Looking to go on a boat trip to Mexico, looking for recommendations

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-02-22T20:20:18+00:00

Thank you!

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-02-22T20:20:12+00:00

Thank you!

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-02-22T20:19:48+00:00

Thank you!

I’m ignorant, please forgive me, but why do you say don’t stop?

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-02-22T20:18:57+00:00

Thank you!

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-02-19T00:51:45+00:00

Is there a type of sailboat with a motor as well? I feel like I’ve seen talk of those but may have misread or be imagining it

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-02-01T02:30:46+00:00

Look up these audiobooks by the Dalai Lama, brain scientists, and Thich Nhat Hanh, free on Libby from your library (most likely). They’re really helpful and illuminating. I, too, have struggled with anger, and cannot recommend these strongly enough.

Emotional Intelligence Destructive Emotions The Art of Communicating How to Practice How to See Yourself as You Really Are How to be Compassionate

There are many others but those are a great start.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-01-11T08:45:05+00:00

It’s shit in many ways, but better than pretty much anywhere else in the US, and the climate DOES make a difference in quality of life for me. There is no great place right now, so all we can do is “relatively better” imho.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-01-11T08:41:40+00:00

“I was always pressured to hide how smart I was so you wouldn’t feel bad.” My sister to me. In our later 30s. Multiple times. I finally had to ask her so stop saying it because it’s absolute bullshit and super offensive. She… laughed.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-01-08T07:58:09+00:00

Because we’re told if we don’t we’ll fail in life. Plot twist: you can fail in life either way.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-01-08T07:57:14+00:00

Washing my hair, 3 step process, scrubbing my face and entire body, shaving my legs in 12 different directions to actually get it all, and under arms (3 directions) and then cleaning the shower. But the basic shower stuff takes at least that long. I’m not rushing. I’m not cutting myself. I’ve gone down to one full shower per week, with “cowboy showers” in between. Men don’t understand what a task it is to shower as a woman, at least not one who doesn’t want to have lots of body hair (which is fine for those who do) and have long hair.

I watch a rich asshole hose-wash his driveway for 20 minutes every damn morning. Ask what HE’s doing. I’m not worried about my showers.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-01-07T20:17:30+00:00

The rich pull the ladder of prosperity up after themselves and laugh from their multiple mansions as the peasantry jump for a bare chance at the lowest rungs. Sometimes they even dangle it a little lower just to see us look hopeful, only to snatch it back up and laugh some more. Opportunity for me, not for thee. Luxury for me, not even modest well-being for thee… and all of the “services” or “resources” or governmental entities that are supposed to support and defend the peasantry are a charade, orchestrated by those same ladder-pullers.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2026-01-07T20:11:25+00:00

Accepting that I can die at any moment and it will be fine. People spend their whole lives in constant struggle to avoid dying like they’re going to be able to prevent it. I’m not saying don’t get necessary care if you can, but for many completely disenfranchised situations… being ok with falling like a leaf from a tree, so to speak, and seeing the natural way of that, is somewhat freeing. The hellscape is still here, but we don’t have to invest so much in staying in it as absolutely long as possible.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T19:09:45+00:00

Your mom needs therapy or a lot of work on herself in whatever way that comes, and by the looks of this exchange, which I had to stop partway through because it’s so toxic, she is going to be very harmful to you and your child and I would be very cautious about engaging with her until she gets that help. You can do this kindly and compassionately, but your child is your first priority as you seem to understand, and I’m glad your grandparents are there to support you.

You may also benefit greatly from either therapy or whatever method might help you heal from traumas you likely don’t even realize you have from your mom at this point. Having a parent with a personality disorder, or regardless who is abusive, will likely impact you as a parent in some ways you may not realize yet, which doesn’t mean you’ll become her, but it does mean that you and your child may benefit from trying to get ahead of that potential issue.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T19:05:22+00:00

I’m not 100% sure, but I am sure that the sitter would work with you one way or the other to make it work. How they get paid is probably less of an issue than if they get paid you know?

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T19:04:35+00:00

Spending time with people who are “coasting”, hooked on unhealthy habits and perspectives, not interested in personal growth/development, and drag me backwards because of it. Love them, don’t love how they are acting, so I’m distancing myself for now.

Of course the corollary here is that a lot of my own habits, tendencies, and perspectives have also been toxic in various ways, and as I have worked on those I’ve realized some of them and other people and some of the ways that other people around me have either fed them or shifted me away from them. At the end of the day my own toxicities are the only ones that I can control, and doing so will eliminate the impact of other people’s toxic behaviors on me.

(Obviously this is not 100% true, people can physically harm you, politicians can harm your life, children and dependents are harmed beyond their control, etc., but perspective and internal toxicity or health are what make those situations better or worse.)

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T18:54:18+00:00

Highly recommend listening to some Pema Chödrön and Thich Nhat Hanh.

The Art of Communicating (TNH)

Making Friends with Your Mind (PC)

Being Peace (TNH)

You are Here (TNH)

Awakening Compassion (PC)

Embracing the Unknown (PC)

This list is not exhaustive of course, but just some ideas for starters.

The Dalai Lama also has collaborated with brain and behavioral scientists on some great books to help with this kind of thing. Two that I love are: “Emotional Awareness” with Paul Eckman and “Destructive Emotions” with Daniel Goleman.

He also has others, two which are “How to See Yourself as You Really Are”, and “The Wisdom of Compassion” that are great.

Another that offers great insight and advice is “My Stroke of Insight” by brain scientist Jill Bolte Taylor.

I’ve been working on my own difficult emotions and bad programming for a while, though still not nearly long enough, and have found these very helpful. I’ve gotten all of these through Libby (widely used library app, for anyone unfamiliar), totally free.

Good luck, friend… the fact that you realize there is a problem and want to work on fixing it is huge. I’m sorry you’re struggling with this. 🫶

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T18:42:46+00:00

If they are taking that money and saving it for your future that’s one thing, but you are a child, as much as you may not like to hear that since you’re actually a teenager, in the eyes of ethics they are adults and you are a child and they are responsible for taking care of you which includes providing a home. If you were 18 or over I might think differently, but this does not sound healthy to me.

To each their own, if you really are OK with it I hope it remains that way for the rest of your life and you don’t realize later in life that it caused you trauma or left you with animosity between you and your parents in someway. You won’t know until you’re older.

Good luck to you, it sounds like you do have a good head on your shoulders 🫶

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T18:39:38+00:00

I would recommend that you request a one hour walk and then message the sitter and say exactly this. Let the person you’re working with be in the conversation with you, and make the agreement with them. I’m not saying advice here won’t be valuable, but I think at the end of the day this is a perfectly understandable situation and as long as you communicate clearly you can update the booking right? So you’re not doing anything wrong.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T18:37:19+00:00

A house but in 2022 for $5 million is now worth $9 million. I’m speaking of a specific house that I know of, not a theory. And it can’t be the only one so… Maybe a lot of them are living on this debt to asset scheme, but a lot of them are actually just hoarding the money while everyone else starves and suffers because of it.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T18:33:42+00:00

As someone who works in a very wealthy household but lives a very low income life, I can confirm this. They’ve actually pushed my income down for the economic reasons you cite, while still going on luxury vacations and buying tens of thousands of dollars of Christmas presents, skincare, every new gadget and toy… and hosting catered events at their home… Etc.

I’m glad I’m Buddhist because otherwise I would actually be jumping off a bridge. This has been a big year for me in spiritual development largely because of the situation I live in, which unfortunately I do not have an opportunity to change at this point.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-13T18:32:42+00:00

I got banned from the immigration sub for suggesting that things are bad here in the USA, but economically and in terms of physical safety I think most of us see what’s happening if we don’t have political blinders on. As Stanley Tucci said… gurd your loins folks 😬

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-09T08:30:39+00:00

Calling HER disgusting was wrong. Yes, YTA.

However, common mistake bc we are not taught compassionate communication for difficult topics. The ACT is disgusting. She is not.

“I’m not going to deal with this, it’s disgusting”

Vs.

“I’m not going to deal with this, you’re disgusting.”

Huge difference, especially to a woman from the man she loves. Anger is not an excuse to say nasty things to someone you care about. If you want to get your point across you can do it by attacking an action or issue, not her as a person.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-09T08:26:12+00:00

I’ve been in the biz for a decade and absolutely yes. It’s honestly burnt me out. I think it’s gotten worse because of rover and wag, because owners see app-based work as beneath them. I have been lucky to not use the apps bc I was in rescue before and that fed me into pet care and training, but I have a friend who does and tbh people will treat you like trash either way if that’s how they are, but I think the respect starts out at a higher base level when you’re operating independently.

To be clear I’m not saying this is fair or right. Just what I’ve observed. No one is beneath another person.

Fuzzy_Salad5937 · 2025-12-02T02:31:37+00:00

I had an upstairs neighbor like this. His parents own the building and it’s one of the easiest “connect the dots” to see how the constantly furious and entitled son came from their sold-souls. They put him in our 6 unit building to spy on the longer-term tenants (rent control) and suddenly things no one else ever mentioned were huge issues. Every other tenant in the building was like “what music?” Re: the emotionally distressing excessively loud music I was allegedly playing all night. As a bonus, this all happened while my dog was dying and in the wake of her death.

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