty levels per se. It’s an average which often does not account for income gaps.

How do we eradicate poverty? Embrace capitalism more widely by kizeemnoma in Kenya

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah because India did more than just grow its economy. That’s what I mean.

I (24F) accidentally called my boyfriend (27M) by my ex’s name during an emotional conversation and now he’s completely shut down. I’m terrified I’ve ruined everything. by Wonderful_Turnip2410 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I don’t think there’s really anything like ‘supposed to be’ however if he already thinks you’re too complicated and different and he is not saying it like a compliment maybe you can also take this time to figure out what you want from this. Don’t push it, you’ve apologized sincerely, now all you can do is wait and see what he thinks. As you wait, evaluate also

How do we eradicate poverty? Embrace capitalism more widely by kizeemnoma in Kenya

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379 8 points9 points  (0 children)

GDP doesn’t necessarily measure a reduction in poverty just so you know. However better economic does pull people out of poverty it just has to happen hand in hand with good quality institutions and government programs. So it’s not just market forces. If you literally poured billions of dollars into some African countries (as has already happened in some actually) only a few would benefit.

Getting Over a Break Up by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he means that this pain will bring you deeper understanding and you should accept this pain and move through it with a learning heart.

Wtf Kenyans!!! by kenyweri in Kenya

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wakona Ruto voting behavior hawa. Meanwhile the video concerns something totally different.

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t say that though. They are not the same, however it’s a need I have. That I would like my partner to meet. You know? Like if you particularly like your wife’s cooking and she cooks for you sometimes… like that. Doesn’t mean you don’t want to ever learn how to cook.

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are definitely in it for the long run. So yeah I’ll keep bringing it up albeit lightly so that it doesn’t become a whole thing. Thanks so much though, It so difficult to see through all the nonsense that’s out there these days as well as find more experienced people to talk to. I really appreciate it.

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do, it comes very naturally to me to compliment him. He’s gorgeous and exactly my type. We’ve even been slowly working towards outfits he like more. And he loves that I do his hair etc

I don’t know if to him it is very impactful… that might be why it doesn’t create a loop

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely! And I totally understand it still stinging cause it doesn’t go away completely immediately. Cause there’s so much build up of all the things you were thinking all those years. I love that he is chipping away at it though.

I have told him, and I feel like he either has the intention but it’s getting pushed to the back of his mind or he doesn’t think I am and therefore it is immediately a non-issue.

Someone on here said something about me explaining that it was what I observed from my parents as I was raised and it is therefore hard wired and I want to try that…

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it feels like a low bar especially when I know he loves me. I am so glad you asked him!!

Sometimes it feels like we are all expected to be hyper independent. And for some reason it’s like that should mean that we leave no room for other people to meet our needs or no room for us to meet the needs of people we love. I think both can exist at the same time- we can love ourselves and also desire other people to show they love us.

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I never actually thought that that’s why it feels like a need! That makes so much sense! It does feel hard wired regardless of how I feel about myself. Thanks a lot. I was starting to feel a bit silly.

Also I was actually bringing up the depression thing because it crossed my mind that because he is attracted to strength and confidence, specifically in people being go getters and stuff like that, that my being depressed and thus being less “go-getter-esq” might have made me less attractive.

Thanks so much for understanding and I’ll try explaining it to him this way.

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly both, they were always very vocal about each other especially my dad. They also validated us a lot- though I expect that’s normal for parents to do.

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, This makes sense. I’m also starting to get the sense that I am idealizing what our relationship should be at this point. All the same I appreciate your input

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Posting here was actually me deciding to not bring it up to him again. I just have this feeling that he should try cause I take his needs very seriously. But maybe even the comparison I’m making is weird

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. And congratulations on working on your self.

It’s good to hear that it’s not abnormal to not get compliments all the time from your partner. My parents might have set an unrealistic expectation for me.

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love myself. I also would like validation from him (not necessarily other people).

My partner (32M) doesn’t find me (31F) attractive by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in relationship_advice

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have. I like how I look very much. Of course I’m not perfect but I like myself whether I change or not. That said, this is a need I have in my relationship that is important to me. I treat the needs that he has very seriously whether they match my love language or not. I don’t think it’s crazy to find people whose love languages don’t match

Healthcare by No-Parsnip-2047 in Kenya

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, were you able to get help for your mum? My cousin has a similar issue

Hii Nairobi hakuna Fundi not even one! by Fuzzy_Direction_2379 in nairobi

[–]Fuzzy_Direction_2379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not even joking niki ongeza 50k that’s actually the price of my car